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post #31 of 41
Declawing is an extreme solution to a problem...and just because your cat doesn't SHOW any issues with it doesn't mean that the cat isn't in pain. Cats hide their pain for the most part and truthfully....given that there are many other solutions out there (and that there are plenty of already declawed cats available) I am very much against going to the most extreme solution first.

Declawing provides no health benefit to cats such as spaying/neutering.

Could you live without the first joint of your fingers?? Sure...if you had a choice, would you prefer to have your fingers intact?? I think the answer is a resounding yes.

post #32 of 41
That’s great that your dad is giving you a chance. Get yourself some scratching posts and hopefully that’s the end of it!

I’m new so I haven’t read any of the past declawing discussions. I imagine they’ve been heated. I have my priorities. Fortunately, DH has been supportive. The last time we moved and purchased all new furniture we bought mission style futons (sofa, love seats, double chairs, chairs, etc…the whole works) so we wouldn’t have problems with the legs and arms, and could change the covers when necessary. Yes, people are entitled to have nice things. It can be hard work…trimming nails, soft paws, training, training and more training. But there’s nothing I own that I wouldn’t be willing to pile in the yard and put a match to before I’d declaw my cats for my own convenience. That’s just me though. People have such varying opinions about the role of animals within their lives and families. No way you’ll ever get people to agree.

When I have to make a difficult decision for one of my cats, I sometimes ask myself if what I'm doing is my benefit or the cat. (ex...prolonging treatment to keep a terminally ill kitty going a while longer) I always try to do what's best for them whether it hurts me or not. Declawing is a procedure I just can't ever see as being a benefit to the cat, so I don't do it.
post #33 of 41
So, you're going off to college and your parent's bought you brand new furniture? Why? It's going to be in a college apartment. If you aren't pulling couches off the sidewalk with "FREE" signs on them, then you aren't living the college life. If they want to buy you new furniture, take the money and save it for when you have a real house and a nice place for furniture. Most college students move every couple of years, and some move every year. The great bonus if having cheap furniture is that you don't have to haul it with you every time you move. Don't like it that much? Don't want to carry it? Put it on the street with a FREE sign. Easy.

Resell the furniture. Use the money to buy smaller decorative items like pillows and a slipcover (for ugly couches). And buy softpaws.

And just a random bit of advice, be careful about the "do what we say or we won't pay for rent/car/tuition" thing. One of my friends had to live at home and commute an hour to school because of this kind of blackmail. She was cheated out of ever having a college life because of her parents' using finances as a weapon to control her life. It might be time for you to learn good negotiating techniques.
post #34 of 41
Originally Posted by bab-ush-niik
So, you're going off to college and your parent's bought you brand new furniture? Why? It's going to be in a college apartment. If you aren't pulling couches off the sidewalk with "FREE" signs on them, then you aren't living the college life.
lol like i said in my post, my furniture minus my bed, all came from the road side the first couple of years heck i was not even allowed to take MY desk to school with me, cause my mother and father where worried it would get a mark on it.

Anyway i hope that you can train the kitty,
good luck
post #35 of 41
How about protecting your furniture with a rug or something? My cats love sharpening their claws on the rugs. Dad hisses at them when they do it. Or you could tack a plastic sheet to the bottom of your couch for a while, that will discourage them because they can't get a grip.
Or pursuade your parents that a scratchy post will stop the cats clawing the furniture (probably not true, but worth a try...)
post #36 of 41
Originally Posted by coaster
Warning: gruesome pictures of a declaw surgery (don't click if you're squeamish) but maybe if they see that they'll change their minds.
Wow... you ain't kiddin! I got to the second picture and that was way more than enough for me. And I'm never squeamish about surgery-type photos.
post #37 of 41
Declawing? Please search for alternatives like you've been doing...
post #38 of 41
Originally Posted by TexbabyJ
ok wow those pics were bad. thanks for all your support everyone. I will try talking to them more and then I will lie if that doesn't work because y'all are right about this being a control thing. It seems like everytime I turn around my mom is threatening to cut me off because I did something she doesn't like. I have been looking into loans and other things and some of my friends who are more self-sufficient are going to help me see what loans i can get if my parents do indeed follow through for once.

Honey, I have been exactly where you are. My mom has some serious control issues and attaches all sort of conditions to their financial help.

I thin what you'll find is that they throw these conditions out left and right. Just smile, nod, act as respectfully as possible to them and their values and then...go out and do your thing. It's not like they send spies or anything. You get extra points if you can find a part-time job and cover whatever bills you're able to. THen you get more leverage.

And there's always the argument of "Ok, then I'll have to drop out and do x, y and z just to get by and I'll probably even have to MOVE BACK HOME!!!" That works every time

In all seriousness, if you act like an autonmous adult, you'll no doubt be treated like one. Tell them that you really do respect their opinion, you'll consider their well-meant advice and that you appreciate them and all they do for you. And leave it at that. Then, prove to them that a fully-armed cat can make a fantastic pet.
post #39 of 41
Excellent advice LionessRampant. That's how my mom taught me to treat my dad, too.

Except he really does send spies. Its kinda creepy. In high school, he would just come stand in the hallway and watch people. My friends would see him and come tell me. They all knew not to talk to him, but he'd go see my teachers and stuff, like during their lunch... He's even done it a couple times in college and it's like three hours away. Someone will just come up to me and say, "I saw your dad earlier" and he never called or came to see me or anything... weird.

And just to clarify this thread, as there has been confusion lately... TexBaby's parents have agreed to not force her to declaw the cat as it stands now, and she never wanted to in the first place. We don't need to convince her its wrong.
post #40 of 41
Zissou.... that IS creepy.....
post #41 of 41
I like the part about threatening to move back home....except I wouldn't want to live with my parents, no no no.
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