Feeling really down....

A depressed rant here...

Am I hitting middle age early?

I'm 37, single and depressed.

I have an awesome job working with the YMCA at Camp Whittle here in Big Bear. I'm meeting some wonderful people from all over the world who come to work here for the summer...England, Australia, Ukraine, Russia, Columbia, etc....the problem is that I got this job to work with kids and I've been here since mid- May and kids have yet to come. Program was to start the first weekend of June. I have no idea when it is to start.

I've been single, i.e. no girlfriend, since 1991. I just can't seem to find anyone. I've kinda resigned myself to a life of celibacy, but it would be nice to have someone close. I've had some "almosts", but nothing that actually took off. I enjoy my privacy, I've "gotten used to" being alone, but to not be able to share my joys in life with someone really takes a toll on me sometimes...

Working at this camp has been a real boost, because I don't get out much, but at the same time, I'm depressed because the ratio of women to men is about 3 to 1. The kicker is that the ones I'm interested in are all too young. This one girl I like, I just found out she isn't even 21 yet! I used to be such a good teller of ages! One of the oldest ones I like is 26.

I feel I'm smart, my IQ is a little over 100, but I relate to people that are alot younger than me. My 2 best friends from HS are my age, but new people I meet are so much younger! I guess that mentally, I'm still young, but physically, I'm almost 40! Maybe it's because I didn't have many friends when I was in my 20's.

My managers at work don't tell much so when something happens, it's usually out of someone else's mouth. Just today, I was told that the camp group picture was taken today. The ONE day I don't stay for dinner. (I'm one of about 4 people that don't live on-site). I'm working 6 days a week for less than minimum wage, if you break down my salary! If I didn't enjoy hanging out with my fellow staff, I'd go back to McDonald's and make more money and work less!

It seems like the only thing I have going for myself is that I'm in school to become a school teacher. That, and I'm finally getting my business off the ground! Oh...and my precious boy, Whisky!


So sorry for the rant, but I needed to release some pressure and see if anyone can relate...
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Thank you for reading...

Oh hun! You are only as old as you want to feel. There is someone for everyone. proof: My fiance and I were 700 miles and 13 hour apart when we started dating. Check into some local area singles clubs. Like a favorite radio station. Sometimes they will have date lines. Also check into online dating services. It's not uncommon anymore. Also age is just a number. I cannot stress this enough: You are only as old as you want to feel. Enjoy life, make the most of it.

In the mean time, submerge yourself in attaining your golas of becoming a teacher and getting your business going!

And remember nothing is sexier to a woman than self confidence!

Good luck and we're here for ya if ya need anything!

I thought you were male?
Whiskers Dad??

I met my Husband via a singles page. when I did it it was 13 years ago and still felt quite shy about telling people. These days its the only way to go.
If you were house hunting you wouldn't only look at houses you passed in your car!
So join a dating agency. so many plus points. you know the person is single and looking for a relationship. you know how old they are. all that before you start.
You sound a really lovely person and its time you found the love you deserve.
Go for it!
good luck x

Try going to cat shows and meeting people maybe?Or shows for other animals you enjoy and meeting people.Do you all on this site post about the cat shows and who's going to them and try to meet eachother like my friends and I on the horse forum i'm on?Maybe one of your friends that have gotten to know you on this site might know someone you might click with.And that radio station singles idea is a good one too.You have to get out there in a group with the same interests as you have and let people know you're single and looking.And forsure don't settle,don't settle for someone that is any less than you're looking for.When I met my husband I lived in Indiana but knew I planed to move back to Arkansas so before I would even start dating him I asked if he would be willing to relocate if things worked out.He also had to be an animal lover and there were about four other things.If he had not matched those things I would have known it would be a waste of time and emotions and would not have even started seeing him.SO make your list of your minimum requirements.Know what you're looking for then let your friends and other singles know.I sure hope this helps !By the way I am 36,37 in Aug. so I understand a lot of what you are going through.Your new kitty friend,Moniece

You mention your working 6 days a week?. You know the saying about all work and no play?!.

I agree with joining a dating agency because theres so many members here who have found their partners this way.

I met my partner via the computer but it was really through a friend of mine who's known Gil for 6 years. Unknown to me she gave Gil my yahoo id and weve been together now for 7 months

Gil lives in Scotland at the moment but is planning on moving down with me once his house is sold.

Who cares about the age factor!. Hey if you click with someone then go for it because lifes too short to worry about that

Oh and 37, your still in your prime!

