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post #1 of 20
Thread Starter 
There's been lots of threads lately about babies and weddings and such, and while I'm very happy for these folks, am I the only one who is happy being single? I can honestly say that I do not want to be in a relationship, and time I think is going to solidify that feeling. I've been single for a little over a year and a half, and while I've dated casually, I haven't taken the step to make a commitment to anyone, even though a couple have wanted me too. I've been married once and I think that's it, I always said that I only wanted to get married once, and while at the time I meant that I wanted it to last forever, obviously that didn't happen I've never really been a people person, I'm very much a loner, and I'm already the crazy cat lady Just wondering if there's any other single and happy to be that way folks?
post #2 of 20
I AM LOVING IT!

Except... i am breaking a few guys hearts and thats the only bad thing about it Not in a stuck up way or anything, i just date and i dont feel the spark there
post #3 of 20
I have never been the single girl. But I say more power to those ladies (and gents) that are single and loving it. I think its wonderful to be independant and know how to have fun wihtout a guy.
post #4 of 20
what's the saying? different strokes for different folks! I think the single life does work well for some people, although I love being in a loving relationship.
post #5 of 20
Thread Starter 
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Originally Posted by fwan
I AM LOVING IT!

Except... i am breaking a few guys hearts and thats the only bad thing about it Not in a stuck up way or anything, i just date and i dont feel the spark there
I wouldn't say that I've broken any hearts, but I have ended things when the guy started getting a little too serious, much to their dismay.
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Originally Posted by Phenomsmom
I have never been the single girl. But I say more power to those ladies (and gents) that are single and loving it. I think its wonderful to be independant and know how to have fun wihtout a guy.
this is the first time I've really been single, I used to be the long-term queen. My first boyfriend I dated for 2 years, got engaged, broke it off, next one was a year, got engaged, broke that off too, then with my ex-husband I was with him for over 6 years total. I guess i never knew how nice it was to be single before
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Originally Posted by LuckyGirl
what's the saying? different strokes for different folks! I think the single life does work well for some people, although I love being in a loving relationship.
I think I am in a loving relationship...with my cats!
post #6 of 20
I have been in relationships nonstop since I was 14 with only a couple months in between at most, usually one just melding into the next. I am 26. I am ready for some single time. It sounds fun. Me and bf right now have so many problems I think if we can't stick it out I'll probably be alone for a long time and that used to scare me but now it excites me!
post #7 of 20
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Originally Posted by annabelle33
I have been in relationships nonstop since I was 14 with only a couple months in between at most, usually one just melding into the next. I am 26. I am ready for some single time. It sounds fun. Me and bf right now have so many problems I think if we can't stick it out I'll probably be alone for a long time and that used to scare me but now it excites me!
you go girl! it's scary to start out, but then its like "hey, this isn't too bad!" I can watch what I want to watch on TV! any mess is your fault....and you don't have to clean it up if you don't want to and no one will complain
post #8 of 20
and noone will snore in your bed, or take up the whole room
post #9 of 20
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Originally Posted by annabelle33
I have been in relationships nonstop since I was 14 with only a couple months in between at most, usually one just melding into the next. I am 26. I am ready for some single time. It sounds fun. Me and bf right now have so many problems I think if we can't stick it out I'll probably be alone for a long time and that used to scare me but now it excites me!

Thats kinda the same for me..I have always been in a relationship. Only single for maybe a month at most in between..But now I am going through a breakup from a 3 year relationship, and I am excited to be on my own and get to know myself a little more. I don't really know who I am yet, I've never been alone before and so hopefully this being single and living alone thing (with Trout of course), helps me get to know me, so my next relationship can hopefully be THE one. I don't want to waste my time anymore with guys that aren't right for me. What's the point?
post #10 of 20
I'm 39, have a 22 year old daughter that no longer lives with me, have never been married (one baby was enough to raise, thank you) and haven't actively dated anyone for at least the last 2-3 years.

I'm not opposed to it, mind you, but it is extremely rare that I meet a man that:

A.) I have chemistry with
B.) Has high self-esteem
C.) Has his own life and doesn't feel the need to control mine
D.) Does NOT want children eventually
and
E.) Meets all of the above PLUS rides a Harley.

So I'm single, quite content to be so, have no responsibilities or obligations other than those I choose, am incredibly independent, and I just love having my own space. While I occasionally miss intimacies like cuddling and being held, that isn't something I need to have a well-rounded life.

I'm a volunteer fundraiser/organizer, I have a very busy schedule, and I like to do what I want to do when I want to do it, and not have to always have to check with an SO before I can plan on something. Most of my close friends are men and past boyfriends have all felt threatened by the fact that I enjoy the company and companionship of men rather than women.

