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Im so sad

post #1 of 12
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My boyfriend and i were moving today. I brought the two cats, Isabelle and Stash after everything was moved in. Not two minutes later Stash got out of the house, my boyfriend left the door open.I asked him if all the doors were closed and he said yes so i let the cats out of the bathroom.Our new neirghborhood has lots of coyotes, not to mention she was only here for just two minutes, how will she ever find her way home. Im so sad and mad! I miss her so much already.

Think there is any hope she will come home safe?
post #2 of 12
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Originally Posted by Sydney
My boyfriend and i were moving today. I brought the two cats, Isabelle and Stash after everything was moved in. Not two minutes later Stash got out of the house, my boyfriend left the door open.I asked him if all the doors were closed and he said yes so i let the cats out of the bathroom.Our new neirghborhood has lots of coyotes, not to mention she was only here for just two minutes, how will she ever find her way home. Im so sad and mad! I miss her so much already.

Think there is any hope she will come home safe?
I'm so sorry....here is some advice about finding a lost cat:

Best Friends Radio recently interviewed Kat Albrecht, author of The Lost Pet Chronicles, and she gave some very good advice on finding a lost cat:

Most people don’t differentiate between searching for a dog and searching for a cat, which is a huge mistake, because they are like apples and oranges. Cats are territorial, so when an indoor cat escapes outside, they feel displaced into unfamiliar territory. A displaced cat (and also an injured or sick cat) will hide and they will be silent. So walking around and calling the cat’s name doesn’t work.

What that cat does is to look for the first place where she can hide, and she will stay there. We’ve had people who have recovered their cats six weeks later, and the cat was two houses down, living under the neighbor’s house or under their deck.

We’ve actually recovered lots of cats by treating them like ferals and setting a humane trap. These cats will sit there and watch and even listen to their person calling, but they will usually not respond.

Eventually, some of them will reach a threshold point between the seventh and tenth day where they finally do meow or they go into the humane trap, but many of them, especially the ones with skittish temperaments, just continue to hide.

As for a cat who is used to going outside, we really do advocate making your cats indoor-only. However, if an indoor/outdoor cat does go missing, it may be that they’ve been chased by a dog or beat up by another cat. They may run into an unfamiliar area, and they may hide in fear as well, or than can be transported out of the area by crawling into a car or the back of a truck.

Outdoor cats are still territorial. They don’t generally travel great distances by themselves, so they’re going to be found within their territory or just beyond it. You’ll want to get into your neighbor’s yard to search under their porch, under their house, and in potential areas where the cat is trapped, because, again, the behavior of an injured or sick cat is that they will crawl in or under something that’s familiar to them and they will hide. And again, they won’t answer your call.



Joy Moffat
Community Programs Special Project Coordinator
Best Friends Animal Society
joy@bestfriends.org
post #3 of 12
Does she have a collar and ID tag?? chipped??? Do you live by alot of trees?
What does she look like??? sorry for so much questions. I think she will come back. Did she ever came outside before you guys where moving?? You should put up flyers to be on the safe said.I hope Stash comes home.
post #4 of 12
Hope your cat comes home. When my wife moved in with me her cat got out and came back a week later. Then 8 years later when we moved the cat got out again and just came back after almost 3 weeks. So never give up hope.
post #5 of 12
Having been through a scare of my own today with my cat JD, I know just how you feel...
I will keep Stash in my thoughts and prayers for a safe return home to you.
post #6 of 12
Thread Starter 
We found her! She was hiding in the closet the whole time....lol. thank goodness!

However I seem to have an issue with my boyfriend, after we found Stash, he went to get something from my car, I heard the front door open, then two seconds later I heard him cussing, i ran to the front door and he had let my other cat Isabelle out and in the meantime two of my dogs ran outside too.

I dont trust him with the animals, Ive told him this and we fought about it a while back. Now im really mad. In one day 5 pets escaped cause of him.

I dont know what to do, I live with him. I tell him over and over to make sure all the doors are shut, I told him to be careful with the cats cause they use to be outdoor cats at my old house, but in the new house they are indoor and will try to escape. But he just doesnt get it. He leaves to get something in a rush and doesnt check to make sure the door is closed all the way.

This is a serious issue. If one of my dogs or cats gets out and doesnt return, I ve already told him our relationship would be over.

What can i do?
When ever i mention this topic he gets mad and rolls his eyes at me.

Ugh
post #7 of 12
My relationship with him would already be over. Apparently he has no understanding how much you love your animals. His lack of unconcern says that he doesn't feel the same about the pets as you do and that he is not very concerned about your feelings either. Brace yourself for a breakup. I think it is coming and I just hope your animals survive until then. Good luck.
post #8 of 12
If he doesn't understand about the pets (which he should), then try to make him understand how much this means to you. If he really cares about you, then he will try to make more of an effort to do what you're asking.
post #9 of 12
Can you install springs on the doors that would make them shut automatically? You can probably get them at Home Depot or Lowes.
post #10 of 12
No offense, but didn't he want to wait until the female gave birth to fix the male just in case the kittens from the accidental litter weren't sired by him? He honestly doesn't sound as if he cares about the health of your pets as much as you do at all...sounds to me like a breakup is imminent as well.
post #11 of 12
I thought he was the one who let the recently neutered male in with the recently delivered female resulating in the pregnancy scare... Hmmm.
post #12 of 12
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Originally Posted by Bugaboo1
My relationship with him would already be over. Apparently he has no understanding how much you love your animals. His lack of unconcern says that he doesn't feel the same about the pets as you do and that he is not very concerned about your feelings either. Brace yourself for a breakup. I think it is coming and I just hope your animals survive until then. Good luck.
I have to say, I agree with this, and the other posters on this.

If you wait until something truly awful happens to one of your beloved pets to break up with him, I suspect that you will blame yourself for not taking action sooner.
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