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post #31 of 45
*many hugs and much support*

It's easy for us to say that you did the right thing, and I truly believe that you'll think so, too... but it's still hard to step up and do what needs to be done. Good on you!
post #32 of 45
I know what you're going through, about 12 months ago I was in an almost identical situation to this. I finally came to the point where it was my happiness or him. With the help of my family and friends I came to realise I was more important and deserved to be happy, not someones door mat.

I have now moved forward, have just recently met a wonderful guy (I am being very cautious and taking things very slow) and couldn't be happier. He is now nothing but a distant memory to me.

I wish you all the best and all the strength in the world to get through this. Just keep telling yourself you're too good for him. And when he tries to crawl back.......which I don't doubt he will. Just tell him that "From now on, when you think of me, Remember I was the best thing you COULD OF had!"

Good Luck.
post #33 of 45
We're all proud of you! Stay strong and best of luck. It's a cliche, but when you close one door another one opens for you
post #34 of 45
Originally Posted by JavannaLynn

Oh btw I broke-up with him about an hour ago... and he didn't seem to care really.....
JavannaLynn, I think you had already made that decision before you talked to us, but you just needed a little support. My guess is that although you may miss him, you are happier already. It sounds like there was nothing in it for you.

Hug them kitties!!!
post #35 of 45
so glad you got out while you can.... it's so easy to stay, but takes guts to leave! Best of luck to you!
post #36 of 45

I'm glad you did what you feel was right...and if he didn't care, well that's just way too bad on his part. You deserve more than that.

Good luck moving on.
post #37 of 45
Originally Posted by aphrodeia
*many hugs and much support*

It's easy for us to say that you did the right thing, and I truly believe that you'll think so, too... but it's still hard to step up and do what needs to be done. Good on you!
Good for you!
post #38 of 45
Originally Posted by lilleah
Sometimes they need a real wake-up call to grow up.
That is TRUE
post #39 of 45
Thread Starter 
well... we talked alot last night... we decied I get the apartment because I also get the cats. althought demon was his and angel was mine. I told him I would fight him for the cats and he said no I can have him... he actually seemed more upset that I wouldn't let him have the cat then that I wouldn't let him stay with me. He is moving out. I am not making him hurry I gave him 30 days. I actually left after we broke-up and went to my sister's for a hug. and he got on the computer and was talking to her husband. I couldn't believe it and he didn't say anything to him about it. I can't say he really didn't care.... he just didn't try to talk me out of it. he cried I was kinda suprised. but he did tell me he knew it was coming.
And for what you said lilleah about getting back together. this is the back together. We broke up last feb (over a year ago) and got back together when we went to Ceder Point in may. he moved in with me in July. and things were the same as the first time. We broke up the first time for the same reason all we did was fight. I was unhappy and so was he. He had a fling with some girl he worked with that has had sex with EVERYONE IN TOWN! and I had a little fling with my bestfriend who I think might move in with me (Different Room). He (best friend) is completely in love with me. But I just don't feel it. He would do anything to have me and I know it (no I do not use it against him ever). Maybe something will happen now that I am not with my bf anymore who knows. Not right away I know that for sure. I guess I just take my mother's advise and take it day by day hour by hour.
I really have a hard time believe I really broke up with him. It still makes me cry, even though I know I am better off... I really do love him.... my Angel saw me crying and came to rub on my face... thank-you guys sooooo much....
post #40 of 45
Sorry to chime in late here but I really don't know if letting someone who is totally in love with you move in with you is the best idea. I think that just may lead to some problems. He may be your best friend, but I don't know. I just think I wouldn't rush into something like that yet.
post #41 of 45
I gotta agree with Jen. Don't live with someone who loves you unless you love them back the same way (eg: your sister who loves you like family, your best friend who loves you as a friend, your partner who loves you as a lover).

I've lived with two roommates who had feelings for me and they were both total disasters. I hardly speak to either girl at all anymore and we were close friends when we moved in together.

Advertise for a roommate on Craigslist or on a local university's paper. Finding a new compatible person to live with may just give you the solitude you need to cope with the break up as well as get you up and out to see new things every now and then!

Hugs to you during this hard time.

post #42 of 45
I know how you feel. I was going through something pretty similar, which I am not going to get into on here but if you want to talk and I can explain my story to you and how I am dealing with it, you can send me a message. I am still with the guy though, we ended up working it out.
post #43 of 45
Awww...I feel so bad for you.

It does suck though, huh? Especially since you two tried at the relationship again and nothing change. When you do that you have such high hopes that things will change and if it doesn't its just disappointing.

Think of it this way, better now then being miserable 5 years from now, or 10 years from now (and maybe even with kids).
post #44 of 45
You deserveto be treated better then that, and If I was you i'd walk. I'm experienced when it comes to this, as I was with mine for 4 years, engaged 6 months, then two months ago he ended with me, was cheating on me with a fellow work colleague. He was exactly ythe same as your boyfriend, actually from what you have said they could have been seperated at birth!! Anyway..... at the time of my split i was hurt etc, but i was angry too, thinking of all the stuff i had done for him, being supportive etc and what do i get in return, cheated on!!
YOU DESERVE BETTER, as i do, you deserve someone who treats you well, listens to you and treats you like the princess you really are.
Good luck with your decision only you can make it. x
post #45 of 45
Thread Starter 
well as for everyone who said I should move in with my bestfirend you are wrong. I was dating my bf knowing he like me and he just delt with it.
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