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Sad week for me

post #1 of 26
Thread Starter 
Alright, I figure I might as well tell everyone what's going on with me, as I think my sad mood may come across in some of my posts.

I recently broke up with my live in boyfriend of 3 years, and it is the hardest time I have ever had dealing with anything. He is a wonderful, kind and loyal guy and I have so much fun with him. But I just didn't feel that forever connection with him, and I so I decided that sooner is better than later to end it so we can both have another chance at complete happiness.

I appreciate everyone that helped me through along the way, and please don't stop the hugs yet. I am devastated by this change in my life. We have been pretty much inseperable for 3 years. I have no close friends around here and your support helps more than you know.

post #2 of 26

That's going to be hard, I know. But you made the right decision and you'll be happier in the long run.
post #3 of 26
I'm so sorry to hear about this

I know how you feel, I really do - a little over a year ago, I broke up with my boyfriend of 5 years - it was really hard, but it just wasn't 'there' anymore - (plus he was cheating, but thats a whole other story)

I hope you 2 can remain friends, if you need to talk, just send me a PM
post #4 of 26
I am so sorry I know how hard breakups are all I can do is send hugs there are now words to express the anguish you feel and how sad we feel for you friend,
post #5 of 26
lots of hugs Natalie You definitely did the right thing though, never settle! You have my admiration for taking this step, most people don't have the guts to do this, I split with my ex-husband last year because I realized that I was just not HAPPY with him, life was fine, but I just didn't love him anymore.... like Mackenzie, if you ever want to talk, just PM me
post #6 of 26
Natalie, many, many coming your way!

You are one strong girl and I know that you'll be able to come out the other side knowing that you did the right thing for you both!
post #7 of 26
That is so hard, and you are very courageous to have done it - too many people just carry on and hope for the best, which NEVER happens in my experience once things have gone that far. The bad time will come to an end, and in your heart you know it is for the best, so go out and give yourself some little treats every day until you feel better. Good luck.
post #8 of 26
Oh I'm so sorry for you well done to you though for having the strength to admit it wasn't right. I hope things get easier for you soon. I too am going through a little stress just now nothing to do with my relationship though thankfully, these boards certainly help take my mind off things.
We're all here if you need to talk
post #9 of 26
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Originally Posted by jennyranson
That is so hard, and you are very courageous to have done it - too many people just carry on and hope for the best, which NEVER happens in my experience once things have gone that far. The bad time will come to an end, and in your heart you know it is for the best, so go out and give yourself some little treats every day until you feel better. Good luck.


Hang in there. We are always here to talk or to give you a laugh when you need it.
post #10 of 26
Oh Nat, I've been there, so I know the hurt it causes, even when you know it's for the best........time will help. That and getting out and meeting new people, etc.
post #11 of 26


Breakups are always hard, especially when there is nothing you can really pinpoint for the ending of it, but you did the right thing not settling for something that isn't what you want.

I am always at the end of a PM or email if you need to talk, i know what its like being somewhere new and not having good friends around to chat with, it stinks but remember we are all here for you... and in a way its better having online people because they aren't tangled up in the mess of friendships etc
post #12 of 26
I am so sorry that your relationship did not work out! Hugs to you at this rough time!
post #13 of 26
Break ups are so hard. My best advice for this is to spend some time getting to know you as a person. Being with someone for three years sometimes has people defining you as part of a couple, not for who you are. You are going to be fine. You are a strong beautiful person, and you will find the love of your life. Trust me. Mine delievered a movie and some beer to my dorm room.
post #14 of 26
That's a sin you have to go through so much pain... you are SO brave and courageous in taking that step. Not many people would do it... that is a very admirable quality. I know it's really hard right now, but time does heal all wounds. All you will make it through this!

I agree with some of the others, you should take some YOU time. Time to heal, time to be yourself, time to rediscover the many qualities of YOU. Try to maybe get into something that you've always wanted to do, but never did. Maybe a salsa class, or something fun like that. That's one of those things I've always wanted to do, but never have the time. You can meet people in your area, learn something new, and have a great time too!

Try to keep your chin up! We're here for you if you need us! I'm happy to talk anytime you need to!
post #15 of 26
Aww hun!! I am so sorry to hear this. This must be extremely hard for you.



Many hugs for you!!
post #16 of 26
hug hug hug hug hug hug hug!
post #17 of 26
Awww hun I'm so sorry to hear about this, it's devastating to break off a relationship after soo long but you have to go with your heart and do what's right for you.

If you ever need to chat my messangers are in my profile here.....just IM or PM me okay.
post #18 of 26
Trust me, it will get better and there is someone out there that is the love of your life!
post #19 of 26
i know we don't know eachother, but i just wanted to tell you that i think it's really brave, what you did, and if you didn't feel that forever connection with him, you've made the right decision.

i know it's not easy right now, but at least now your possibilities are open, and you are able to meet that person who can make your breath catch just by looking into your eyes..the person you want to spend so much time with that forever doesn't seem like enough. you're experiencing pain right now, in the short term, but in the long term, you will gain-self respect and self confidence because you made the right decision, and eventually, true love, because you held out for it, and didn't settle for second best.
post #20 of 26
Thread Starter 
All I can say is Thanks
You all have no idea how much this all means to me. You are all amazing people to be there for me when you don't even know me. It feels great to have this TCS support system, I don't know what I would do without you guys
post #21 of 26
Aww!! I know its hard right now but you are doing the right thing! There is no snese in dragging the relationship out because it is comfortable!! You can pm me if you need to talk!! I broke up with my b/f of 3 years about 3 years ago and it was so hard. I am def. here for you!!
post #22 of 26
Awe, you are amazing and brave and smart and kind. Not only did you do the right thing for you, but the right thing for him as well. I'm sorry it has to hurt this much to do the right thing but just take the time to grieve and love yourself and you will feel better soon. We are all here for you and care about you
post #23 of 26
It is easier to stay, rather than leave. I'm glad you stood your ground.
post #24 of 26
I'm sorry to hear about your relationship Natalie. We've had other members who came to TCS for support and they've done well. Take care and maintain the positive things you have going for you.
post #25 of 26
I think that support goes around full circle....alot of folks were really supportive of me when I was first starting going through the drama with my folks (or ex folks I should say). And it's simmering down now only cause I've gotten out of dodge so to speak.

So what I'm basically saying is I'm glad that we all could be here for you Natalie.
post #26 of 26
As you already know you have my support I wish you the best.
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