Flirting Isn't Healthy?

I really have a problem with anyone in a serious relationship flirting. I never really had a problem with flirting until my ex was taking it to far and following up on the flirting. Needless to say that is why he is my ex. My present SO is so the oppisite, or at least seems to be if I mention that I thought some chick was checking him out he really seems oblivious. I think it's the greatest respect I have ever been given.

lol, she's been crashing at my house which my boyfriend hates but anyways. The guy did call and she hung up twice on him? I think thats rude she handed
her number.

So while i was "attempting" to bake brownies, my boyfriend was clinging to the phone incase he called back lol. Then Krizzy wouldn't stop climbing on people using her claws . Silly kitties.

That brought us to the talk 1am or so to possibly get a pure-bred siamese?

I think flirting is ok. If it is done respectfully. I mean, I sometimes flirt with my husbands friends right in front of him, but it's not a sexual kinda flirt, more like a friendly flirt. Tom's one friend will always flatter me, "boy Tom, if I had a wife that could cook like this, I'd never leave home!", and I'll say back with a big smile, "keep saying things like that Bobby and I'll invite you over for dinner everynight!" Then he jokes with my husband that I'm secretly in love with him cause I invite him over for dinner once a week.

I never give out my ph#, and I don't really flirt with strangers, more like with clients that come in our building, and colleagues, but they all know I'm very happily married, so none of it is done deceitfully. I am naturally a bubbly, smilie, flirty person that's always saying something funny or making a joke.... I even flirt with girls that I know, if I run into someone I haven't seen in a few, I'll start with "hey sexy! look at you, you look hot! omg seriously, we can't be friends anymore if you get any sexier!!!" That's just how I am.....take it or leave it!

If you're secure in your realationship, there is nothing wrong with light flirting, keeps things interesting even when we're in a realtionship, it boosts our egos to know that the opposite sex is still interested. When the flirting goes to far, then thats when there is a problem but I agree with lunasmom, if she REALLY didn't want him to call, she'd have given him a fake number.
My ex was pretty good-looking and I used to get a kick out of other girls flirting with him, mostly because back then I was very secure in our realtionship, looking back, I'm not so sure I should've been, but that's another story, I was always like, yeah that's my man and you can't have him!

Single people flirting with single people is fine.
Married people flirting with the person they are married to is fine.
IMO, flirting IS harmful if one of the parties is already involved.

Originally Posted by MuttigreeMom

Am I the only one here who actually tells their SO to go flirt?

No seriously. I know he's not going anywhere. He knows I'm not going anywhere, so I'm not worried.

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I hope you're right.

Originally Posted by Rockcat

Single people flirting with single people is fine.
Married people flirting with the person they are married to is fine.
IMO, flirting IS harmful if one of the parties is already involved.

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I have to agree. No way would I encourage someone in a couple to flirt! And dh and I don't go out to lunch, etc alone with members of the opposite sex. I used to work with a guy I really admired. He was so devoted to his wife, and only ever talked about their baby. But I would never have had lunch with him alone. We went out in a group several times, and had great fun with everyone.

What some people are calling flirting is different than what I call flirting. Like to me it was fine to talk to that guy often, or tease him about parking his corvette in the farthest parking spot to keep it safe from dings! LOL! But no sweet nothings, or long glances. No possibility for anyone to misinterpret a friendship as anything more. I mean, what if his stay at home wife was insecure? Would she want me acting interested in her guy? I doubt it. And how disrespectful would that be of my husband?

RE OP-I agree that if someone invites you to fast food for a first date, they are not worth seeing. But if she gave her number, she should at least take the call. See where the conversation leads!

It seems a lot of us have different ideas on what flirting is, I view flirting as extra laughter, maybe a bat of the eyelashes, a smile, teasing, when you're getting into sweet nothings and the like, then that to me is way beyond flirting, that is an invitation, NOT flirting. And just cause you flirt with someone doesn't necessarily mean that you're interested in starting a relationship or whatever, you just think the other person is cute, interesting, cool, and you like to talk to them. JMO

Yea ok a few differnt sides i faver with. See alot of people like my boyfriend, but he's just that my boyfriend i can't say its very serious theres nothing there to make it that serious. But i do love him and he does get kinda mad when people flirt with me.

But i don't hold a sign saying "Check me out" lol its what men do. IMO i think my friend was being alittle to stuck up that guy could be a good man and she's turning him down for nothing.

I flirt all the time, i need my man to turn head i want him to make me feel interesting. I think sexual tips isn't right, but he's not a flirter and he had this one girl that almost started following him she was obsessed so he had to change time shifts to get away from her.

But i think its just a funny flirt world, it goes around comes around. Sometimes people do take flirting into cheating and such but thats them not us . I don't understand why she's like that she has no cold broken heart story from the past she has dating issues she just doesn't feel a man is worth the chance?

I think flirting is perfectly healthy, whether you're in a relationship or not. And I absolutely think that if you're in a relationship, you should flirt with your partner as often as possible. It's fun, it's an ego-boost, and it keeps your skills in practice. That being said, I'm extremely confident in my relationship with my boyfriend. He can check out all the hot girls he wants and flirt with my cute friends, but he still comes home to me every night -- it's just not in him to cheat, nor is it in me. (My conscience would kill me.) One of my married friends has a saying: she doesn't care where her husband gets his appetite, so long as he eats at home.

But on the topic of turning down a date because it's "only" at a fast-food place ... I don't know if I necessarily agree with that. Why do you have to eat at a nice restaurant, so long as you have a good time? If you're hung up on how much your date spends on you, you've got other things to worry about, IMO. Maybe I'm just a cheap date?

lol, flirting with each other interesting my boyfriend flirts with me but i don't really flirt with him . I do flirt with other people because he is such a dead head but he loves kitties .

Is fun being crazy when your 15 but once you hit 20 everything in the past was a fun fest blur. The way i view it is if he don't have the means to support me he doesn't have the means to put a ring on my finger.

Call me dramatic lol.

I Admit that I still flirt despite being in a 2 year relationship.

However I only flirt to get my way! Usually at work too...for example if a server goes down at work, I'll usually flirt my way with the technical support on the phone so that I can get overnight shipping when they want to give me 2 day.

I know its bad, but B's comfortable with it as long as I don't use it to cheat on him.

lol, i don't have to really flirt to get my way :d it just happens.