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post #1 of 17
Thread Starter 
Out of the blue my Exboyfriend e-mails me. Now here's the deal, the last time we spoke was on HORRIBLE terms. Lets just say I was not to kind to him. I'm scard to open the e-mail. Now it's been almost 8 years, do you think he's over it?
post #2 of 17
Open it. If it is really bad you can always come here and vent.
post #3 of 17
If he's not over it after eight years, he's not worth your time. If he wants to get back together or something, remember why you broke up. It could also just be that he needs to ask you a question or tell you something, legitimately.

A lot of men go through a weird period sometime in their life when they contact all their ex-girlfriends asking them what went wrong. Because they are having trouble in their marriage, because they are still single, whatever reason.

I would open it, begin reading, and if you don't like what it says, trash it and forget about it. If you really haven't had any contact with him in eight years, it's more likely something you would want to read than not. Maybe he joined AA and wants to apologize or something, really it could be anything, and if you're anything like me you won't be able to stand not reading it!
post #4 of 17
Or maybe he found something valuable to you which was accidentially left in his possession and he wants to mail it back.

The last time I left my inlaws house I left a whole bunch of stuff accidentially.
post #5 of 17
Thread Starter 
Quote:
Originally Posted by Zissou'sMom
If he's not over it after eight years, he's not worth your time. If he wants to get back together or something, remember why you broke up. It could also just be that he needs to ask you a question or tell you something, legitimately.

A lot of men go through a weird period sometime in their life when they contact all their ex-girlfriends asking them what went wrong. Because they are having trouble in their marriage, because they are still single, whatever reason.

I would open it, begin reading, and if you don't like what it says, trash it and forget about it. If you really haven't had any contact with him in eight years, it's more likely something you would want to read than not. Maybe he joined AA and wants to apologize or something, really it could be anything, and if you're anything like me you won't be able to stand not reading it!
True. He could have joined AA, although I totally doubt it. The weird part is I had a dream about him a few days ago. I sort of pushed it aside and thought that it was just my brain processing through some stress.

I think I'm going to have my husband read it first. I don't want him to think anything weird is going on.
post #6 of 17
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Originally Posted by lookingglass

I think I'm going to have my husband read it first. I don't want him to think anything weird is going on.
EXCELLENT IDEA.

I always open emails I find questionable with my husband.
post #7 of 17
Thread Starter 
Quote:
Originally Posted by shengmei
EXCELLENT IDEA.

I always open emails I find questionable with my husband.
I've seen way too many Dr Phil's where the wife/husband is caught in an emotional affair. That's the last thing I need him to think that I'm doing.
post #8 of 17
Don't be offended by this, but I really don't think your husband should read it before you do. Read it yourself, and then if it's something harmless, which it probably is, there is no need to even tell your husband. Like, if he asks you a question about something inane, or whatever. If he is writing to tell you his undying love, then tell your husband about it right away, hopefully as a joke, and let him read it and see what it says. Since you have no idea what's in it, there might be something you don't want him to see. I mean, your past from eight years ago is your past, right?
post #9 of 17
Thread Starter 
He was trying to sell me something. Now I remember why I broke up with this ! 8 Years later and you are trying to get me to buy life insurance!!!! I just HAD to tell him my husband is an insurance agent and we have all the insurance we will EVER NEED UNTILL THE END OF TIME!!!!!!!!!
post #10 of 17
Quote:
Originally Posted by lookingglass
He was trying to sell me something. Now I remember why I broke up with this ! 8 Years later and you are trying to get me to buy life insurance!!!! I just HAD to tell him my husband is an insurance agent and we have all the insurance we will EVER NEED UNTILL THE END OF TIME!!!!!!!!!
What a jerk! Aren't you relieved that you aren't still with him!?!
post #11 of 17
Thread Starter 
You have no idea! My husband is laughing, and asking me if I need some life insurance! I swear sometimes I'm so lucky I married a wonderful man with a great sense of humor.
post #12 of 17
Well I certainly wouldn't dignify that with a response!

LOL What the heck was going on in his head?
post #13 of 17
Well I agree with what you decided to do, anytime someone I don't want to speak with or am on bad terms with either emails me or leaves me a voicemail I have my DH check it because I know that if it is something upsetting I won't be able to handle it.
post #14 of 17
I wouldn't even respond to the email... It isn't even worth the trouble.
post #15 of 17
I second that.
post #16 of 17
Quote:
Originally Posted by Zissou'sMom
If he's not over it after eight years, he's not worth your time. If he wants to get back together or something, remember why you broke up.
As a guy, there is some good advice there.

as for me, if i get email from a ex gf i just delete it. they are a ex for a reason. and life is to short for going back, keep moving forward.
post #17 of 17
What a loser...You know he works on commission and probably just tries to sucker anyone he knows...After that many years, what a lousy thing to do.
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