So a close friend of mine R, has just gotten married to S, also a friend and one time co worker, back in march. R who is 17 and dropped out of highschool married S who was 18 and was kicked out of school for formulating a terrorist plot to take over our school we attended. (The FBI was even called into our small town to investigate!) Anyways, they came over on the 4th to hang out and just have fun. Well R and I were dying my hair back to my original blonde color and needed to go to walmart for more dye. On our drive there, she told me about a fall out they had the other night over something rediculous. She wanted to separated from him for a while to think things over. She told him this and decided she didn't want to speak to him. He picked her up out of the bed, threw her outside their apartment and then let her back in. He then slammed his head into their metal door frame and dented the door in. He ALSO proceeded to slam her head into the dorr denting it even more. From there he continued to fight with her untill he finally sprayed some cologne on his body then (here is the kicker) set himself on fire.
She told me in the car on the drive there he made the comment that if she ever left him he would track her down and kill her. He admits he needs help but doesn't seek it and she's actually "scared" into staying with him. She told me she loves him but she doesn't stay with him because she loves him, she stays because she is scared. I'm very worried for her and she is talking about wanting to be with other men. I believe they got married too soon, and were just acting on puppy love more so than the real deal. I'm afraid for her safety and all the advice I've given her (leave and get a restraining order, talk to someone, stay with family) she's rejected or said that the advice given wouldn't work.
What can I do/say to help her out? Any advice would be apppreciated.
She told me in the car on the drive there he made the comment that if she ever left him he would track her down and kill her. He admits he needs help but doesn't seek it and she's actually "scared" into staying with him. She told me she loves him but she doesn't stay with him because she loves him, she stays because she is scared. I'm very worried for her and she is talking about wanting to be with other men. I believe they got married too soon, and were just acting on puppy love more so than the real deal. I'm afraid for her safety and all the advice I've given her (leave and get a restraining order, talk to someone, stay with family) she's rejected or said that the advice given wouldn't work.
What can I do/say to help her out? Any advice would be apppreciated.