Originally Posted by ButterflyDream
I agree with you Dixie....There is a stark difference between beating the crap out of one's kids and a swift tap on the rear.
I think that we all are just going to have to agree to disagree. Not all parents are the same, not all kids are the same....and how you Siamese, interpret spanking may be totally different than say how Dixie or myself interpret's it. Again, I have no problem with it.....but we hardly do it ourselves.
I think that the major problem with the kids and teenagers this day is the lack of discipline out of fear that the kids are going to go to a teacher or authority and scream abuse when there isn't any going on so parents slack off on teaching their children that actions have consequences.
Being raised how I was raised, I know the difference between a simple smack on the bottom and an all out beating.
It's the all out beatings that are the bad thing, not necessarily simple smacks.
It's not considered abuse unless you leave obvious marks or welts on the child btw.
Ok, I lied, I'm not done yet...
I have joint custody with my ex husband of my oldest son. About 3-4 weeks ago Justice slipped and fell on my brick steps in the living room while I was mopping.. He was told MANY times to stop running in the house and to stay off the wet floor...He had a tiny mabye 2 inch scratch on his leg. Later that day he decided he was going to take it upon his self and go bike riding w/o asking. I stood at the end of the driveway and told him to come home.. Knowing I have a bad knee and I can't run after him he just laughed and kept riding. I waited about 10 mins and he came home. He got his butt popped and his bike taken away for a week.
Later that night he went to his father's for his regular overnight visit. The next day I was napping on the couch with my current husband and we had a knock on the door. It was the Sheriff's department and CPS. My exhusband called the police. Apparently my son didn't like the fact that he got his bike taken away and his butt popped and told his father I "beat him".... to make a long story short, Justice broke down crying and admited he lied because he was mad.it was all unfounded and the CPS worker said "there is nothing wrong with spanking your child"
My ex husband has also called because I took his TV away, because I wouldn't let him go on a field trip, because he cut his finger on a refrigerator magnet.... need I say more? They teach the children that if something doesn't go thier way then MAKE it go thier way... To be honest, I am SCARED TO DEATH to raise my voice, spank or sometimes even discipline my children because of this. And when I do, I am paranoid as all hell for about 3 days that some stranger is going to knock on my door asking who, what, when, where and how about MY family and our values.
It's a fear I live with every time I tell my sons NO. And then people wonder why children(including my own children) walk all over adults now days?