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post #1 of 27
Thread Starter 
I have an adult, not neutered, male cat (about 3 years old). I brought him to Canada five months ago from middle east where I used to work.

I found him when he was about 1 year old, he was homeless.

Two months ago, I moved to a new house, and since that I use a leash to walk him about 2 hours per day.

The problem is, he doesn't stop crying once we get home He always wants more walking and going to the little jungle near by!

He jumped once from the second floor window, and I searched for him all the night... I spoted him the next day (3 PM) passing from the other side of the street (maybe he wasn't planning to come back).

I think his searching for a female, and that's why he's crying that much.

I'm thinking of letting him go out by himself. But I am afraid he doesn't come back. I love him to death. I don't want to let him go but I feel he's like a bird in a gold cage!

Please tell me what to do!

I would really appreciate any help.
post #2 of 27
Please have him neutered. It will solve alot of the behaviour problems. When an unaltered male is in search of mating they will go to just about ANY lengths to do so. Including endangering his life. I suggest you keep him inside and even in a secure room until you have him neutered. He will be healther and live longer and happier with himself. He's hormonally maturing and is very confused. Do yourself and him a favor and have this done. You both will benefit from him. He wont be uncomfortable anymore and you won't have to see him suffer!
post #3 of 27
Thread Starter 
Thanks a lot for your reply. But I am not willing to get him neutered at all. I like him the way he is
Thanks again.
post #4 of 27
Why on earth wouldn't you want to neuter your cat? You like him the way he is??!! You come on here complaining about his misery at being locked indoors, yet, when someone offers a very logical solution, you scoff. I'm fairly new on here, but I have a feeling you are about to get reamed. Good luck!
post #5 of 27
Thread Starter 
Neutering a cat is NOT an obligation. It's a personal preference.
post #6 of 27
How wonderful that you are taking your cat out on walks on a leash, he must enjoy that so much!

As much as he enjoys the outdoors, please do not let him outside by himself. As you have witnessed before when he got out on his own, he may not come back home to you There are far too many dangers out there such as other animals, human dangers, cars and many more. I know you must love your cat very much, so please keep him indoors where he will stay safe.

As for neutering your cat, you are soon to find out that this site is very pro spay/neuter. I believe that neutering your cat will help the fact that he will want to get out, for mating purposes. We have a 1 year old cat that we have neutered and his behaviour has changed so much for the better!

If you feel that your cat feels like a 'bird in a cage', maybe you can invest in a cat tree/condo for him (if you haven't already ) or some fun toys to keep him occupied when you aren't able to take him outside with you.

Good luck with everything, I hope you find some answers here!
post #7 of 27
An unneutered male on his own outside will be involved in catfights. Since he has been a pampered housecat for 3 years, his fighting skills will be poor. I do not think he will survive. Please keep him inside, except on a leash.

The reason he is so unhappy is because he has a sexual drive with no outlet. That may seem "natural" to you, but it seems cruel to me.

My boy Will is an in and out cat. He was born outside, and adopted us. Before he was neutered, he was involved in 2 fights requiring vet intervention...once he had a hole in his face where you could look right into his sinus! He still fights, because I feel the scratches sometimes when I pet his head. He is still male, just no longer able to reproduce. It is certainly your decision on what you do with your cat, but it is also your responsibility.
post #8 of 27
I don't understand why you would choose to let an unaltered cat be in your house. They have a tendancy to spray, be aggressive and will go through hell to get the chance to mate. Why put a cat through this unless you're a breeder?
I guess it's your personal choice but you're hurting him more then anything, because it seems by your posts that he's caught the scent of a female in heat and is willing to go anywhere to find her. True he may NOT come back to you as he may be hurt, maimed or killed in the process of finding her.
IMO: I'd keep him indoors permanently. I have four indoor cats that are content and two of them were feral outdoor cats before I had the pleasure of their company. Yes they are all neutered and spayed. I do not want them fighting or spraying in my house. I feel your preference is not the best choice for your cat and that could possibly endanger his life if he gets out and you can't find him.
post #9 of 27
AngryC, you have asked, rather passionately it seems, for our advice, but when it is given, you reject it out of hand. As a new member, it would be a good idea if you familiarized yourself with the board rules, among which (#2), you will find that this community is strongly pro-spay and neuter. It should come as no surprise, then, that members are urging you to reconsider your stance. This board is dedicated to cat welfare, and with the exception of responsible breeding, leaving your animal intact is not considered to be in his best interest. We will do everything we can to give you good advice, and you are certainly entitled to your opinion -- and to make your own decision -- but please do not expect support in this community for a decision not to neuter your cat.
post #10 of 27
I am like the others, I say it woudl be in his and your best intrest that he gets altered. If you let him out unaltered so many bad things could happen: Catfights-they can be deadly, Him not coming back, him getting other female cats preg.-then you would have a whole yard full of cats. Most felame cats have 4-6 kittens per litter. Then before long those reproduce, and so on and so forth.