So it's the single life for me, and I am enjoying my life quite a bit!
post #11 of 20
Me too!

I hardly dated at all in high school until the very end, and then I broke up with him after I went away to school(he was ready to move across the state for no other reason than to be near me, and I was ready to... well, not that! There was other stuff going on too.) Then I came to school, dated a really creepy guy, --"dated" I guess he followed me around and called me his girlfriend-- and my current ex-boyfriend was jealous for the two whole weeks, and then we got together right after. And we broke up in March.

I really don't mind not having a boyfriend, and every relationship I've ever had has started with the "I don't want a relationship right now" talk but somehow... I don't know.


I really want some time to myself after I move, at least a few months, to make friends and figure out what they hey I'm doing etc. And then maybe start "light dating" like, no involvement or whatever unless the exact right person happens along. No boyfriends for the sake of having a boyfriend ever again though.
post #12 of 20
By the way - if any of you know a man that meets my criteria specs B-E, please introduce!
post #13 of 20
You know the longer I'm single for the more picky I get. For the most part I'm happy, I have some lonely days but I'm working on that. I'm looking for a man that:

Is educated
Has a career
Will love my cats
Understands my devotion to the cat shelter
Loves me for who I am
Is undecided or does not want children
post #14 of 20
lol, is it really that fun tempting to pack Troys bags for him. Kidding, he does tick me off specially with the new found addiction to siamese that i'm finding out alot of on here and there not as what people may think.

But i have to add to your whole bashing the dating list lol. I'm 22 and been dating Troy for 4yrs August 16th. Before Troy i dated his younger brother Nick he was the same age as me and troy is 24. He loves cats, he's never attempted to lie or cheat, though he does eat "MY" ice cream he is sweet, funny, and romantic. On my 20th birthday we wen't to a newer hotel about 4 hours from where we live and he surprised me with a candle lite dinner and he had "Pink" rose pedals all over the bed.

lol.. don't call me weird but i gave into it and a few weeks later he got a dog.. i'll let you all no i "DID" make him tie the mutt outside to the tree. He actually thought i'd let a 60lb dog live in my kitty only home. Even though it is his house but still he put Snickers outside lol.

So i have no reason to be single i get everything i want and all i do is play with horses at home and make good money while he works almost all week long days at a factory, just to feed my more to come kitties and ponies .

He purposed a year after we started dating and i denied and we stil coutined to date i'm looking forward to a possible wedding with him. But it sounds fun being single lol.
post #15 of 20
I'm not planning on being single forever (I like the company of people, I often need emotional support and I would be willing to commit... to the right person).

HOWEVER.

I have been single for over 2 years now and I've never been happier. Before, I was hanging on to my bf because I was afraid of loosing him and I was afraid of being alone. He was not controlling or anything, but I still felt like I had to focus on OUR projects / lives / etc. (which usually ended up being hsi projects because I didn't have any of my own) and I felt really insecure.
When I ended up alone, it was really scary and depressing at first, but soon it was exhilirating and exciting. I was no longer living with the fear of loosing my bf. I had lost him and survived!
It made me realize that I had forgotten to live my own life and that if I had survived that difficult breakup, I could probably survive lots of other things!

So now I'm enjoying my time by myself, learning what I want... and eventually I might find someone who is just right for me and who could share his life with me. If that doesn't happen, that's alright. I'm still happy.

post #16 of 20
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Originally Posted by katiemae1277
any mess is your fault....and you don't have to clean it up if you don't want to and no one will complain


Yep! that's my life right there!

Makes me wonder if anyone will ever be able to put up with me again!
post #17 of 20
lol, true.. true.. but then you start running into problems if you don't clean :p. Plus i see nothing wrong with dating your cat theres alot of good things of that lol. When they tick you off just lock them in a cage.. :P
post #18 of 20
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Originally Posted by katiemae1277
I'm very much a loner, and I'm already the crazy cat lady

You've just described me!! I honestly can say that I have 7 kids. Twitch, TigerLily, Ophelia Rose, Damita, Chico, Macey, & Coco! I also have the 8 gorgoues guys & girls in my siggy to love! If you love me, you'll love them. I don't want kids, so that also could pose a problem. Besides that, BOYS HAVE COOTIES!! Just kidding....my 6 year old self just escaped for a second...

Mom tells me I love my pets too much, I need to go out & make human friends. I don't care. Human friends are judgemental, the ones I have understand my love of animals. My "kids" have never had one bad thing to say about me & provided I feed them, they all love me back!
post #19 of 20
I'm 16 and enjoying a few months of being single - I used to think if I didn't have a boyfriend I couldn't survive but goodness it's fun being single.
post #20 of 20
i am picky when it comes to men. if he is nice exc...
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