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post #1 of 27
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A friend was over this evening, with his 3 year old daughter. He was using the phone, facing away from me.. my mum was sitting on a chair infront of the window, facing me.. and I was here at the computer, minding my own business.
All of a sudden, I felt 3 quick sharp pains in my left lower sholder.. then about half a dozen more.
I sat foward and yelled 'ow', and my mum must have noticed as she reached forward and slapped the girls hand. Chad, my friend, picked up what she had in her hand.. and I saw that it was one of those stapler removers.. So I run as fast as I could to the bathroom to check out my poor back.
Thankfully, it didn't cut deep enough to require stitches.. but I wouldn't doubt if it left a scar.. it still burns.. 3 hours later.
Her dad gave her a few spanks on the butt and told her to apologize to me.

How could she not know, that a thing with fanglike objects wasn't going to hurt someone? And especially since she kept going after I yelled. I think some kids get a kick out of hurting people. Little demon kid. Last time I give her ice cream.
post #2 of 27
tell me about it.
post #3 of 27
Ouch!
I have had to take my staple remover away from my kids a couple times.. finally threw it out. They would walk around making chomping noises like it was an alligator and I was scared someone would get hurt.
I know have one that you hold in your hand and with your index finger you slide it under the staple and push.. no sharp edges and kids have no interest in it.
post #4 of 27
lol i use to babysit when i was about 17 or so a few years ago and this girl brought this 4yr.old over everyday 10am-3:30pm until her dad picked her up i sware that child was on something.

She could run around for hours and not brake a sweat and of course you had snack time, potty time, play time, nap time. I was out watching my dogs in the back yard of a sudden i hear a bang.

I jumped about 50ft in the air and walked over she climbed up my big screen tv and knocked over the dvd player. Now come on you can't say thats and accident lol she was climbing the tv for god sakes. Every since i hate kids! They just brake everything GRR its bad enough i got dogs, cats and a boyfriend...
post #5 of 27
A lady brought a 3 year old demon child to the salon yesterday while she got her nails done. They wanted me to watch him! I don't like kids, and this brat didn't improve my opinion. He was running around wild, and no one was doing anything about it. We had put the tv on cartoons for him, and he had been sitting quietly for a few minutes then he sneaked off and started running around. I went over to him, stuck my hand out, and he stopped dead in his tracks. I told him he was going to sit down, and he acted like he wanted to say no, then I said "now" under my breath, and he started walking quietly toward his mom. He tried to jump onm my massage chair, and I told him I would spank him right ther in front of everybody if he touched it. He decided he should sit down and shut up.
post #6 of 27
Okay I know I will get it for this but this is not the kids fault its the parents fault for not teaching their kids manners. I am sorry but at three and four the kids are just modeling what their parents let them get away with. If you make your kids mind from the start then you don't have to go back and reteach them manners later. I know the kids are to blame too but if their parents teach them to mind their manners and not bother other peoples property and to be quiet and respectful in public or in another persons house then they will. We were taught that you minded at home but when out somewhere's else then we walked the line and whatever trouble we got into outside of home would be doubled at home. And I know some people don't believe in spanking but I was spanked and I turned out into a responsible adult. Where as my sister wasn't spanked because she had a heart murmor and the doctor told dad not to upset her. And my sister spent a good part of her adult life on drugs and in jail so there are prime examples of what happens when you do and don't make your kids mind. So the little girls daddy should have been watching her in the first place and she should have been taught to sit and play with her own toys when at someone elses house.
post #7 of 27
Oh and forgot to say in my little rant (I hate when parents let their kids or pets run wild it always sets me into a rant) I hope your shoulder feels better maybe could get your mom to put some salve of some kind on it although not sure what but maybe something with aloe to take the burn out.
post #8 of 27
It seems like more kids have ADD these days!
post #9 of 27
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Originally Posted by fwan
It seems like more kids have ADD these days!
I have ADD - it was only diagnosed this year (I'll be 27 in September) and I never did anything like this as a child.

I don't have ADHD - which is probably what you were thinking of Fwan - but that's still not much of an excuse, because it can be managed. Also, while I agree that incidence does appear to be rising, there is a difference between AD(H)D and poor parenting.

Asking your manicurist to watch your kids is not a symptom of AD(H)D, it's a symptom of poor parenting.

Allowing parents to use ADHD as an excuse isn't helpful - ADHD is a serious condition, which requires management, not indulgence. Further, I really think that there is a general growth in acceptance of parental irresponsibility as well as child misbehaviour in public.

One example: a friend of BF's was cancelling his attendence at their semi-regular poker night. His explaination? "I have to babysit my kids." No, when they're YOUR KIDS, it's not babysitting, it's PARENTING. Not that it would have made it better, but in case you are wondering, he and his wife are together, and he lives with his kids.
post #10 of 27
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Originally Posted by fwan
It seems like more kids have ADD these days!
I don't think more kids have ADD or ADHD. Their parents just feed them too much sugar, let them stay inside and play video games instead of playing outside. The ADHD epidemic is simple laziness on most parents parts. Those kids that do actually have the disorder, thrive once treated. Those whose parents and pediatricians use Ritalin to control bad behavior are miserable on their meds. Sorry, I had to rant.
post #11 of 27
Actually i never thought that sugar would make kids go crazy, i was fairly quiet but there for i never ate sweets.

