Hi. I'm new here and hope I can get some help about my problem heh
So, my cat Darla, who has been part of our family ever since she was a kitten (for about 5 years now i think) has a problem with our other cat who we got about 2 years ago, Gabby is her name. She is full grown, and pretty big, much larger than Darla.
So, even though Darla has been in the house longer, gabby thinks that she owns the place and pretty much made darla scared to be on the first floor of the house. she feels comfortable in the basement, and on the 2nd floor, but when she is on the first floor, she is very easily startled by tiny noises, she is very cautious, when she comes up the stairs from the basement onto the first floor, she will stare down the hallway to see if Gabby is around...and she will let out these kinda hissing noises i think out of her nose, they sound like that noise when you try to breathe out all the way, like farther than you would normally breathe. like a short hiss but its just breathing out air quickly. And if you pick her up she will make a kinda unhappy moaning noise, and she makes this same noise when gabby gets too close too.
So, gabby will do things to make darla jealous like sit on the top of the stairs when darla wants to get up, or just sitting on the food table not even eating, just so darla can't eat. One time gabby was sitting on the top of the couch, darla was just walking by and gabby jumped off of the couch and chased darla for no reason.
I think gabby intimidates darla... she has become so cautious now all the time and is very jumpy at small noises...
She will still play though, i think it releases her stress a lot, and she loves when we pet her on her cheeks. I try to give her attention every day but sometimes she stays outside all night on the roof. I think she likes to go outside so much more often now just to get away from gabby. She will be all tense and nervous looking when she is waiting for me to open the door to outside, but once she gets out there she will trot around with her tail up looking so happy.
I think they would get along if darla wouldn't have such a problem with gabby. Darla is always the first one to hiss at gabby, gabby really will only meow her normal meow at her but sometimes does hiss and chace her.
Do does anyone know what else I can do to help her?
Thanks
wow sorry this post got so long lol
Ooh *edit* both cats are spayed
So, my cat Darla, who has been part of our family ever since she was a kitten (for about 5 years now i think) has a problem with our other cat who we got about 2 years ago, Gabby is her name. She is full grown, and pretty big, much larger than Darla.
So, even though Darla has been in the house longer, gabby thinks that she owns the place and pretty much made darla scared to be on the first floor of the house. she feels comfortable in the basement, and on the 2nd floor, but when she is on the first floor, she is very easily startled by tiny noises, she is very cautious, when she comes up the stairs from the basement onto the first floor, she will stare down the hallway to see if Gabby is around...and she will let out these kinda hissing noises i think out of her nose, they sound like that noise when you try to breathe out all the way, like farther than you would normally breathe. like a short hiss but its just breathing out air quickly. And if you pick her up she will make a kinda unhappy moaning noise, and she makes this same noise when gabby gets too close too.
So, gabby will do things to make darla jealous like sit on the top of the stairs when darla wants to get up, or just sitting on the food table not even eating, just so darla can't eat. One time gabby was sitting on the top of the couch, darla was just walking by and gabby jumped off of the couch and chased darla for no reason.
I think gabby intimidates darla... she has become so cautious now all the time and is very jumpy at small noises...
She will still play though, i think it releases her stress a lot, and she loves when we pet her on her cheeks. I try to give her attention every day but sometimes she stays outside all night on the roof. I think she likes to go outside so much more often now just to get away from gabby. She will be all tense and nervous looking when she is waiting for me to open the door to outside, but once she gets out there she will trot around with her tail up looking so happy.
I think they would get along if darla wouldn't have such a problem with gabby. Darla is always the first one to hiss at gabby, gabby really will only meow her normal meow at her but sometimes does hiss and chace her.
Do does anyone know what else I can do to help her?
Thanks
wow sorry this post got so long lol
Ooh *edit* both cats are spayed