So I posted a thread on here about a friend of mine that is an abusive marriage. Last night she started working with me which I was excited about!!! She drove to my house and rode to work with me. (we had just palnned on doing this regularly!) On the way to my house she and her husband got into an argument on the phone about washing a blanket and going to the store. (He didn't want her to go by herself). Well last night she called me because she had found a note from another girl in their house that she didn't like the content of. She went to get the note to read it to me and her husband came and slammed her arm into the headboard of their bed while she was trying to retrieve the note. I heard lots of screaming then the phone went dead. Of couse, I was worried so I called her husbands phone. He answered and told me I couldn't talk to R. So I lipped off and told him to take her the phone or I was going to call the cops for her and tell them there was a domestic violence disturbance. Needless to say he took her the phone and she was bawling. About how she had ruined her life, she wanted a divorce and so on and so forth. So I got her calmed down and told her to call me if she needed anything and if she didn't feel safe to go to her dads or my house. I called her this morning and she tells me they talked things out and they are fine now. She also informs me that she can't ride to work with me anymore. I know the reason she can't is that her husband is keeping her from having any contact with me.
I'm so upset right I could just go punch him in the face. One, I'm annoyed that she would let him control our friendship. Two, I'm annoyed that she allows herself to be controlled. And finally, I'm annoyed that she keeps letting him talk his way out of it. It's to the point that I don't even want to bother talking to her anymore because it's a waste of my breath. I know I'm just upset right now and I am sincerely concerned, but why bother if she won't help herself.
Am I being a bad person? What steps should I take now, or should I just not bother with it anymore?
I'm so upset right I could just go punch him in the face. One, I'm annoyed that she would let him control our friendship. Two, I'm annoyed that she allows herself to be controlled. And finally, I'm annoyed that she keeps letting him talk his way out of it. It's to the point that I don't even want to bother talking to her anymore because it's a waste of my breath. I know I'm just upset right now and I am sincerely concerned, but why bother if she won't help herself.
Am I being a bad person? What steps should I take now, or should I just not bother with it anymore?