I want to tell you about my DH because it might help you. DH stopped dating when he was 26 years old. He had been hurt, badly and until he was 43 he did not find a woman he found attractive and good enough to take home... That woman was me. We got married when he was 44 years old and he is now 45 (he turned 45 one month after we were married). It was both our first marriage. He couldn't be happier... and guess what? He's GLAD he had to wait so long for me... He learned a lot about himself and about life in that time. It may seem like the wait is long... but guess what? It is better than settling for someone you wouldn't want to spend your life with, that's the truth, because if you just settled you would be miserable.

And in case you are wondering... I was 24 when we married... Yes, that's a full 20 years difference. I don't care, don't mind and it really doesn't bother me. He's my best friend, the best man I could ask for... There is NOTHING wrong with liking people younger than you. I happen to like people older than me that's all. (Ya know which actor I think is hot? Michaell Caine... hehehe)

I told you my DH's story to let you know... she's there... she just maybe taking her time. God just might be making sure you REALLY want her is all

Best of Luck hon... and if you need anyone to talk to let me know, if you prefer to talk to my DH I'm sure he wouldn't mind encouraging you.

One thing I've realised is the best time to find someone is when you're not looking (and not just saying you're not looking, but really aren't looking). I had just gotten back into the dating game after a year, and went out with 2 people that I didn't feel were right for a month or two.
As I'm focused on giving up again B walks into my life. We have an 8 year separation (He's 36 and I'm 28), but he looks and acts like he's still in his 20s...ok he still acts like he's 18 sometimes...

We actually met through our local Jaycees chapter. We were both volunteering there and helping out the community. Check out to see if you have a local chapter. They're pretty good about offering a variety of functions, such as community development, leadership development, socializing, etc. Plus they range in age of 21-40, and I know many of the people in the chapter we were in were 26+.

Good luck and hang in there!

Oh gosh, you are not all that different than alot of us. I thought I'd be single the rest of my life too, but at 37, I met Jerry online and we've been happily married for almost 6 years now.......go online!!! You'll be surprised!

If it is difficult to meet people with similar interests to you I would join some organizations. As I am into gardening I joined several area gardening organizations to meet people with similar interests.
I agree with the others that you meet that special person when you least expect it!!

I'm only 31 and I feel the same way! But, I have hope I'll find someone when I move to Canada!

I am 28 and also in the same boat ... Some of my friends that are near retirement tell me I am an old soul

I'm almost 36 and in the same boat -

It seems like the only thing I have going for myself is that I'm in school to become a school teacher. That, and I'm finally getting my business off the ground! Oh...and my precious boy, Whisky!

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You so that. Go do something and don't give up. You are bound to find someone.

BTW - you're only a 5 hour drive or south of were I live.

See everyone does the online deal. Let me tell you, my current fiance lived 700 miles away and he moved here for me in less than a month when things got really serious. And what's even more insane, he's my ex's best friend. That's how I met him. And I dated my ex who lived in the same town 700 miles away for a year. My fiance liked me the entire time my ex and I were together and waited for me to become "available" again.

So to make a long story short: I met my ex online, got with his best friend, who moved here for me a month after we got togehter, and am to be married on march 24,2007 after being good friends for 1 year and datinf for 2+!

Good luck and cheer up chuck!

Originally Posted by greycat2

I'm almost 36 and in the same boat - BTW - you're only a 5 hour drive or south of were I live.

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Hummmmmmmmm, only 5 hours away huh?? Hummmmmmmmmmmm

Hmm 5 short driving hours. do we have a photo swap?!

Originally Posted by greycat2

I'm almost 36 and in the same boat -



You so that. Go do something and don't give up. You are bound to find someone.

BTW - you're only a 5 hour drive or south of were I live.

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5 hours, huh? That would make you in Merced/Modesto area, right? SF, maybe?

Thank you all for your heartfelt replies. It's just that everything seemed to come into my mind at the same time and I overloaded.

I'm going to let your replies sink in and then I'll take the appropriate action of what I need to do.

Thanks again!

Keith

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5 hours, huh? That would make you in Merced/Modesto area, right? SF, maybe?

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FIRST I pity ANYONE living in Modesto THIS WEEK - gonna hit 112 degrees

Secondly YOU are NOT middle aged - you are STILL a youngster with PLENTLY of time to find someone.

Stop looking for "mate" and just look for a friend. MANY times friends become the BEST mates!

a GREAT place to look for other lonely people is in CHURCH! Look for the woman who is siting alone!

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FIRST I pity ANYONE living in Modesto THIS WEEK - gonna hit 112 degrees

Secondly YOU are NOT middle aged - you are STILL a youngster with PLENTLY of time to find someone.

Stop looking for "mate" and just look for a friend. MANY times friends become the BEST mates!

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About 95% of the time I do this, it ends up like, "You are such a "nice guy". You are like a brother to me"!