Here's a behavior prob you don't hear about every day...

My 10 year old neutered cat has started humping me. Yes, it's a little embarrassing to talk about, but I need to get him to stop!!! He's been checked by the vet. No kidney or bladder problems.
At first I thought he was just kneading on my chest like normal but then he seemed to be having trouble sitting down on my lap. I finally realized that he was not trying to sit! He had an erection. It is sad because I really can't let him get on my lap anymore because he does this everytime. He only does it to me and sometimes he just goes at the couch or blanket right next to me. Has anyone had any experience with this? It's been going on for a few months and I can't think of anything that changed in our household to trigger a change in behavior.

My almost 12-yr neutered R. Blue has used my arm (while biting my hand) on the wide arm of a sofa for ? yrs - it seems a pretty sad substitute, but he's not interested in our female cat (who's afraid of him anyhow). And I guess since we 'fixed' him originally, it's not really that big of a deal.

My cat was also doing this for a while, I've read that it's because a. they are bored - which kind of made sense, because when he made friends with the cat that wanders our breezeway, he stopped and also because b. they are seeking affection. That one I don't buy, some humans don't even equate "that" with affection . The funny thing is that he would only do it to women.

Either way, he stopped doing it when he had more fun things to do, like chase moths and play with his toy mice. Oh to be a cat.

Vash loves my leg, and I ignore it and let him as long as he keeps his teeth and claws to himself.

At the shelter we used to have a male cat who was very neutered who would do that to the female cat he lived with. I always called her his "wife". I guess the only thing I would say is did the vet check his testostorone levels? At the shelter we had a neutered male that used to spray every where. His testosterone was off the charts. The vet did an untrasound & found an undistended teste that was never removed.

Please click here to read an excellent thread about humping cats, why they hump, and how to stop it.

Don't you have a litter of kittens at home? Maybe the Momcat is hormonal, causing your male to be "excited". Once she gets spayed, things should settle down!

Originally Posted by Beckiboo

Don't you have a litter of kittens at home? Maybe the Momcat is hormonal, causing your male to be "excited". Once she gets spayed, things should settle down!

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You are correct. I have a litter of kittens at home but he started this before the mother cat came to live here.

I guess my Ashton just LOVES me!

Originally Posted by Rang_27

At the shelter we used to have a male cat who was very neutered who would do that to the female cat he lived with. I always called her his "wife". I guess the only thing I would say is did the vet check his testostorone levels? At the shelter we had a neutered male that used to spray every where. His testosterone was off the charts. The vet did an untrasound & found an undistended teste that was never removed.

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The vet mentioned that. I don't think she did an ultrasound though. She just did blood work and tested all of his "levels". I guess I might just have to live with it.

Originally Posted by Arlyn

Vash loves my leg, and I ignore it and let him as long as he keeps his teeth and claws to himself.

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At least I know Ashton isn't the only cat to do this. He keeps his claws and teeth out of it. He does get a little vocal when I push him off. I just miss the days when he used to crawl up on my chest and sleep with his head on my shoulder like a baby. He just goes for "it" whenever he gets near me.

Originally Posted by lotsocats

Please click here to read an excellent thread about humping cats, why they hump, and how to stop it.

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Thanks. I can't remember anything that changed that would trigger this feeling of neediness, but I will give him even more love to see if it helps. Also, I bought some Feliway diffusers. I hope that might curb it a little.
......just like a man.....

Not my experience, but I have read about a cat that started doing this while his human slept (on her arm), and if she shut him out of the room at night he got hysterically miserable. So she took him to a cat behaviour person.

Apparently he hates plastic shopping bags, and the human had to sleep with them taped to her arm for a while (can't remember how long, but I remember it as long enough to be annoying while short enough not to make me desperate, so probably a couple of weeks). He would paw at the arm, find the bag and leave her alone. Eventually he stopped checking and she stopped having to use the bag and they went back to sleeping normally together.