How did you meet your significant other?

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Romance isn't dead yet...I'm a firm believer that love will find you when you aren't looking forward (as some of the others have said)

I met my now fiance Jeff 5 years ago. We worked at rival companies at the airport, that is until my boss bought the other company and we merged.

When I first met Jeff I thought he was an good looking guy, but I thought he was a bit of a stubborn pain in the butt!
plus he had a girlfriend.

About a year after working together we went to a staff Christmas party and spent the whole night talking, and I saw him in a different light, he wasn't stubborn just headstrong (like me) and very funny. That was also when I found out that he was newly single.

We had our first date a couple of months later and have been together ever since.
 

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Ok. No problem talking about this!

DH and I met after I had driven 5 hours to a wedding and 5 hrs back with a guy friend of mine. We got back super late and I was so tired I didn't even get out of my car. I droped the guy I went with off at the dorms on base and DH was out there taking out his trash (how romantic!). I remember he had on khakis, a white t-shirt (probably an undershirt, it was like 11pm) and this goofy (but cute on him) white and navy fishing/sailor something hat. I remember hearing 'that is the man you are going to marry' as I drove away. And then saying 'What!?! No!" and well, yes. I really met him a few weeks later, when he was dressed normal...and to borrow my friend's form of speach....found out he was hawt! That was in 2001. We were married in 2003!
 

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Originally Posted by MoochNNoodles

I remember hearing 'that is the man you are going to marry' as I drove away. And then saying 'What!?! No!" and well, yes. I really met him a few weeks later, when he was dressed normal...and to borrow my friend's form of speach....found out he was hawt! That was in 2001. We were married in 2003!
That is so cool.
 

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My fiancé and I met in a coffee shop near my college. I would always go there to study in the evenings and that evening I was sitting at their bar, which is lined with mirrors so you can see everyone behind you. I saw this guy with this GORGEOUS long dark hair. I mean, we're talking Pantene, shiny, glossy hair comercial hair. I was so impressed to see a guy with such beautiful, cared for hair!

Later on, I went to talk a friend who seated a little farther down the bar and he came up to me and said "I just wanted to tell you that I love your hair." (at that point I had an "edgy" bob cut that was light silver blue on top and a deep midnight blue through the bottom layers). I responded that I had been admiring his hair all evening as well.

After that, he walked off (turned out he left!) and apparently his friend "lost" his keys so he could come back and get my phone number. We've just been together ever since. He's really the perfect guy for me. He's so thoughtful and sweet. he's not like most other "dudes". He loves animals and he pushes me creatively. Because I'm with him, I've done things I would never do on my own and think thats so amazing.

As for meeting someone, I'm a firm believer of STOP LOOKING! Really, just enjoy being yourself and spending time with friends. I don't know why, but it seems like everyone I know has met someone when they weren't out looking for anyone.

~Julia
 

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Originally Posted by MoochNNoodles

Ok. No problem talking about this!

DH and I met after I had driven 5 hours to a wedding and 5 hrs back with a guy friend of mine. We got back super late and I was so tired I didn't even get out of my car. I droped the guy I went with off at the dorms on base and DH was out there taking out his trash (how romantic!). I remember he had on khakis, a white t-shirt (probably an undershirt, it was like 11pm) and this goofy (but cute on him) white and navy fishing/sailor something hat. I remember hearing 'that is the man you are going to marry' as I drove away. And then saying 'What!?! No!" and well, yes. I really met him a few weeks later, when he was dressed normal...and to borrow my friend's form of speach....found out he was hawt! That was in 2001. We were married in 2003!
I should really stop reading posts when I'm tired and not wearing my reading glasses... At first I thought you said you saw the guy as he was talking to his trash


Ok, I'm going to bed now!


I don't have any romantic story to share. I'm also in the "28 years old and single" group.
 

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lol. wow some weird meeting ways on here. I'm 22 and have been with Troy for 4 years and troy is 24. Before i dated Troy i dated his brother for 1-2yrs. I was 15 when i met the "family" i was 16 when i dated Nick and around 18 when i started dating Troy.

We met when me, nick, troy, and troys girlfriend wen't on a double date. We were at the movies and sat in this order Nick, Me, troy, Troy's girlfriend so in between my boyfriend and his brother i felt like i was over welmed don't ask why lol. Well a month after Troy broke up with his girlfriend and over the phone he admited he liked me as more than just a friend.

I told nick and nick told him to go where the sun don't shine, a few months later i relized that i was only dating Nick to be around Troy. So me and Nick broke up because not only did i want Troy but my best friend for 6 yrs said she seen Nick with another girl and there were not acting like "just" friends.