My bad sorry guys!
post #12 of 27
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Originally Posted by Tavia'smom
Okay I know I will get it for this but this is not the kids fault its the parents fault for not teaching their kids manners. I am sorry but at three and four the kids are just modeling what their parents let them get away with. If you make your kids mind from the start then you don't have to go back and reteach them manners later. I know the kids are to blame too but if their parents teach them to mind their manners and not bother other peoples property and to be quiet and respectful in public or in another persons house then they will. We were taught that you minded at home but when out somewhere's else then we walked the line and whatever trouble we got into outside of home would be doubled at home. And I know some people don't believe in spanking but I was spanked and I turned out into a responsible adult. Where as my sister wasn't spanked because she had a heart murmor and the doctor told dad not to upset her. And my sister spent a good part of her adult life on drugs and in jail so there are prime examples of what happens when you do and don't make your kids mind. So the little girls daddy should have been watching her in the first place and she should have been taught to sit and play with her own toys when at someone elses house.
Yes. My thoughts exzactly. Minus the spanking stuff. I was only spanked once, and never wanted that to happen again.
But yes, what she said.
And SHEESH guys...I sure hope people dont talk about my kid on a forum somewhere. Kind of harsh. Specially scince she's only 2.
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I am sorry but at three and four the kids are just modeling what their parents let them get away with.
Exzactly. If that kid would have been 7 or older, I can see how they would KNOW that was wrong. But at 3, it's hard for them to know what's right and wrong, unless taught better.
post #13 of 27
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Originally Posted by fwan
Actually i never thought that sugar would make kids go crazy, i was fairly quiet but there for i never ate sweets.

My bad sorry guys!
You're ok! This site is great for eduction - on all topics, it seems.
post #14 of 27
shes 3 shes just a baby im sure she didn't do it on purpose.
post #15 of 27
Trust me...I work with 3 year olds(21 of them to be exact) and they do some stuff like that and think it is HILARIOUS. There is no excuse for that little girl to purposly hurt someone. I'm glad your okay though
post #16 of 27
I am 26 and have had adhd all my life. But, when they first "discovered" the source of my energy there wasn't medicine. It runs in my family, and my youngest step-daughter is on medicine for it. Honestly I can't tell a difference when she takes her medicine or not. And, I am a believer in spankings, 3 or not I would have. My mom never spanked me but, by george my Granny would stripe my legs if i done something like that.
post #17 of 27
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Originally Posted by Krazycatlover
shes 3 shes just a baby im sure she didn't do it on purpose.
Oh, I know she probably didn't mean to hurt me.. but she did mean to put it up against my skin and pinch it a few times. Otehrwise she wouldn't have done it.

And yes, I know it's the parents fault. She just got back from a few days with her mom, and she always changes drastically after being there.. like she lets her get away with murder or whatever.
post #18 of 27
ok just another thought. Kids learn by trying cause and effect. At 3 years old they really dont understand that its hurts you.
They know that they get hurt but they dont know someone else feels pain also.
It may seem like they are trying to hurt you but really they are learning what others reactions are. If i do this what happens.
I dont believe any 3 year old has it in them to be out right mean or out to get anyone or likes to cause pain they are just learning.
It is the parents responsibilty though to explain and teach them though.
post #19 of 27
It is obvious that the little girl wanted some attention and wasn't getting it, in fact she was being ignored. what better way in childs mind to get attention than to stab someone? Perhaps she had tried in more conventional ways to get some before that, but everyone ignored her then too? Don't get me wrong, I do not like obnoxious kids, or most kids because they do need, and are entitled to a lot of (good) attention in those years. Thats what makes them considerate adults.
post #20 of 27
Taviasmom, you are absolutely right, and no one should be offended by what you posted. Of course it is mostly the parent's fault when kids act like little hellions, but it does not make it any easier to tolerate. I shudder to think how they act at home.
I know a lot of kids have legitimate medical problems like ADD, ADHD, and should be treated for them before they can be expected to behave, but it seems that in as many cases, it is simply an excuse for poor parenting. I know several people that say their kids have ADD, but have never actually been told so by a doctor. THEY decided that must be the reason their kids are such brats, because they think (wrongly) they are just wonderful parents, so it must be the kids. Very sad.
post #21 of 27
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Originally Posted by krazy kat2
Taviasmom, you are absolutely right, and no one should be offended by what you posted. Of course it is mostly the parent's fault when kids act like little hellions, but it does not make it any easier to tolerate. I shudder to think how they act at home.
I know a lot of kids have legitimate medical problems like ADD, ADHD, and should be treated for them before they can be expected to behave, but it seems that in as many cases, it is simply an excuse for poor parenting. I know several people that say their kids have ADD, but have never actually been told so by a doctor. THEY decided that must be the reason their kids are such brats, because they think (wrongly) they are just wonderful parents, so it must be the kids. Very sad.
That's been my experience as well.

