Hello all,
I've been reading your threads and excellent, thoughtful replies for a few months now, but I feel the need to step forward and get your opinions about my situation. I'll try to be relatively brief.
I have a small studio apartment in Virginia where I work (and nice house in Massachusetts, but that's another story). My wife and stepson have our grey tabby female (named "Kitty" -- she came to us from an elderly gentleman and that was her name, honest) and since I am alone much of the time I decided to get a cat for myself. Actually, he decided to get me, because Inky (again, the name he came with from the shelter) tagged my leg as I walked by and after I held him for a few minutes, he and I decided we were a good match. He was about 7 months old when I adopted him and I've had him since early April. Inky is a cream-colored tabby -- quite handsome and charming when he wants to be, which is most of the time.
When he is less than charming it's because he's biting me. I've owned a number of cats in my life so far and none have been this insistant about biting -- though I think that I am enabling this behavior to some degree. Inky doesn't go outdoors; even though my apartment complex is far away from traffic, there are simply too many hazards (which have been amply enumerated on this site). He doesn't seem to want to go out (no whining or meowing at the door), but he would go if I left the door open long enough. I pick him up when I come in the door and he nuzzles and purrs until I put him down -- this has become a ritual we both enjoy.
However, there are some predictible times when Inky wants to bite me. He wants to be picked up after I get our of the shower every morning and will purr and nuzzle until I start to put him down (I do have to go to work after all) at which point he will try to bite my arm or hand. If I react in any way, he gets more agressive. Another time will be when I'm playing with him with a toy on a wand (something like a cat dancer or da Bird) -- he will turn from playing to lunging for my arm. This morning, he came into the bathroom as I was getting into the shower and started biting my legs and feet. By the way, these bites hurt and often draw blood.
I have tried to follow the excellent guidelines on this site. I try not to pull my hand away (even though it hurts and bleeds). He can be distracted by a ball of yarn which he can bite and claw as much as he wants. If he's reached the point where nothing else will distract him, I say "no" sternly and put him in the bathroom -- the only other place in my apartment with a door -- for 5 - 10 minutes. When he comes out, he acts sorry and rubs against me.
I want to emphasize that he is otherwise an excellent cat and a good companion -- he gets me up at 5:40 AM, but that's to be expected. He often sleeps with me on the couch or on my bed and he has LOTS of toys, scratching posts, etc. to keep him busy.
But the biting incidents are increasing -- last night and this morning there were 4 separate incidents. I don't think that saying "no" and putting him in the bathroom is working. He doesn't seem to be connecting the "crime" with the "punishment". I really love Inky (as does my wife and stepson when they have visited), but I am losing sleep (and blood) over this and I would like to figure out how to change this behavior. Right now it's got me stumped.
With apologies again for the length of this thread...
Jeff
P.S., If I figure out to do it, I'll post a picture of Inky!
I've been reading your threads and excellent, thoughtful replies for a few months now, but I feel the need to step forward and get your opinions about my situation. I'll try to be relatively brief.
I have a small studio apartment in Virginia where I work (and nice house in Massachusetts, but that's another story). My wife and stepson have our grey tabby female (named "Kitty" -- she came to us from an elderly gentleman and that was her name, honest) and since I am alone much of the time I decided to get a cat for myself. Actually, he decided to get me, because Inky (again, the name he came with from the shelter) tagged my leg as I walked by and after I held him for a few minutes, he and I decided we were a good match. He was about 7 months old when I adopted him and I've had him since early April. Inky is a cream-colored tabby -- quite handsome and charming when he wants to be, which is most of the time.
When he is less than charming it's because he's biting me. I've owned a number of cats in my life so far and none have been this insistant about biting -- though I think that I am enabling this behavior to some degree. Inky doesn't go outdoors; even though my apartment complex is far away from traffic, there are simply too many hazards (which have been amply enumerated on this site). He doesn't seem to want to go out (no whining or meowing at the door), but he would go if I left the door open long enough. I pick him up when I come in the door and he nuzzles and purrs until I put him down -- this has become a ritual we both enjoy.
However, there are some predictible times when Inky wants to bite me. He wants to be picked up after I get our of the shower every morning and will purr and nuzzle until I start to put him down (I do have to go to work after all) at which point he will try to bite my arm or hand. If I react in any way, he gets more agressive. Another time will be when I'm playing with him with a toy on a wand (something like a cat dancer or da Bird) -- he will turn from playing to lunging for my arm. This morning, he came into the bathroom as I was getting into the shower and started biting my legs and feet. By the way, these bites hurt and often draw blood.
I have tried to follow the excellent guidelines on this site. I try not to pull my hand away (even though it hurts and bleeds). He can be distracted by a ball of yarn which he can bite and claw as much as he wants. If he's reached the point where nothing else will distract him, I say "no" sternly and put him in the bathroom -- the only other place in my apartment with a door -- for 5 - 10 minutes. When he comes out, he acts sorry and rubs against me.
I want to emphasize that he is otherwise an excellent cat and a good companion -- he gets me up at 5:40 AM, but that's to be expected. He often sleeps with me on the couch or on my bed and he has LOTS of toys, scratching posts, etc. to keep him busy.
But the biting incidents are increasing -- last night and this morning there were 4 separate incidents. I don't think that saying "no" and putting him in the bathroom is working. He doesn't seem to be connecting the "crime" with the "punishment". I really love Inky (as does my wife and stepson when they have visited), but I am losing sleep (and blood) over this and I would like to figure out how to change this behavior. Right now it's got me stumped.
With apologies again for the length of this thread...
Jeff
P.S., If I figure out to do it, I'll post a picture of Inky!