I've only ever had female cats for some reason. All of the strays that I take in or have adopted have been little girls.
I do know people who have or have had male cats. A girl who lived across the hall had a boy kitty named Sylvester, and he was such a loving kitty. He loved to be picked up and he would wrap his front paws around your neck and hug you, hehe. He was very social and loving.
My brother had 2 male cats (separate occasions) and they too were very loving and affectionate.
Out of all of the girl kitties I've had, some have been exceptionally affectionate like my oldest cat Chynna, and others not so affectionate and downright aggressive and viscious like a former cat I had, Kiera, a DSH torti. She is the only cat I've even relinquished to the humane society
And I think after having read these boards that it was my fault entirely for her demeaner.
I had taken her to a vet I'd never been to before because it was near my home for her to be spayed and declawed (
). Back then I didn't know what it involved.
I think the vet I took her too at that time turned out to be quite mean and called me after the surgery to tell me that my cat was freaking out in the cage and that I should come and pick her up and take her home because she was a nuisance. He also told me at that time that he had tested her blood and that she showed as diabetic (she was 1 year old), and that it was a huge task and very expensive to look after a diabetic cat and that it would be more humane to put her to sleep. I was devestated but trusted his opinion as a professional.
I called my friend and cried on her shoulder. She was just as upset as I was as we took our cats in together. She kept her head though and called the emergency vet hospital here and talked to the head of the vet society or something. After she explained the situation he called me and told me that a cat of 1 year old is highly unlikely to be diabetic and asked if I had given direction to have the cat euthanized. I said I had. He hung up the phone and called the hospital to stop it. Turns out the vet had already done the euthanizing and had used way more than the required dose.
He resussitated my cat and I picked her up.
She was never the same.
She was viscious, like a wild animal, plus she was peeing all over the furniture and the bed repeatedly. I tried all kinds of things to get her to stop but after a month of her attacking me at every turn and peeing everywhere I just couldn't manage her and took her to the humane society.
I've never gotten over the guilt of what I put that poor kitty through
I know from the sounds of it that the vet and his staff were cruel and mean to her which was probably part of the reason for her aggression, declawing was another factor, but if she ended up with brain damage from the drug to kill her, I don't know.
Anyway, I don't really think that there is a huge difference between boy and girl kitties when it comes to affection. I think lots of it has to do with how they are socialized when they are young.