Couples: Order of the siblings

lunasmom · Jul 5, 2006

I was thinking back to the day in HS when my mom told me never to marry a person that was the youngest since I am the youngest of my siblings. I've read this too that generally personalities of the siblings are sort of determined by the order in which they were born.
For Example:

Oldest Childs : they're the responsible ones. They have a feeling of being the provider and taking care of people. Prefers to be right and a little more controlling. Decision makers

Middle Childs : Feels somewhat competitive for attention and will feel unloved more often then the other children. They often feel life is unfair.

Youngest Childs: expects others to make decisions and take responsibility. Will often behave like an only child.

Only Childs: Often enjoys center of attention and can feel incompetent compared to adults.

http://www.childdevelopmentinfo.com/development/birth_order.htm

butterflydream · Jul 5, 2006

I'm the oldest in my so called family. My husband is the baby in his.

momofmany · Jul 5, 2006

I am a youngest and married #7 of 8 kids (I guess that's a middle). There is a lot of truth in the order of your birth in a family. Kevin Leman wrote a fascinating book called "The Birth Order Book" that talkss about the dynamics in a family. I highly recommend it.

babyharley · Jul 5, 2006

John & I are the same - we are both the oldest in the family

zak&rocky · Jul 5, 2006

I'm the oldest- four years older than my sis and 7 years than my bro. Hubby is the youngest. He has two older brothers that are 3 years older. No they aren't twins, both are half brothers from mom and dad. They grew up more like a "traditional" family because both brothers lived with them- one brother's mom was killed when he was young, the other brother's father has never been in the picture. Don't get me wrong, from what I understand it was pretty far from the brady bunch.
My mom has been a fan of this theory for a long time. She is the 2nd oldest of 8 and my dad is the oldest of two.. She says they have problems because they both want to be in charge. Also my aunt who is my mom's youngest sib married another youngest.. it didn't work out in the long run.

ashleynicole · Jul 5, 2006

I'm the oldest and I think the description fits me! Patrick is an only child, but his parents also cared for two of his older cousins for a while when Patrick was younger. So he is sorta a mix of the only child and the youngest child...

godiva · Jul 5, 2006

My husband and I both are only children.

I've always thought that only children, as children, tend to relate better than adults. I don't disagree with the spoiled thing, though.

Although things changed a lot for me when I was 13, before then I was definitely spoiled, but my husband wasn't because he was poor growing up. I would consider both of us eccentric, but I don't think either of us have problems relating to adults, then or now.

ilovesiamese · Jul 5, 2006

I am the oldest of 4 girls and Dh is the youngest of 2 boys.

That little speel at the top is compeletely true!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! That absolutely desribes me in a nutshell.

muttigreemom · Jul 5, 2006

i'm the youngest of two and he's the oldest of two... but we're the exact opposites of the above description. I fit the oldest description and he fits the youngest.

But then, neither of us ever claimed to be normal

gardenandcats · Jul 5, 2006

I'm the oldest in a family of two girls and two boys. My hubby is the youngest of a family of five boys.

jeanor · Jul 5, 2006

My husband and I are both the babies of our families.

Although, my brother is almost 10 years older than I am, so I can really be considered an only child (I was 7 or 8 when he moved out) as I was mostly raised alone.

sillyjilly · Jul 5, 2006

Originally Posted by lunasmom

I was thinking back to the day in HS when my mom told me never to marry a person that was the youngest since I am the youngest of my siblings. I've read this too that generally personalities of the siblings are sort of determined by the order in which they were born.
For Example:

Oldest Childs : they're the responsible ones. They have a feeling of being the provider and taking care of people. Prefers to be right and a little more controlling. Decision makers

Middle Childs : Feels somewhat competitive for attention and will feel unloved more often then the other children. They often feel life is unfair.

Youngest Childs: expects others to make decisions and take responsibility. Will often behave like an only child.

Only Childs: Often enjoys center of attention and can feel incompetent compared to adults.

http://www.childdevelopmentinfo.com/development/birth_order.htm

The order of this is exactly opposite for my family. We all act like another oldest, middle, youngest child! Though both my brother and sister act like a youngest or only!!!

alaynna · Jul 6, 2006

I am the middle child and Jason is the 2nd oldest out of 6 kids....

Even though I am the middle and Jason is the 2nd oldest....were are more mature than our siblings....my sister is 3 years older than me (25 years old) and I am more mature than she will probably ever be.....but Jason is the first one to get married out of his siblings and the first to have a career, house, responsibilities.....so he is the more mature and will probably always be more mature than the others.

phenomsmom · Jul 6, 2006

I am the youngest and that decsription doesn't fit me at all. I am the responsible one, my sister is very...flighty. She was the wild one and rebellious.

Lee is the youngest and his sister is the same as mine. He has the personality of an oldest child.

lunasmom · Jul 6, 2006

Originally Posted by jeanor

My husband and I are both the babies of our families.

Although, my brother is almost 10 years older than I am, so I can really be considered an only child (I was 7 or 8 when he moved out) as I was mostly raised alone.

That's the way I am. My brother & sister are both 10 & 8 years older then me, so I was pretty much alone growing up...although luckily for me they didn't move out of the house at 18.

B is similar too...he's the youngest of about 8 and his closest sister is 8 years older. He displays more of the youngest persons attitude then I do though (I'm always picking up his garbage for him).

miss mew · Jul 6, 2006

Jeff is the middle child in his family and I am the only.

jenny82 · Jul 6, 2006

I'm the oldest and my husband is the youngest, and the descriptions definitely fit us!!

luckygirl · Jul 6, 2006

Originally Posted by babyharley

John & I are the same - we are both the oldest in the family

Tom & I are both the oldests! (ugh, I don't know if I like the way that sounds... I am pushing 30 you know...)

annasmom · Jul 6, 2006

I'm the oldest (and the descriptions of oldest childern have always fit me to a T. My husband is an only child, and sometimes I am witness to his "center of attention" complex!

fwan · Jul 6, 2006

I am an only child and I tell ya I'm a spoilt brat!!

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