Flirting Isn't Healthy?

kittypaws · Jul 19, 2006

Ok now i almost wet my self when my friend explained this to me. She is single and is on a mission to stay that way.. i'm glad you have spotted the problem. Ok i had to go to the store and i thought hey they just built Petco lets take a look so i took my 2 dogs Jazzmin (yorkie) and Crystal (Alaskan).

Anyways Jazzy loves to sit in the cart so as i was grabbing the cart i walked over to my friend putting Jazzy in the cart get this out of the blue this guy comes over to talk to her about 10mins later i had the cart half full and she walked over.

I asked her what she said, she handed the guy her number and said this no joke "I hope he doesn't call"

she has this crazy thought that she won't let go "Flirting Isn't Healthy" she claims that if a guy doesn't have the means to take her to a good restraunt its a un-healthy flirt.

She pictures it this way fast food restraunt dates are bad for you (fast food meaning). I almost wet myself in petco laughing at her, thats a new one. I'm so curious does anybody else have crazy thoughts not to date.

shengmei · Jul 19, 2006

I think flirting has the potential to be dangerous. I flirted with my BIL before I got involved with my husband. For years I thought his ex was over it, but then suddenly she tried to kill me out of the blue.

It is good to be married. I really don't miss the dating life.

zissou'smom · Jul 19, 2006

You flirted with your sister's husband, and then your sister tried to kill you?? Wow. That sounds like a crazy situation!

I don't like people flirting with me if they just walk up to me somewhere out of the blue. I like people becoming my friend, and then see where it goes. I've had several boyfriends but never a "first date" like you meet someone randomly give them your number and then go out. By the time I'm on an official date, usually I know the person very well.

Flirting is healthy, though, even if you are married! I don't mean inapprpriate comments, or giving out your number, just stuff like smiling coyly at the check-out boy or laughing at someone's jokes before walking away. That's not cheating, it just makes you feel good as long as it's limited to in-passing or a minute and you don't lead anyone on. C'mon, we all know it makes us feel good to have a guy (or girl, for you men out there) walk by a check you out, or try to hit on you! There isn't anything wrong with innocent flirting.

I've never heard of anybody trying to go eat fast food on a first date. I wouldn't be around long. I don't mind if somebody doesn't have any money, we could just go to a park or a bookstore or something free, or I would pay even if I had the money, but bringing you to McD's is just plain disrespectful. If you don't have money, you have to be creative.

annasmom · Jul 19, 2006

IMO, flirting is only unhealthy if it is with my husband. That will get you a minimum of an exremely dirty look, once it actually came down to shoving. Some women just don't get the hint. It's not funny to flirt with another woman's husband, even just for fun!

shengmei · Jul 19, 2006

Originally Posted by Zissou'sMom

You flirted with your sister's husband, and then your sister tried to kill you?? Wow. That sounds like a crazy situation!

No. I flirted with my husband's brother before I met my husband. They are pretty much twins. My husband's brother's ex-girlfriend tried to kill me six years after they broke up.

She and my husband's brother were already broken up years before I met them, but I didn't know she still had feelings for him.........My brother-in-law had never been married and probably will never marry.

My sisters (all four of them) are still teenagers. They won't have husbands for a long, long time (hopefully).

Sorry for the confusion. It is totally beyond this thread.

ETA: I wish the English language have more names for relatives. They are always confusing for me.

muttigreemom · Jul 19, 2006

Am I the only one here who actually tells their SO to go flirt?

No seriously. I know he's not going anywhere. He knows I'm not going anywhere, so I'm not worried. I found out two chicks at his job have serious crushes on him... they take him out to lunch all the time too. So, on days that we're running low on cash, I tell him to go flirt with one of his girlfriends and they'll buy him lunch. (Don't get me wrong, I don't actually expect them to buy him lunch... but if they decide to on their own it's a nice savings on our wallets!)

But then I also wouldn't mind fast food on a date either. Sometimes you're just in the mood to make a run for the border

commonoddity042 · Jul 19, 2006

Flirting can be unhealthy if you're out with with your SO and can't stop telling members of the opposite sex things along the lines of "I could never have too much of you. You're so hot! Rawr!", etc. Something like a smile or laugh is fine though.

