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post #1 of 14
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Well I started another thread about the but, my kids are driving me insane, mostly it's my daughter, she won't listen....which is prolly typical of a 6 year old.

But see it's hard cause you can't yell or even raise your tone with her cause she's very sound sensitive at times.

She is always putting toys and random objects in her mouth (someone in the other thread suggested dolls--she has no interest, all she does is dress them, undress them, redress them and then line them up in an order that makes sense to only her).

Imaginative play is non-existant with her and everything is literal the word 'or' means nothing to her (she was diagnosed with Asperger's Syndrome in 2004 by the child psychiatrist who then referred us to the developmental pediatrician who confirmed the dx who then sent us to a child psychologist who also agreed and also an occupational therapist again who agreed).

She's very bright and remarkably intelligent and that's not just coming from me.

But some days it makes life difficult.

My son is fine, a slight speech delay that is picking up on the verbage.....he can say most things he wants...and I'm working with him directly and it's helping tremendously.

But he's hit his terrible twos.....so you know if you have kids how that is.

Me I'm going through a rough spot in my own set cause of everything that's been going on and if you've been reading my posts you know what I'm talking about.

Today has been a better day for me mood wise....I tried to relax (the word relax and kids--well....sorta I guess is what i mean).

I haven't cried today, hubby and I talked last night and yesterday afternoon and that helped.

The weather is crappy. It's just rain, rain and more rain.

And I'm feeling just sorta blah and alone.....I've not got any friends outside of online...

Sorry I'm rambling on here, I don't know if anyone is even going to read this let alone respond (sorry again feeling rather alone and left out lately).
post #2 of 14

Sounds like you need a break!
Anyway, I hope things look up for you.
If you need to vent, TCS is just a keystroke away.
post #3 of 14
Hey, I'm glad you feel a little better, but it's really obvious that you still feel down Don't feel bad about that, it's good for us to know so that we can send you extra happy 'vibes' (to use TCS lingo).

Your kids are important but so are you, so try to keep things in perspective - she's six, he's two, it's raining - it might be a crappy week but you've all been through worse. Just try to be a good mom this week, not the best mom ever, and I bet you'll get through it much easier.

Make sure that you're keeping your comminication lines open with MIL and dad. MIL or dad (or better, both!) might be willing to do a couple of hours in house baby sitting while you go for a walk or take a nap or read a book - whatever you do that helps you unwind a bit. Again, don't aim for perfection - this isn't a week to expect serenity of yourself, just a week to aim for reasonable periods of calm.

And keep active here. Even if we can't cheer you up we will certainly try!

Also, I know things have been crazy lately, so maybe that's all there is too it, but it might be time for a trip back to the doctor to get your meds adjusted. I know that its a wait and see process, and trial and error, so please don't feel bad if you think that the meds aren't helping as much as they should. That of course is up to you to decide, as that's hard for anyone else to judge.

Good luck!
post #4 of 14
Oh, BD, sweetie, I just went back and read your other posts.
You don't just need a break, you need a vacation! And you deserve one!!
Just remember that your husband and your kids love you, and TCS is here for you.
post #5 of 14
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Here's the two kids I'll call Ornry one and Ornry two:

post #6 of 14
I'm glad you have a diagnosis. My sister has Aspergers and wasn't diagnosed until age 19! Her life has been difficult.. but she tries very hard and she is very smart and is a good person. It was difficult to share a room with someone with AS though, let me tell ya..
post #7 of 14
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Originally Posted by zak&rocky
I'm glad you have a diagnosis. My sister has Aspergers and wasn't diagnosed until age 19! Her life has been difficult.. but she tries very hard and she is very smart and is a good person. It was difficult to share a room with someone with AS though, let me tell ya..

I'm sure! My daughter is very immaculate. Everything must be in the places that she has placed them.

She's also very emotional sometimes.....easily upset. It can be frustrating.

Add onto that my issues....though I have patience. Don't get me wrong.

I've got Borderline and Avoidant personality disorders, as well as PTSD and Major depressive disorder.

I manage the best I can...and I put the kids first of course. Hubby says sometimes I need to put myself first but I feel like that's selfish. I feel too much guilt over too many things.....actually I need to find a therapist for myself but I can't afford one.
post #8 of 14
Awww... Sounds like things are improving for you overall, but now you look around and see a tough situation! Being Mom to a 6 y/o with aspergers, and a 2 y/o isn't easy!

