› Forums › General Forums › The Cat Lounge › Looking for support
New Posts  All Forums:Forum Nav:

Looking for support

post #1 of 100
Thread Starter 
Here goes:

Tomorrow, I will be accompanying my son on his annual school trip. He is in the 2nd grade and this is our yearly outing. But.....When I volunteered, the trip was to be to visit a spectacular museum (walk through tropical rain forest, watch the change in seasons etc.....) Sounds like a blast. At the bottom of the letter, it states "We will also be stopping at the Insectarium where you will be surrounded by over 150,000 insects". Yeeeech! Can you imagine??? My big plan was "Honey, you go on in and mommy will wait right here by the Exit sign, okay?" Nope....Not gonna work because I am also considered a volunteer mom and have 2 more boys to watch over so,....I must do my duties and accompany them!

The support I have so far is: "God, I wish I could be there to videotape this!" and also the occasional chuckle and "Have a great time!".

There has just got to be a special place in Heaven for mommies that get through things like this. Right?

Or am I really the only one afraid of anything that flies, crawls or (gulp) slithers????

The only one who envies me right now is Whiskers!
post #2 of 100
Honey you are BRAVE!! Just the thought of that makes me itch with the feeling of buggies crawling on me. Ewwwwww!!

It's great though that you are willing(or unwilling however you look at it) to over come your fears to go on a school trip with your son.

BTW my kitty Fallon is very jealous!!
post #3 of 100
Don't worry - they will all be safely contained. You won't have to touch any of them. Look on the brightside, some exotic bugs are very beautiful. They should also have some gorgeous butterflies. Try to look on that bright side and think how cool you son and his friend's will find you if you go and put on a brave face!
post #4 of 100
You will find strengh in being the one who reassures the kids. I'm sure the insects will not be able to get any where near you. I'm terrified of snakes, but I went to a snake exhibit without fear; they were behind glass. It's strange, but when I had the children here at night, even though they were young adults, I felt protective and strong. I felt much more nervous when I was alone and didn't have anyone left to protect. You'll be fine, Mom. You're a mother!
post #5 of 100
Gosh this reminds me so much of my best friend. She hates/is terrified of toads that invade her yard and home in rural Nebraska. I saw her jump from a sitting position at least 8 feet across the room in one leap to the couch when her kitty Dice brought one in the living room to play with. That was just a little toad.

So now she is blessed with 3 sons. Little boys think toads are just the bomb. She has had to really steel herself and not completely freak out when Phillip, the oldest, has brought them in. *Glance down. "Yes, Phillip, it's really neat. But please don't bring them in the house. Toads belong outside."* He's the type of kid who would think it hilarious if Mom flipped out.

Anyway, my point is, if she can overcome the toad thing in her own house, you can make it through a short period of time in a controlled environment. Trust me. Moms have that amazing ability that they can't quite prove scientifically, but it is definitely there.
post #6 of 100
Thread Starter 
Oh my God, Vikki, do workers actually approach you with live "whatevers"???? I can guarantee I will have that "Don't you even dream of coming near me or else" look on my face.

On the other hand, Thank you adymarie, I just love butterflies! I will concentrate on anything above (please don't mention bats or anything like that!) and leave the below ones to the boys.

BadHabit, First, thank you for calling me "brave". I'm thinking I might just be able to! I will try to get a picture for Fallon and will attempt to post it soon.

Jeanie, you are my new idol. Snakes, even through the TV give me the creeps. I will think of your success tomorrow! (Somehow I can see the boys trying to reassure me!)

And valenhb, I guess if your best friend can get through this, I can surely make it through a museum or whatever they call it.
My last jump 8 feet across the room was when Whiskers caught a mause and brought her into the living room and dropped her at my feet. It was not alive but at the time, my only solution was to grab a heavy jar, throw it on top of it (you know, in case it "wakes up") And then I called the husband home to rescue me.

Okay....Thank you all for not laughing at me. I really appreciate it. I'm thinking "Cool Mom!!!" This will be a piece of cake! Right?:chicken:
post #7 of 100

I hereby pass the mommy trophy on to you. I thought I was doing a big thing by killing a gigantic spider the other night for my son, the arachnophobic.
post #8 of 100
Those insects are behind glass or something, right? I don't know if I could do it. Luckily, I don't have any children going to an Insectarium. What crazy person decided this would be fun for you? I don't know what would be worse, all those creepy-crawlies, or a bunch of screaming kids, which you know will happen.

