Originally Posted by Trouts mom
What is it like? How do you feel about your spouse? What are your general thoughts on a successful marriage. I'm very curious for some reason, as I don't see myself getting married and I don't know why.
Me and my hubby are best friends, we joke, we share everything.
We like to say we are going to be that old couple on the park bench poking each other with our canes....that's just how we are.
I mean the keys to marriage are the same keys to any successful relationship:
- Trust is important, without it you have nothing.
- Communication is key, make sure to always keep that line of communication open.
- Know that you are going to have your differences (especially important with marriage), cause when you are married you have to remember you are two different people and personalities and try to make it work.
- Affection, very key. Give and take....and it should go both ways. Nothing should be forced.
My husband and I made a deal we have never broken, never go to bed angry. After a fight we do give each other space but afterwards we sit down and talk about it.
Another key thing we do for our relationship is have "amnesty" discussions. The biggest thing there is you say exactly what is bothering you (this is the trust and honesty thing coming in) but both parties absolutely swear not to get angry about whatever it is the other party is saying. That way you don't hold back on your feelings and bottle them up. Which can always cause things to fester and get all pussy and yucky...know what I mean.
Also....once apologies are rendered....that's the end of it. What's done is done. There is no need to bring up past indescretions (and I'm not talking about the biggies *cheating, ect*)...basic stuff...like "Well you were the one...blah blah blah"
It takes work to make it work. But it is also a wonderful thing. I am truly blessed to have my husband in my life. Another thing while I'm at it. Once you've found the one...and he treats you right.
Don't let anyone tear you apart just cause they don't like him/her. If you know they are a good person and you know that they make you feel better than you've ever felt....hold onto that and don't let go.
This comes from my own personal experiance as right now my folks would love it if they could tear my relationship apart just cause they hate my husband. Ain't gonna happen.
We've been married 4 years on August 16th. There hasn't been a single night that we haven't talked about anything and everything. He knows me better than anyone else.
Okay I'm done....sorry it's so long winded.