hi and thanks, so sorry about Patrick!
well i have joined the crf groups and the anemia groups and i think because i have decided to not go as far as many others plan to, i have been pretty much ignored - or urged to do more than i am comfortable with-
i have a vet who will do house calls but on top of the normal cost for a visit ($38) and whatever blood work needs to be done (usually costs just over $100) he charged an extra $75 to come to your house.
that would be too much for me to handle even on a monthly basis- my monthly income is only $603!!!
i was able to get her sponsored thru a charity- she got a $500 grant and now that its used up they closed the case.
i do not qualify for whats it called? care credit, or something like that- because my income is too low.
but its not even JUST the cost, no one who knows this cat as well as i do, ever thought she would accept sub Qs, so she has already made it much further than we expected.
she still will refuse fluids when she should be getting them twice a week and i have to wait a few days longer til she is so dehydrated she wont fight me.
this is a cat who gets so upset if she does not get what she wants, she will stop eating and drinking completely and hide. so whatever we do, has to be on her terms
she is afterall 19 yrs old- it would be different if she was younger.
she is already quite weak from the muscle wasting. she is steadily losing wt. (but slowly)
she sleeps almost all the time, only waking up long enough to eat, drink and use the litter box, pretty much
she still enjoys being brushed, she does not like being petted any more. maybe because she is so boney.
i have emailed her vet to see if he can give me some idea what to watch for to know that she is nearing the point where we have to stop because going any further without additional treatment would lead to her suffering.
so the sad thing is, we may have to err on the side of making the decision earlier rather than wait to see how she fares.
she is senile, sometimes cannot make it to the litter box on time (which is not a problem for me, her urine is so dilute its almost like water) i have covered the beds she sleeps on with extra blankets under the sheets the absorb any accidents before they can get to the mattress itself
i had read that cats are very upset about these accidents but truthfully she did not even seem to be aware that she had "wet the bed".
its almost a good thing that i do not have an endless supply of money because we all agreed that the decision on how far we would go is up to her.
it will be hard for me to accept, but i promised her i would not do things that she found intolerable.
she is already on transdermal meds (expensive also) because she is impossible to pill
her pepcid ac is a compounded chicken flavored liquid that she is not thrilled with but will accept once in awhile.
and i have to add, that my health needs to come into the equation at some point-
i have not been able to sleep for more than 2 hrs at a time for the past 3 yrs.
i am exhausted all the time
if she is not getting up to eat, she gets up and wants me to reassure her that she is not alone and to help her to the litterbox because she forgets where things are, esp when she first wakes up
i had a blind diabetic CRF boy two years ago, and people were horrified that i had me PTS when he was still able to eat, drink, use the litter box and walk around
but he was so senile that when he got up, he would walk in circles. his eyes had serious issues and would cause him pain. giving him daily fluids did not keep him hydrated in spite of his values not being too bad. his diabetes was never regulated, even with a three shot a day schedule.
so he was euthanized before many others might had done it. i thought i waited too long, his vet said i had chosen the right time
but i had a hard time finding any one else who supported my decision
i think that is the problem i am running into on these other boards, the decision to let your cat go BEFORE they reach the point of suffering, is not well accepted.
but i have to do what is right for her.
it sure would be nice to get some support though