You more than likely have a femal cat near by that he is smelling (cats have a wonderful sense of smell) and wanting to get at.

I am highly interested in WHY you don't want your kitty altered????
post #11 of 27
Also unaltered male cats are notorious for spraying peoples houses until they reek!
post #12 of 27
It's all been said in this thread already but I thought I'd add a link to our relevant article as well -
http://www.thecatsite.com/Care/177/S...Your-Cats.html
post #13 of 27
Quote:
Originally Posted by AngryC
Neutering a cat is NOT an obligation. It's a personal preference.
Are you prepared to take responsibility for rehoming the thousands of kittens he will father if you allow him out unneutered?

I think it's cruel to keep a cat unneutered and then not allow him to mate. His hormones are urging him to find a female and mate but you're not allowing him to. He must be very frustrated. And if he's not spraying in your house already he probably will do at some point. He'd be much happier if you neutered him and you'd have a more easy going pet who wouldn't want to be outside all the time.
post #14 of 27
I am in agreement with the others on this board...and although I think it's wonderful that you are taking your cat on walks I think that having him altered would be in his best interest and it may help with the smell you have been having problems with in your home.
http://www.thecatsite.com/forums/showthread.php?t=87545
post #15 of 27
We have a male cat that is usually outside more than inside. He came to our house when he was a stray, and we kept him. Before we neutered him, he wouldn't use the litter box, he got into a lot of fights, and he ran away a lot.. usually for a week or two at a time. Now that he's neutered, he never runs away, we never see him fighting with other cats, and he always uses the litter boxes in the house. All of our cats are neutered/spayed. We couldn't stand the way they acted when they weren't. I agree with everyone that says that neutering will make him a lot happier.
post #16 of 27
I would just like to point out that is a myth that neutering a cat drastically changes his personality, they do not become lazy, they may calm down, but isn't that a good thing? and Miss Mew made a GREAT point, he is undoubtedly spraying in your house and that is why it smells, I would personally never have an unneutered male in my house because of that
post #17 of 27
Quote:
Originally Posted by urbantigers
Are you prepared to take responsibility for rehoming the thousands of kittens he will father if you allow him out unneutered?

I think it's cruel to keep a cat unneutered and then not allow him to mate. His hormones are urging him to find a female and mate but you're not allowing him to. He must be very frustrated. And if he's not spraying in your house already he probably will do at some point. He'd be much happier if you neutered him and you'd have a more easy going pet who wouldn't want to be outside all the time.
I completely agree with everyone else on this, so I can't say much more but,
Please watch this video:

http://www.thecatsite.com/forums/showthread.php?t=84292
post #18 of 27
If you do decide for whatever reason-- and I am also interested to know what that reason is-- to refuse neutering your cat, please do not let him outside at all, not even on a leash. If you have him neutered, continuing the walks on a leash or some other type of supervised outdoor activity are great.

People with unneutered male cats allowed outdoors often deny that they are contributing to the overpopulation problem because of course they never see the kittens. However, you must realize that your cat will be causing pregnancies and so creating more homeless kittens. It is as much the responsibility of male cat owners to neuter their cats as it is for female cats to be spayed.

