Issues with "friend"

OK this might get lengthy but I'll try to make it as concise as possible...
I have this "friend" that I got into an argument into yesterday and she hasn't spoken to me all day, I'm not really upset about THAT, but I'm just really beginning to think that she's not that good of a friend. so this is a glorified VENT
Yesterday at work we had an issue regarding overtime, our manager had sent out an e-mail last Friday that it might resume on Weds????? (this is how she worded the e-mail) well she was off on Mon and the office was closed on Tues, so it was never definite if there was going to be OT or not. At my office we have what we call flex-time and so have different start times, anywhere from 6:30 to 8:00, I am an 8 o'clocker, the only one I believe so if it was decided during the middle of the day that there was OT, I wouldn't have been able to work it, since my OT is 6:30-8:00 and I wouldn't have known to come in early so I elected to just come in at 6:30 just in case, and if there was no OT I'd leave at 3, well my friend e-mailed my manager to see if there was OT and the manager basically copped an attitude that since people came in early, "I guess its official" So I told my manager why I had come in and I would've been perfectly happy to leave at 3, plus in this process my manager didn't tell the rest of the office that there was OT, so a lot of confusion ensued. Now we are a union shop, so technically, they would not have able to offer OT if everyone could not work it, like me for example, if I had not come in early. so now we get to the problem... I told my friend that if I had not come in early and they would have offered OT that I couldn't work I would have filed a grievance, and she said "are you serious? you would have grieved yourself right to the unemployment line" and I said they can't fire me for filing a grievance and her reply was that "they can fire you for anything they want...." uh, no, that's why we have a union! her comeback was that Ohio is a free will or something or other state and that allows companies to fire for whatever reason blah blah blah, and I said maybe for non-union places, but not for union represented companies. Well her reply to that was "if you're going to argue something you better get your facts straight" hmmm why do I think that SHE needed to get her facts straight? the real fight happened when we went back to the garage and were talking to my Mom about the situation and I mentioned what my friend said about the grievance and my Mom, who has worked here for 32 years, said no they cannot fire you for no reason, that's why we have a union, sound familiar? Now my friend denies that she said the comment about the unemployment line! If you're going to make a statement than stick to it, and if you're wrong than just admit it, don't try to back out. So by now she's very defensive and says I'm done with this convo, but I kept pushing it because she does this stuff all the time and I'm sick of it, so she basically stormed away. My friend is always expounding on that people should have their own opinions on stuff, but then why does she bash you when you vocalize them? or accuse you of not having anything to base it on? She is always trying to put me down, and I ignore her, but it does wear on ya. This is the same friend who does not understand the importance of spaying and neutering, and just a got a dog a couple months ago and moans and complains about him everyday for tearing stuff up, but refuses to crate. Oh yeah and she didn't even express sympathy for my loss of Simon until someone lese did right in front of her, 2 days later, and she said something to the effect of "oh yeah, sorry bout your cat" I basically feel that I can't be myself around her because she'll attack me for something, so I don't really feel like I'm losing a good friend, but I don't have many to begin with, I really don't want to completely isolate myself, she's basically the only one I go out with oh well, sorry so long, but thanks for letting me vent

Sounds to me that this "friend" is no friend at all and you would be better off just letting the friendship dissovle. I know its tough to fight with people! Maybe we could bring our cats somewhere and mope together!

I had a friend like that and to be honest i dropped her all together, the other day she called me and i said to her firmly on the phone "i cant leave for another 30 mins as soon as the people are here i can leave" she calls 40 mins later and i said they arent here yet and she rudely said on the phone "im not fkn waiting for you for another hour! im just gonna go home"
And i said well then, cya!

i havent spoken to her since, she gets on my nerves!

She doesn't sound like a stable person...she sounds like she'll say whatever pleases someone else.

It'll be difficult since you work with her, but I would just give her the "holds no bar" attitude. Anything lacking or negative she says towards you, don't get riled up...just tell her to shut up!

(and you are RIGHT...Michigan is like Ohio...NON union have at-will employees, unions...well you have to have documented reasons to fire someone and even then you find it difficult to fire anyone).

Originally Posted by Phenomsmom

Sounds to me that this "friend" is no friend at all and you would be better off just letting the friendship dissovle.

I know its tough to fight with people! Maybe we could bring our cats somewhere and mope together!

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yeah with some of that Mexican food and margaritas!

Don't let it bother you Katie..........there are people like that all over....

Originally Posted by katiemae1277

yeah with some of that Mexican food and margaritas!

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That sounds great!

Originally Posted by fwan

I had a friend like that and to be honest i dropped her all together, the other day she called me and i said to her firmly on the phone "i cant leave for another 30 mins as soon as the people are here i can leave" she calls 40 mins later and i said they arent here yet and she rudely said on the phone "im not fkn waiting for you for another hour! im just gonna go home"
And i said well then, cya!

i havent spoken to her since, she gets on my nerves!

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yeah, what good's a friend if you can't stand her most of the time?

Originally Posted by lunasmom

She doesn't sound like a stable person...she sounds like she'll say whatever pleases someone else.
It'll be difficult since you work with her, but I would just give her the "holds no bar" attitude. Anything lacking or negative she says towards you, don't get riled up...just tell her to shut up!
(and you are RIGHT...Michigan is like Ohio...NON union have at-will employees, unions...well you have to have documented reasons to fire someone and even then you find it difficult to fire anyone).

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I always think everytime I say something back to her and she gets flustered, "has no one ever argued with you?" I think I will take that tactic, if she says anything derogatory to me I'll tell her to shut up!

Thanks for the confirmation too, I know that unions aren't as powerful as they used to be, but there IS a reason we have them... and I pay that $50 a month in union dues

YOU go girl!

oh it gets better.... I borrowed a book from her about a month or so ago and she just sent me an e-mail that she would like to have it back, sheesh. You can't walk over here and ask me? or like I'm gonna steal your freakin book

She doesn't seem like much a friend. I had 2 that always had to be right, always had to be better than me, smarter than me, prettier than me, whatever, but always wanted me to be there for them when they needed to borrow something, needed a ride, whatever. I finally just cut them loose. I am happier without them in my life.