Good luck, I'm interested to hear how it goes.
post #9 of 100
When I was still married, I asked hubby to do all kinds of things like that.

Now that it's just me, I don't even make that little startled scream, I just take care of it.

You'd be amazed at what you can do when you have to. You'll be fine. My daughter (6 years old) brings me bugs all the time, I sometimes look at them, then send them back outside. Now she cries sometimes because she thinks of them as pets, but I point out that the cats will eat them anyway and she gets over it pretty quickly.
post #10 of 100
Thread Starter 
Thank you all for your support and making me feel like I am not alone in having these feelings.

I agree that as a mom, there is just so much stuff that you probably never imagined you'd ever have to do and you just do it because it's not anything in which you are given the choice "to do or not to do".

3sacrowd: Having my children bring me bugs? They wouldn't dare! Hats off to you for being able to grin and bare it.

Deb, I think we may want to hold off on the trophy until the deed is actually done! It may not go well enough for me to deserve one.

Bren.1 - I am hoping everything is behind glass(shatterproof!)A few have mentioned there may be some out in the open but I have not investigated this. Now that you mention the screaming kids,....YAY! Plus: Bus ride to and from there (over 1 hour long in a bus filled with approx. 35-7 year olds).

Vikki: I will look for the "cutest" safe bug and try to appear like a hero. Who knows, maybe there will be another mother there worse off than me who will actually make me look like the cool, brave mom!!

Goodnight to all, I will let you know tomorrow how I fared out.
post #11 of 100
Or am I really the only one afraid of anything that flies, crawls or (gulp) slithers????
I am afraid of things that crawl and fly. I hate spiders the most!!
post #12 of 100
As you know, anticipation is often a greater burden than the actual scenario itself! You'll do just fine! By all means, follow AdyMarie's advice and think of the beautiful butterflies. A lot of insects are ugly in our eyes; but we're all of us Earthlings, to be sure.

Don't forget to let us know how things went. Good luck!

post #13 of 100
I hope it goes well for you!!! I can totally understand your fear...I hate bugs.... but my hats off to you for going to something like this with your child, and taking an active part in his life!!! So many parents don't do this anymore. I am sure that the appreciation your son will feel for having you with him on this day, will outshadow your fears! You may even have alot of fun!!!
post #14 of 100
I don't hate all bugs-I used to work for an entomologist and we studied whiteflies. But I LOATHE roaches. I get the whole girlie thing going-inarticulate grunts, screaming and twitching. A few weekends ago, Ivo cornered a roach in my apartment (occasional visitors because of the coffee shop on the first floor). I don't know who was more freaked out-me, the roach because these big things were after it, or Ivo because her mommy was screaming and jumping around.
post #15 of 100
I fear spiders out of all things! Also roaches(they are very big in Mexico. About the size of my thumb.
post #16 of 100
Thread Starter 
First of all, The Biodome in Montreal is just about the most beautiful, amazing place I have ever been to (except for a few things I shall mention).

We toured 4 different forests (the Tropical, Provincial, Arctic and.....I forget) You actually do walk straight into the forest. In some areas, birds fly right by you. You can almost touch the monkeys. The only thing separating you from them is the railing. I was told to take my time and really look into the forest and I would be able to see quite a variety of creatures. I paused for no more than a second when I approached the area that said "Prepare to be startled". This was the crocodile's spot and after taking a quick glance and not instantly spotting him, I convinced the boys that the turtle on the other side was performing amazing stunts. It worked. We watched penguins dive (boy are these guys funny!!!). I had no clue that ducks swam underwater but was able to witness that. Too cute! The only time on this trip that I wished with all my might that I was at home was when we had to go through a tunnel and on each side of you, there were hundreds of bats. Behind the glass of course! Also, let us not forget the...snakes. (Someone must really like me because they were curled up in a ball, Nap time.)One was underwater in a tank amongst other humongeous fish. Never knew that snakes lived underwater either. But, never had an interest in finding out about all the hiding spots these guys have.

