Addicted to Petfinder!

Ahh! I'm driving myself crazy! I want a playmate for Marlee so bad, but am having no luck convincing my dad. But I've still been looking on Petfinder, and have seen so many precious cats and kittens I would love to bring home! Me and my BF have thought out a plan that might work. The reason my dad doesn't want me to get another is because when I come home to visit/or live once I graduate, he doesn't want more than Marlee coming with me. So....we're thinking of adopting a cat/kitten and it living with me here in Cookeville. Then times when we have to go home, it can stay with patrick and his parents. (They have a house that cats love anyways, it has big floor to ceiling windows). Plus, patricks cat is not too great with other kitties right now, so it will work out well....what do y'all think? Would this be too much upheaval for a cat?

I'll let the experts weigh in on whether that's too much upheaval for a cat. Personally (and keep in mind I'm no expert here, not like hissy), I would think that if you get the kitten used to moving between your place and your boyfriend's place at a young age, it would be easier for him/her to accept this in adulthood.

I think you are right, which is why if we do this we will probably look for a kitten, or atleast a young cat (under a year old). And the moving won't be as much as it may sound. Right now we only go home to visit an odd weekend here and there, and if I do end up back at my parent's after graduation, the cat would live full time with Patrick (wether he goes back to his parents, or gets an apartment).

It sounds like Patrick already has one kitty who doesn't get along with other kitties. What will happen with that kitty if the new kitten is staying with Patrick and his parents? And what if things don't work out with you and Patrick long term, will you have a place for the new kitty? Who will pay for the new kitty's vet care and food?

I'm all for people getting pets, and especially for having more than one cat. But while you are still in college and (I'm guessing) dependent on your parents may not be the best time to add to your fur family. I know it is hard to wait, but in a year or two you will be much more able to decide to add fur-kids, IMO.

Originally Posted by Beckiboo

It sounds like Patrick already has one kitty who doesn't get along with other kitties. What will happen with that kitty if the new kitten is staying with Patrick and his parents? And what if things don't work out with you and Patrick long term, will you have a place for the new kitty? Who will pay for the new kitty's vet care and food?

I'm all for people getting pets, and especially for having more than one cat. But while you are still in college and (I'm guessing) dependent on your parents may not be the best time to add to your fur family. I know it is hard to wait, but in a year or two you will be much more able to decide to add fur-kids, IMO.

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Ditto that ...

If Patrick's folks agree, then I think that you have a very agreeable solution. before my last 3 rescues, Joey & JC would do overnights at "Grandmas" when my hubby & have to go out of town. And it is always a good idea to have the cats used to car travel, anyway.

Beckiboo and Sharky, I totally understand where you are coming from. I have no doubt that me and Patrick will stay together, but if there was any reason at all that the kitty needed to live with me full time, I would never think about getting rid of it. It would live with me, even if that meant finding somewhere to live other than my parents. But I do see your points, and this will be a situation that is greatly thought over before anything is done. Also, its not all other cats that Mick doesn't like, but he is too dominant with younger cats. He is a big kitty, and has trouble playing "gently" with kittens. I don't think this would be a problem once the kitten was grown. For example, Marlee and Mick did not get along when Marlee was still a baby. But now that she is grown, her and Mick played well together when his parents kept them earlier this summer. Thank you everyone for your opinions!