Those are the same parents whose fav line - one of my pet peeves - is "when you have kids you'll understand" - no, you mean "when you have kids you'll be just as lazy as I am and will want to join the communal guilt allievating society that I'm a member of".
post #22 of 27
Those are the same parents who say I don't know what happened when their kid does something serious in later years and goes to jail or worse. My ex husbands family was like that with their kids. And like his aunt had two boys 12 and 7 and they were so bad that the social worker told her that they needed a belt but it was the parents fault the mom wouldn't even cook them dinner she just let them find what they could and she cooked dinner for the adults but the kids just grabbed whatever mostly candy and cereal and those same kids will be in prison she even said so. She said she dreads when they get old enough to do some damage cause they will be in prison. Well why not do something about it NOW instead of after he goes. And my ex mother inlaw was the same she had custody of my stepson and he was 4 well he does this thing at dinner of I don't like this every day so she makes seperate meals for him of chicken nuggets and hot dogs. And one day he wanted me to jump on the trampoline with him and I told him no I don't want to and he had a toy and he said I will throw this if you don't and I said yeah and you will stand in the corner too and she said well he doesn't mean any harm. And his grandpa said he can't act like that and she said well she should go jump with him. And I said I'm sorry but since when are four year olds in charge of adults. And I guess its worse then because since then her husband has died so there is noone there to set limits and she has a 15 year old son who by 13 was cussing her out over not getting a haircut and if I at 25 cussed my parents I would be missing some teeth. I just thing the world as a whole is getting lazier by the minute. And that's whats wrong with our children parents who let the tv watch them instead of interacting with them and teaching them how to conduct theirselves
post #23 of 27
I have a three year old and a 16 month old. I am proud to say that when people spend time with my kids they always tell me how well behaved they are. Of course, the baby only knows what "No!" is. I've spanked my 3-year old one time. She got away from me at the airport and ran through security. (IMO, a spanking is alot easier than being arrested as a terrorist at 2 years old. ) We are strict. She knows the consequences of most of her actions. Our discipline style is postive reinforcement. She knows that if she picks up her toys after being asked once, then she will get a dime for her piggy bank. She know if he goes to the potty and doesn't have an accident all day, she gets a stamp on her potty chart and when its filled, a trip to Chuck E. Cheese. She knows when she listens to the first time or does something nice for her sister, she gets a flower for her pot. When she doesn't listen, she loses a flower. She counts her flowers daily knowing that when she gets 10 flowers she gets a special treat. Fits yield a 3 minute time out.

I realize there are some 3 year olds who may not quite have the grasp of their actions/consequences, but it is up to the parents to give them opportunites to learn right from wrong. As much as I love Dora the Explorer, she is not teaching my child valuable social skills. That's up to me and my husband!
post #24 of 27
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Originally Posted by Tavia'smom
Those are the same parents who say I don't know what happened when their kid does something serious in later years and goes to jail or worse.
I know. All I can say is responsibility is important, whether it's pets or kids or yourself.
post #25 of 27
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Originally Posted by AnnasMom
it is up to the parents to give them opportunites to learn right from wrong. As much as I love Dora the Explorer, she is not teaching my child valuable social skills. That's up to me and my husband!
I worry that the lazy parents (and generally, adults) are breeding faster than the responsible ones, though.
post #26 of 27
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Originally Posted by Satai
I worry that the lazy parents (and generally, adults) are breeding faster than the responsible ones, though.
i would have to agree with that one.

i worked in a mall game room right after i got out of high school. I used to see a lot
parents come in give there kid a couple of dollars , tell them to stay in the game room until they got done shopping , i got asked alot to watch someone kids. then they would get sooo mad at me when i would tell them sorry my job is not to watch your kids, and once there money was gone the kid would need to leave the store.

once i found a little 9 year girl hiding under a pinball machine, after i closed. I called the police, The little girl was able to give them her phone number, the mother came back to get her, turns out the 9 year old had been hiding under the machines for 4 hour!!!!!!! and the mother never noticed she was gone...worse part was the mother had another baby on the way
post #27 of 27
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Originally Posted by theimp98
i would have to agree with that one.

once i found a little 9 year girl hiding under a pinball machine, after i closed. I called the police, The little girl was able to give them her phone number, the mother came back to get her, turns out the 9 year old had been hiding under the machines for 4 hour!!!!!!! and the mother never noticed she was gone...worse part was the mother had another baby on the way
I would have had to of slapped that poor childs mom cause you know that girl had to be scared. And I think the police should have had a long talk with her about all the perverts in the world and how a 9 year old by herself is not a good idea. And then I would have had her head examined. Dumb people in this world they are ruining it.
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