All in all, it went really well. I am still amazed that we actually got to really walk through these forests. I was expecting everything to be behind glass. I give it a thumbs up.

As for the insectarium.....due to the heavy traffic and the timeframe we had to make it back to school in time, we were not able to make it there. Needless to say, I was not disappointed. I really would have loved to view the butterflies. Hadn't thought of them until they were mentioned. But the rest....I have a feeling I have a year to build up to this moment. They've mentioned it might be a trip of it's own.

Next year, I have 2 trips to go on because my youngest is entering JR kindergarten. I really do look forward to this special "one on one" time. Working full time kind of makes moments like these "extra special". I just got a hug and kiss from my son and a Thank you for coming on his trip with him. That in itself would have made me viewing bugs all day long worth it!

After all of your kind word of encouragement regarding insects, I sucked in my breathe, told myself to be brave and then,tonight.... I killed my very own first spider ever. My son stood by and watched. I think he is still in shock.

Question: What are whiteflies?

Once again: Thank you to all!!!!

G. and Whiskers (I swear, this is her picture!)
post #17 of 100

Glad you lived to tell about it. Don't ever move to Florida: the entire state is an insectorium!
post #18 of 100
Thread Starter 
Oh my God! Deb- I've been to Florida once. Hollywood Beach actually. Stayed at the Hollywood Beach Resort. Beautiful Place. But.....the Jelly Fish and the crabs (I know, they're not insects!). I mean, it was infested with them. The guys at the outside bar played a trick on me and went out and captured quite a few crabs (which,I found out after my second moonlight stroll on the beach, come out at night!) and placed them all underneath my bar stool.(The Pina Colada's were my saviors).As for Jelly fish, they just kept multiplying overnight. I can't remember any other insect so I don't believe any caught my eye (from what you're saying, I'm thankful for that).

There may eventually be hope for me but for now, I keep my gardening gloves on. The neighbors chuckle quite a bit and it's alot harder to weed. But, from city girl to country girl, I think I am taking "baby" steps and playing it safe for now.

post #19 of 100
G., You have a victory!! You went, not knowing what you would see. You thought there would be insects and went anyway. Then you killed a spider. I told you that you're brave; you're a mom!
post #20 of 100
Hey, you did great! Way to go! Deb 25's post reminds me of when I first lived with people who weren't used to insects as frequent fixtures of the immediate environment.

I'd lived in southern Florida for several years before enlisting in the U.S. Air Force and ending up in the tropical Orient. The presence of insects didn't bother me, as I knew what to do: hold your shoes upside-down and knock them together before putting them on; glance under your bed-covers before climbing in the sack; et cetera.

However, some of the guys in the barracks came from more northerly climates where they may have encountered one or two insects per week (and at some distance). This one fellow in particular always freaked out whenever he'd discover a crawling insect in a drawer, or a flying insect in an enclosed space.

I'd always laugh at his reaction! Oh, well. (He didn't care much for small reptiles, either.)

:laughing: :laughing2

post #21 of 100
Cockroaches - yuck.

The first time I encountered those HUGE ones, me and the chap had gone to India and were staying in a fairly cheap hotel. First night - culture shocked - hot and sticky - been travelling for 16 hours. I picked up my towel to prepare to go for a shower and this enormous black monster of a roach ran up my arm. ARGH!!!!!! I brushed it off screaming and swearing, and jumped onto the bed shaking with shock, and begged the boy to kill it, kill it now! 6 foot of manhood then went hunting the roach armed with a knife and a chair - did he think he was going to train it, like lions? Of course it had disappeared, probably descended back into hell where it came from.

A month later we were a bit more used to cockroaches and wouldn't think anything of eating in restaurants with them running all over the walls. I found it was easier, if I felt something crawling on me, to brush it off before looking to see what it was..... this stopped the screaming and hyperventilating.

This is why I love living in temperate climes: no scary huge insects
post #22 of 100
Great job Ghyslaine! I am glad that you had a good time with your son and his friends. I have to admit - I kinda like insects. When I was growing up I used to frequent a store called snake and spider (my mom would never let me buy one). I got to play with the tarantulas and snakes - it was great! Fortunately, since I didn't have the fear as a child, I don't have it as an adult.
post #23 of 100
What about bees? Honey bees? I think they're cute. Bear in mind, gentlemen and ladies, all those honey bees going about their business gathering pollen are gal bees.

