Worried....

Ok, so I know you're all cat people so you'll understand. I got my first and only baby about a year ago... she has become like my kid (I am 24 and don't have any real kids)... Well I am having some serious money issues... I have a full time (decent paying) job and am in the process of a 6 week CNA course, so i can get a job doing that on the side... but still feel that even with a second job, I'll be able to get by, but not get ahead or save, or pay for back owed debt, etc. I recently moved back in to an apartment I was in about a year ago, and was SO happy. But it's almost $800/month plus cable, internet, then my car payment (which is way overdue), electricity, debt payment, insurance, etc...

Soooo my sister calls me today and says her and her husband (and she has a 10 and 9 year old) want this big house, that happens to have like an in-law place downstairs: bedroom, workout room, sitting area and full bathroom. She said she'd charge me like $300/month so it would help them with the mortgage and I could have a money break. I'd have to break my lease but I think it would be ok. She wouldnt care when I came in, etc... and I think it would work out (although i like to be very independent but i guess i can't do that cuz i just dont have enough money)...

BUT TO GET TO MY POINT... today i got all emotional because i thought of a basement and how it doesnt have many, if any, windows. My baby Shiraz loves to sit on the sills and look out the windows during the day... and my sills here are wide and she lays on them and watches the birds, etc. I want her to be happy because for her first 8 months she was couped up in a room because i had a roommate and she didnt get along with the other cat. and my sister has a little rat terrier that Shiraz would probably eat because she's not that great with dogs either... and I'd want her to stay downstairs because I wouldnt want the kids to accidently let her outside even if she could get along with the dog and be upstairs. What do you guys think? I know I have to think about myself... but I want to do what's good for her too... I'm afraid she'd be so depressed without these windows, she has 3 now to look out of and get fresh air from. What if there is a window but i can't open it? I dont know how basement windows work. I am sounding like a crazy person. Somebody smack me. But I need comfort

MEANWHILE, while my sister thinks they'll bid on the house, they havent even looked at it yet, i'm probably worrying for nothing... i kinda hope it works out for my sake, but then just worried about my little sweetheart... sorry it's so long, i'm a talker... just want a little feedback from you guys.

I honestly think you should go for it. You DO have to worry about yourself because if you dont then who is going to take care of your furrbaby?
Maybe there IS windows, and if they don't open I wouldn't worry about it. If there isn't then maybe your sis wouldn't mind when you went upstairs you could take her with you and back when you went back down.
She will adapt to the new lifestyle. It may take some work but she could also adapt to the dog. As far as the kids, they seem like they are old enough to understand if you explain it to them that they would be sad if thier puppy go out and ran away. Kids understand more then you think they do... sometimes more then they should
I hope everything works out for you though! :hug:

Originally Posted by DixieDarlin256

I honestly think you should go for it. You DO have to worry about yourself because if you dont then who is going to take care of your furrbaby?
Maybe there IS windows, and if they don't open I wouldn't worry about it. If there isn't then maybe your sis wouldn't mind when you went upstairs you could take her with you and back when you went back down.
She will adapt to the new lifestyle. It may take some work but she could also adapt to the dog. As far as the kids, they seem like they are old enough to understand if you explain it to them that they would be sad if thier puppy go out and ran away. Kids understand more then you think they do... sometimes more then they should

I hope everything works out for you though! :hug:

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That's what I think too.

Bring her with you, and you will both have a chance to adapt to a new home - there are different things you can try.

And remember that it's not necessarily forever if it isn't perfect.

thanks... sometimes i just act like a nutjob for this kitty! god help me if i ever have kids!!! i love the thought of my neice and nephew coming down and chillen with me and Shiraz... my nephew loves her and always asks to come see her... I'd get to see them more, and my sister would love having me there, and she cooks good too! I just get overwhelmed sometimes with anxiety, just thinking too much I guess. I will let you guys know what happens... and "aunt flow" just came to town if you know what i'm saying... so that's probably why i'm over-emotional about things right now, ha... sorry if that was TMI, i tend to share too much, ha.

Originally Posted by Shiraz21

"aunt flow" just came to town if you know what i'm saying... so that's probably why i'm over-emotional about things right now, ha... sorry if that was TMI, i tend to share too much, ha.

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You're a hoot! You might want to disguise it as 'aunt flo' though; it's just a bit more subtle!