I have a co-worker who's son has aspergers. He has gone from home alone with his Dad all day, to a day camp. One of the adults at the day camp brought up the child's extremely advanced math skills. Of course they are aware of his math skills, and his fixation on numbers! It is so hard to understand aspergers to the average person. At first glance this child does not look impaired, but like you said of your dd, there are limitations!

Is your dd in some special classes? That will help bring her up to her maximum capabilities, and help teach you how to deal with her. My co-worker is a psychiatrist, but is still getting professional help with her child.

I would like to see a thread about aspergers. I know we have several posters with aspergers, as well as you with your dd.

Hang in there, and keep posting here. You will find friends soon...it is hard since you just moved!
post #9 of 14
Aww-sweetie!! Sounds like your in desperate need of a BREAK!! Sorry that your feeling so down. You know I am always here when you want to talk. Many hugs to you! And btw-I know living with a two year old can be so frustrating at times!! I couldnt imagine being in your shoes.
post #10 of 14
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Originally Posted by Beckiboo
Awww... Sounds like things are improving for you overall, but now you look around and see a tough situation! Being Mom to a 6 y/o with aspergers, and a 2 y/o isn't easy!

I have a co-worker who's son has aspergers. He has gone from home alone with his Dad all day, to a day camp. One of the adults at the day camp brought up the child's extremely advanced math skills. Of course they are aware of his math skills, and his fixation on numbers! It is so hard to understand aspergers to the average person. At first glance this child does not look impaired, but like you said of your dd, there are limitations!

Is your dd in some special classes? That will help bring her up to her maximum capabilities, and help teach you how to deal with her. My co-worker is a psychiatrist, but is still getting professional help with her child.

I would like to see a thread about aspergers. I know we have several posters with aspergers, as well as you with your dd.

Hang in there, and keep posting here. You will find friends soon...it is hard since you just moved!
I think you are correct that starting a thread about Asperger's would be a good idea. This is fastly turning into that isn't it.

To the casual observer she's not impaired at all. We were at a school in Manassas Va to start with and we moved mid-year. The Manassas school stated nothing was wrong with her, but the NC school began the process for an IEP for her. Unfortunately it didn't get started till the end of the school year and now here we are moving again (or I should say have moved again), but I have the initial beginning paperwork that the school gave me to give to the new school (thank GOD it's summer break). My FIL used to be Deputy commissioner of the department of education under Reagen....so he'll also be a big help in getting that ball rolling.

They had no questions regarding her intelligence, she is brilliant. Her handwriting is impecible for a child of her age. For her, her strong suite is artistic ability.

It's all she wants to do in school is draw and do art class. Which gets her in trouble cause she doodles instead of doing her school work.

Anyways. I just finished helping hubby move a mattress up from the basement so we can have privacy in the library. We've got to make the bed yet.

Hopefully with a bit of privacy, things will be a bit better huh?
post #11 of 14
How about setting up a weekly plan for yourselves so you have scedule even thought its the holidays?
The toddler busy books are great.http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/067...081504?ie=UTF8
Even for free play you could set out a nursery type setting with playdoh, bricks, dressing up , puzzles, colouring and at one point in the afternoon a adult/child craft activity. cooking for you and your daughter with your son using play cooking stuff like a sause pan and wooden spoon to mix?? trips out to local parks or ball pools or to feed the ducks?
Exploring your new area bit by bit and going home and drawing a map of the place with your daughter. noting the cats on the street corner and where the shop was etc.
I too moved to a new area during the holidays and its a long summer having no friends with children to come and play and chat.
Do you have any neighbours with kids? could you drop an invitation round inviting them for a chat one afternoon?
Camping indoors is fun too. setting up a pretend tent and once the actice camping games are over just put a duvet and books and make a quiet corner.
Hope these ideas break up your days a bit x
post #12 of 14
Put them to bed extra early and drink a bottle of wine!
post #13 of 14
I vote for you a vacation too! We all get overwhelmed at times. Good vibes and feel better vibes for you. I hope you get to relax a bit today. Having kids who are challenged is very difficult and you are making the best of it.
post #14 of 14
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Probably won't have that vacation till our anniversary. Then hubby and I will probably do something special together. But that's not till August, well I suppose that's fastly approaching isn't it.

I seem to be feeling okay this morning.....thus far.....
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