I was last stung by a bee about 20 years ago. Imagine: A bee, poor little hard-working Earthling, is doing her thing for the larger bee community when suddenly and without warning she is stepped on by me (accidentally)! She stung me, of course; and, sadly, as I watched her she died. I've felt badly about that ever since.

Now, when I traverse fields, I keep a sharp look-out for our friends the bees. I don't want to harm any more of them! I just hope one of them doesn't sound an alarm: "There he is! He's the guy who killed Beatrice back in 1980! Let's get him!"


post #24 of 100
Did we have to mention the "R" word my only true insect phobia. I'm not crazy about bees, wasps, hornets, I just keep away from them. I even like spiders

However, hubby is just as bad about spiders and I am about "R's." If they show them on TV he can't look. So, we have a deal. He kills the "R's" and I kill the spiders. I reall don't like to kill spiders, normall just catch them and put them outside but if I didn't kill them hubby would try and he get's all "silly" about killing a spider. He won't smush it to kill it, he has to have some spray and he uses just about half the bottle on just one. So, I kill the poor little spiders.
post #25 of 100
Mr Cat - I was just a a bee meeting (I also am a friend of bees so they let me go to their monthly meetings). I can asure you that you are no longer on their top 100 most wanted list.
post #26 of 100
Oh, thank you! That's wonderful news! A portion of my burden of guilt has been lifted from my shoulders! Yay! (I'm still sorry I stepped on the little bee, though. I should have been more careful.)


post #27 of 100
I'm not a big fan of hornets and wasps, either. Unlike bees, they're pushy. They've got attitudes!

post #28 of 100
I've never really been too freaked out about bugs, or snakes, or creepy crawlies in general. Not that I want to be up close and personal with some, but I don't mind them. I do hate worms, though. Not scared of them, they are just so gross! And they smell bad.

G. - I would have loved that cave with the bats. They are so cute! I love bats. Maybe just that closet goth in me coming out again. :bat

I have to share one story about a bug, though. My best friend (the one who hates toads) and I were sitting in her living room when the biggest fly we have ever seen flies in the room. It was just huge. Of course, we were a wee bit tipsy at the time, but we could just imagine this fly settling down in a chair looking at us and saying something like "Hey! Get me a beer...and a sammich. I'm hungry, ya know." OK, so you probably had to be there and hear the voice we gave him, but we can still go into peals of laughter over that one!
post #29 of 100
Mr. Cat,

For some strange reason, here in the Houston area, you don't really see any honey bees. We have tons of those nasty, mean red wasps.

Do honey bees migrate? Because, the only time I have really seen honey bees here is in a big cluster. Like that last time I saw some, I didn't know that's what I was looking at at first until I got about 3 feet away. There was this huge dark spot on the cyclone fencing that outlined the apartment complex I used to live in, and at first I thought it was a brown trash sack. I was curious for some reason and decided to go out and look and when I got about 3 feet from in I noticed that it was a cluster of honey bees about 1 foot in diameter and 4 inches thick. It was truely amazing! Within a couple of hours they were gone. What were they doing?

Occasionally we have a problem with "killer beas" or African Honey Bees. I don't know what the deal is with them but every year or so you hear on the news about a local "unprovoking" person being attacked and killed.

When I lived in Michingan as a child there were lots of honey bees and they never really seemed to bother anyone. The only people who ever got stung were the ones that swung at them.
post #30 of 100
Originally posted by valanhb
I do hate worms, though. Not scared of them, they are just so gross! And they smell bad.
I used to play with worms when I was little. My mom used to babysit the little boy down the street and I was just so in love with him. I wanted to get him a present so I found a worm in our garden, tied a red bow around it's "neck" and tried to give it to him. Little did I know he was terrified of them. That new development didn't get me a boyfriend, but I had fun chasing him around the backyard with the worm! LOL
New Posts  All Forums:Forum Nav:
  Return Home
  Back to Forum: The Cat Lounge › Forums › General Forums › The Cat Lounge › Looking for support