So i started dating Troy now 4yrs and its going good, 1yr after me and troy being toghther he purposed and i turned it down we broke up for 2wks and started again. Then 2yrs later he purposed again (last year) and i accepted so i'm now engaged. We live in a somewhat country town and have several miniature horses, 3 cats, 2 dogs, and 3 birds. lol
 
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Thanks guys! There are some really nice stories


I am not even currently looking because I have given up...but its nice to know he may still be out there!

Unfortunately I come with 2 deal breakers...

1. My cats (I have not met to many guys who like cats! They all think dogs are more manly or something!)

2. I DO NOT want kids...that is something that I will not change my mind on with Mr. right.

So I have to find a cat lover who does not want kids...Hmmmm That is a tall order to fill!
 
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Originally Posted by menagerie mama

The one I am currently seeing for the last 2 weeks, I met on myspace.
Yeah...I have been on myspace but had some bad experiences with online dating. I seem to find all the creeps! I know alot of people who met online and are married or engaged...but so far has not been positive for me.
 

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I have had some bad experiences too but I have heard lots of good stories, especially from people on this site about meeting their s/o online.
 

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Met my DH at work. I was his supervisor
I remember the first day he was there I seen the HR manager showing him around the plant. I was talking to 2 of the machine operators and literally told them to move when he walked by
so I could get a better look. I fell in love with his blue eyes immediatly
.After his training we put him on 3rd shift and all I saw was his paperwork for 3 months. Always thought about him when I got his runsheets and wondered what he was doing.
He ended up going to my mom (she was supervisor in another dept) and giving her his phone number saying I was all he thought about and he wanted to see if I would be interested in a date.
We ended up going out on Valentines Day and we have been together since.
 

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My gosh! These stores are all so cute I'm geflempt


Chalk another one up for Myspace.com

A little over two years ago I moved to Florida to take a job. I didn't know anyone here... heck, I had never even heard of this town before. So I started hanging out on online dating sites and myspace and things just to see if I could meet *anyone* here with similar interests. Just, you know, a couple of people to grab a beer with or something so I wasn't sitting home alone all the time.

So one day, while browsing people in my area, I found this guy who lived in the next town and, well I think Julia said it best when she said

I saw this guy with this GORGEOUS long dark hair. I mean, we're talking Pantene, shiny, glossy hair comercial hair. I was so impressed to see a guy with such beautiful, cared for hair!
Well, except his was a dirty blonde... but she hit the nail on the head!
And I'm such a sucker for guys with long hair...and his was probably about midback length.

Anyway... I started looking into his music and movie tastes and thought "hmm he might be cool to hang out with", so I emailed him. The entire email was two words: "Nice hair"

Well we ended up chatting on AIM about prog rock and comedians and weird 80s movies and things. Met at Barnes & Noble for coffee the next day and we've been inseperable ever since. In exactly one week from today it will be two years. We just bought a house together and have a bunch of furkids. He was a cat person when I first met him, but after meeting Karma and Buddha he became a dog person too
We're not married, but at the "might as well be" stage. His parents are mom and dad to me. His sister refers to me as her SIL. Sort of married without having gotten around to that whole pesky wedding thing
 

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Wanna hear my story? Jerry and I had both started a new job at the same time in a factory. There was this horrible and (ugly!) guy who wouldn't quit harrassing me. This went on for a couple weeks and the bosses wouldn't do anything about it. Needless to say I was pretty frustrated. I sat on this picnic table everyday. Me and a few of the guys would shoot the breeze. One day this really cute guy started sitting with us. he was older than me and, I couldn't help but be inticed by him. I had an old car I was gonna sell for 300$$. But, he needed a car and so I told him he could have it for 150. Don't ask me why. That was on a Wednesday. We planned on him coming to look at it Saturday. But, he needed a ride. So, I picked him up on that Thursday, our then buddy Roger said "I think he likes you ."That night when we got off work I asked him if he'd "pretend" to be my boyfriend to get that guy off my back. He said ok. "(I thought it was clever) Saturday came and I went and picked him up. He came looked at my car, and we clicked instantly. After we got his car home we drank a 12 pack of bud and talked for hours.I asked my mom to watch my girls and went back to his house. I kidnapped him and went home. I looked at my mom and said "can I keep him please?" he hasn't been back since. They say you know when you will meet the one, and I did. No thinking about it for me. It changed my life, and my daughters. It's like the Brad Paisley song says We went from something is missing, to being a family.
 

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How I meet my bf, Chris, is when I gave up totally on dating. Two years before I was engaged and ended it, got tired of dating a verbally abusive momma boy. So I was done with relationships.

