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post #1 of 15
Thread Starter 
So, Ken is moving out soon, and I am getting increasingly sad about it.I just can't imagine how lonely I'll be without him around. I only have like one girlfriend here in London, and she is married and always busy so I'm worried I'm going to just be sad and lonely all the time.

Can you guys reassure me that I am doing the right thing?? I just need to here it from someone other than myself. (For those that don't know, we broke up due to lack of connection "romantically", among other things.)

I am so worried about the loneliness.
post #2 of 15
I know i have a new partner now, but trust me when i say you will survive!!!

Honestly you will. If you have one good friend to talk to then you have 5 of them. It'll be different, but you'll soon get into a routine i promise you and always remember that were all here as well, and not forgetting Trout
I just had Rosie when i split with my ex, and she made it a pleasure to come home on the dark, cold winter nights that i don't know where i would have been without her
post #3 of 15
You will be fine. It will be hard at first but make sure you go out. Have a good time. Enjoy the single life!! And remember if you ever need us, we are here for you!!
post #4 of 15
It won't be easy at first. To be honest, it might be the toughest few weeks or so to get through. You will start to make adjustmentsin your life and begin to enjoy yourself again. Trust me A couple of months from now you won't be giving a second thought to the decision you have made. You will know it was the best thing for the both of you
post #5 of 15
You have every right to be nervous about's a new chapter in your life. It will be very tough for the first couple of weeks and then you will start to adjust.

and always remember, I'm in town quite often and you have my number!
post #6 of 15
I know it seems a little scary to be taking such a step in life, but if you don't feel he is "the one" for you & for the future you want, then moving on IS the right step. You are incredibly brave to take this step, and I admire you for it. There were times in my life I should've taken that step, but instead I didn't and things got progressivly worse. There will be a period of adjustment for you... all things take time. I think you should take this opportunity to do something for you. That you love to do... either volunteer, or take a class like dancing or pottery, or join a book club if you love to read. You can meet new people, make new friends, and get outta the house while your going through this period of adjustment. I broke up with my HS/college BF and should've done it months earlier, but just felt the need to "hang on" to the relationship... by the time it was finally over we weren't even speaking, I had a period of 2 months dating, and "was NOT looking for anything serious", and I found someone who was not serious at all, and we were not each other's BF/GF for months, and then 1 yr later he proposed, 2 yrs later we were married! You are doing the right thing for you, and it will hurt a little, and you will feel a little lonely, but it will all work out in the end. And in the meantime, we are all here for you at TCS if you need us....
post #7 of 15
It'll be tough, but like Susan said, you have Trout! When I split with my ex I luckily had a friend that liked to go out, and I was really living the party lifestyle, but it was effecting my job and my relationship with my family. I was living on my own for the first time EVER, but very quickly I grew to love it, with all my kitties I was never "alone" either I would take Heather's suggestions, volunteer, take a class, meet some new people. It will be tough in the beginning, but one thing I kept telling myself after I broke up with my ex: I'd rather be a little lonely, than with some one and miserable.
post #8 of 15
Originally Posted by katiemae1277
I kept telling myself after I broke up with my ex: I'd rather be a little lonely, than with some one and miserable.
I couldn't agree more!!
post #9 of 15
Everyone is right.......we've all been there. You will survive just like we did......just try to keep yourself are doing a brave thing and we commend you!! We're all here if you get lonely!
post #10 of 15
I have nothing to add that hasn't already been said. Yes, you will be lonely and, like Tanya said, this may be some of the toughest weeks ever for you. Treat a breakup like any other major loss- you'll go throught the stages of grief such as denial, anger, sadness, and, eventually, acceptance.
Trust me, Trout will do his job as a companion animal and be your companion during this time. Sure, it's not the same as human companionship, but is there anyone (or anything) you'd rather snuggle up to right now?
post #11 of 15
Thread Starter 
Thanks for all the kind words. I would be lost without you guys
post #12 of 15
I think it will be hard the first few weeks, (i was totally lost when my ex left me) but then i started to put my self together again and absolutely love my quiet times, you will make new friends and realise what a ball youre having
post #13 of 15
Originally Posted by Trouts mom
Thanks for all the kind words. I would be lost without you guys
post #14 of 15
I would look at this as an opportunity to get to know yourself better. You'll find that you have more time to get to know new people, both male and female, and make more friends. I would look forward to this new step in your life. Look at each new day as a new adventure. Pretty soon, you'll be wondering why you were so worried about things. There is nothing like just spending time with yourself, and really finding out what a great friend you can be to you.

I am alone now, and I can honestly say, that I look forward to coming home every day to just my kitties.
post #15 of 15
We are in almost exactly the same situation... I live with my ex, and we're both moving to different places in 19 days.

I won't know a single person in the place I'm moving to.

So if you need to talk to anyone, I can commiserate and listen.
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