If you're single, constantly whispering into someone's SO's ear and poutily asking him for hugs every few seconds while telling him you love him will only assure that his SO will completely despise you and probably injure you.

laureen227 · Jul 19, 2006

Originally Posted by Zissou'sMom

You flirted with your sister's husband, and then your sister tried to kill you?? Wow. That sounds like a crazy situation!
out, or try to hit on you! There isn't anything wrong with innocent flirting.

ummmm....i think she meant by her BIL, her husband's brother, not her sister's husband.

lilleah · Jul 19, 2006

Originally Posted by CommonOddity042

"I could never have too much of you. You're so hot! Rawr!",

I'm soooo using that one tonight!

shengmei · Jul 19, 2006

I flirt with my husband all the time. If anything, this creates the appearance of solidarity.

I never flirt with anybody else anymore. You never know who is involved. Even the ones who claim to be not involved have women who think they own them. It is just too dangerous to do so.

shengmei · Jul 19, 2006

Originally Posted by Zissou'sMom

Y
smiling coyly at the check-out boy or laughing at someone's jokes before walking away. That's not cheating, it just makes you feel good as long as it's limited to in-passing or a minute and you don't lead anyone on.

I thought that is not flirting. That is just being nice.

If that is flirting I would understand why people think Asian chicks are flirts.

ETA: I think nowadays serious flirting is just not safe anymore. You can get a guy who won't take no for an answer. You can get a chick who hates your guts. Considering nowadays that chicks can be every bit as violent as guys and there are psychos everywhere, it is just not safe to seriously flirt with anybody you don't know well.

fwan · Jul 19, 2006

Rawr!!!

lilleah · Jul 19, 2006

Originally Posted by fwan

Rawr!!!

RAWR!! *winks slyly*

Too funny..

kittypaws · Jul 19, 2006

lol i miss so much on my own topic. God i hate when guys try and check me out i just want to back hand them. She just ignores them but come on he made a move in a petco store.

Is that not a ply for love or what, she handed him the number it was an invite she liked him and she says "I hope he doesn't call" lol. I never flirt and if a man doesn't have good lines i walk off.

Of course i smile and laugh sometimes but i'd never turn that into a flirt hehe. Anybody else have secrets of flirting.

lunasmom · Jul 19, 2006

She WANTS him to call her. She's just being a type of girl that does the opposite of what she says. If she REALLY didn't want him to call her, she would've given a fake phone number. Then she wouldn't have to say "I hope he doesn't call"...because he won't...ever!

If she's worried about fast food restaurants on dates, she should do blatent flirts saying "Oh my friend and I were at <insert name of decent restaurant> and I SO LOVE their food".
If the guy still takes her to fast food, then that's a definite no-no sign.

I determine a long time ago that being blunt is the best way to have good dates. "I like you...I had fun...you should take me out again".

cheeseface · Jul 19, 2006

Originally Posted by CommonOddity042

Flirting can be unhealthy if you're out with with your SO and can't stop telling members of the opposite sex things along the lines of "I could never have too much of you. You're so hot! Rawr!", etc. Something like a smile or laugh is fine though.

If you're single, constantly whispering into someone's SO's ear and poutily asking him for hugs every few seconds while telling him you love him will only assure that his SO will completely despise you and probably injure you.

Are you quoting yourself or your SO?

commonoddity042 · Jul 19, 2006

Originally Posted by Hydroaxe

Are you quoting yourself or your SO?

No. But I have seen these two scenarios.

jenny82 · Jul 20, 2006

MuttigreeMom said:
Am I the only one here who actually tells their SO to go flirt?

No seriously. I know he's not going anywhere. He knows I'm not going anywhere, so I'm not worried. I found out two chicks at his job have serious crushes on him... they take him out to lunch all the time too. So, on days that we're running low on cash, I tell him to go flirt with one of his girlfriends and they'll buy him lunch. (Don't get me wrong, I don't actually expect them to buy him lunch... but if they decide to on their own it's a nice savings on our wallets!) QUOTE]

You sound like you are really confident and secure in your relationship. That's awesome! I know that my husband isn't going anywhere, but I don't think I would actually tell him to flirt. It would just bug me.

jenny82 · Jul 20, 2006

(Sorry, I messed up the quote!)

phenomsmom · Jul 20, 2006

I think its funny when guys try to flirt and are no good at it. Girls too. There is a girl Lee works with that is madly in love with him. She doesn't speak English very well and they used to talk with one of his friends as a translator. Well the translator doesn't work there anymore so she has resorted to smiling and winking at him regularly. Lee is so Niave that the doesn't relaize she is flirting!

Flirting is fun and healthy as long as you don't take it to far if you are married or in a serious relationship.

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