But through hearing how Chris treated my best friend Brat, when her and her bf got into spat, it reminded me that, that was the kinda guy that I wanted in my life. But I reminded myself I was done with relationships.

The day that I found out my parents were splitting, I went over to Brats to cry, shout, and scream. Later after I cooled we got talking about relationships and I meantioned how I was interested in Chris. Well, Brats boyfriend came over and gave me Chris's number, but i wasn't going to call because I am/was shy and was use to rejection. So Brat grabbed my phone and dialed his number and I grabbed the phone back and hung it up. Finally her bf called him and asked him if he was looking for a gf. Well, Brats bf handed me the phone and we ended up talking for an hour and set up to meet between college classes at the mall.

The day we meet at the mall was like a dream come true. OH YEAH!!! we knew each other in high school too, but he was one of those guys that had pop bottle classes, tall and lanky. But at the mall, I saw a side to him that made me see him in a whole new light. After the mall I was walking on cloud nine.

We ended up talking everyday on the phone and he kept asking me if I would date him, I said no not till I got to know him better, and that I wasn't ready to date. But he stuck around and waited it out.

We finally went on a double date with Brat and her bf, and that night well him sitting on the couch and me laying along his legs, he asked me to be his gf. I said yes.

I found a few months later, that he had, had a crush on me all through high school and wanted to date me back than. Thank god he didn't, because I was messed up.

This Dec 4, will be two years of dating, and not one single fight, not one break up or break from the relationship. The amazing thing is that I get along with his family and he gets along with my family, minus my mother (that's a different sad story.)

And when we started to date we were up front about everything. From kids to how the money should be bugeted.

We love each other, and NEVER EVER thought we would date again, we had both given up on relationships. But since dating it has been a dream come true. We hope to be engaged this year and married next year, and the year after that start trying to have kids.

We talk everyday on phone, he even calls to say I love you, just to say it or texts it. He LOVES my cats, minus Evil One.

So, believe me if love found me , it will find you. Just give up and wait for it to crash into you.
 

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lol can i blame it on being bored?

couple of day before xmas i was working a ton over time, and was bored silly. SOOOO i started searching for people on yahoo in places that i had never been before. I said hi to a person, turned out to be young women(itta) just out of college and working for a web company. Well we kept talking, At the time i had a gf of 4 years.
several months later thanks to her family pressure we broke up. Well i kept talking to itta more to keep us both busy at work when we had time.

After 3 years of internet chat on yahoo
i noticed that she would get upset and go away for a day or 2 if i told her about a date or something. well i was planning on taking a trip to china to see the great wall(lol i had lived in hong kong for 3 years and was never able to go see it) Well itta said that she thought it was time we saw each other face to face, and if i did not come she did not think she would be able to keep talking to me(yes i gave in to blackmail) SO i found myself on a plane out of hong kong on the wy to indonesia to meet someone that at the time i did not know if they even spoke english(no i had never spoken to her on the phone). The only think that i knew about about indo was there was a temple there i would like to see, and that according to US news they did not like americans.

Well, my 3 weeks vaction(only planned on staying 1) turned into 5 month stay.
long first date?

we got married a year later in thailand, but the marriage is not legal in her country(no mixed marraiges allowed) , and US said we did the paper work wrong so The US also does not see us as being married. We plan on getting married here in ohio next month.

hmm if we count chat time, 8 years, 4 now in person 3 married i think, but heck i am a guy i dont keep track of that stuff,
 

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Unknown to me my friend gave my yahoo id to Gil, someone she's known for 6 years. I was furious with her when he popped up to say hello because i'm careful who i give my id to.

I've forgave her now though because it's the best thing she's ever done and Gil and i have been together now for over 8 months
 

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I can just so immagine susan being angry at her friend! Can you?


Anyway, the guy that ive been seeing for the past week i met off ICQ
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I met Lee because he was friends with my ex. We would hang out all the time whenever we would go out to eat or to a friends house to play pool. When I found out my ex was cheating on me he was really the one I cried to. One thing let to another and here we are 3 1/2 years later, we have built a wonderful home together and are getting ready to get engaged (hopefully) and talking about being a family together.

It will all work out for you! Love will show up in an unexpected place!!
 

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I echo the sentiment that love will find you when you're not looking!

I met my hubby in Scotland when I'd just finished at a really difficult job and I'd given myself a couple of weeks holiday. On the Isle of Skye I was hanging out at a hostel when this "loud American tourist" came in and started chatting to everyone while I was trying to watch Star Trek. How rude! Anyways, we got to talking and talking. I found out he was actually Canadian and a very sweet man. He had a little car he was travelling round Scotland in, so I hitched a ride and never looked back!
 
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