Please read through some of the other members of this boards' postings in the Health and Nutrition forum and also, sadly, the Rainbow Bridge forum to find out what happens to cats allowed outside unsupervised.

The idea that not letting your cats have free roam is cruel is a myth, and there are many ways to help an indoor cat be perfectly happy indoor-only, as well as being safer, healthier, etc. What will make your cat even happier and well-adjusted is to have him neutered, as he will no longer have the mind-numbing urge to mate at all costs. It does not make him less of a "man" any more than having a hysterectomy makes someone less of a "woman".
post #19 of 27
It is very dangerous to let a cat outside.... especially an un neutered male. They are very territorial, and I'm sure another male already has claimed that territory. He will be in fights...it's almost guarenteed. My cat got out once when I was a teenager, and she was attacked by something, it blinded her in the eye, and cut up her face alot. Her eye was bulging out, and even worse than that her spirit was broken. She was never the same again. A different time, there were these outside cats that my mom would put food/water out for and make sure they had a dog house with hay/blankets in the winter, they got used to us kids and were pretty friendly...anyway, 1 time the 1 boy got hit by a car... he died in my arms, he was in so much pain and struggling to breathe. It was a horrible experience that I wouldn't wish on anyone. And I would NEVER NEVER let my baby girl outside with out a leash.... NEVER.

And that doesn't even touch the fact that he'll be getting every stray in the neighborhood pregnant, therefore causing tons of unwanted, unfed, untamed, unloved kittens to survive in the winters of the wild....
post #20 of 27
Actually, neutering an intact male IS an obligation as a RESPONSIBLE pet owner, if you are going to let him roam outdoors. If you are going to keep him inside, not having him neutered is ok, but he is going to call all night long and he will spray inside your home. There is another option, if you feel you do not want him to be neutered. You can build an enclosure for him, that is if you have your own home where you can build such an enclosure. That way, he can go out in the enclosure, will not be able to run free and make many unwanted homeless kittens and he will be safe from all the dangers of running free. One of the biggest dangers are cruel people. Having him neutered will also make him more loving. He will not be stressed from the constant desire to mate. This can also lead to aggressive behavior. Please, have him neutered. This is the best thing you can do for your cat I hope you don't feel we are picking on you, we are not. We just want you to realize, how very important it is to have your pets spayed or neutered
post #21 of 27
Thread Starter 
Thank you for your replies. But... I'll NOT get him neutered, never ever.
For many reasons... One reason is because I want a little boy from him before he dies
post #22 of 27

There are SO many homeless kittens out there that could be adopted! That is absoluetly ridiculous! I know we all think of our cats as our children on here BUT you would do what was best for your child wouldn't you?

That is SO.........I have to bite my tongue or I will get into ALOT of trouble!
post #23 of 27
i really dont mean to offend but other than that are there any REALLY good reasons that you wont have him neutered? would you use your own female cat or someone elses? do you even know what kind of work taking care of kittens are?

why not just adopt a cat or foster? there are so many homeless and needy cats that want and need to be adopted or fostered. i know it wouldent be the same but maybe you could adopt a boy kitten that looks like him or something.

it is so important to not add to the over population of homeless cats. please please please reconsider your decision.

when my friend got her cat neutered, it didnt change his personality at all (except fot the wanting to get out all the time). please do what is responsible and best for your cat. he'll thank you for it.
post #24 of 27
Quote:
Originally Posted by AngryC
Thank you for your replies. But... I'll NOT get him neutered, never ever.
For many reasons... One reason is because I want a little boy from him before he dies


Well, that is very selfish of you to think about yourself before the health and wellbeing of your cat.

Actually, to be honest, it surprises me that you are on this website. Clearly, you do not beleive in giving your furkids the best possible life.

I'm almost convinced that you are on here simply to cause a little angst. You are not even considering what we are saying to you, even if it's better for your cat.

I really want to say so much more, but instead a few of these will have to suffice
post #25 of 27
Quote:
Well, that is very selfish of you to think about yourself before the health and wellbeing of your cat.

Actually, to be honest, it surprises me that you are on this website. Clearly, you do not beleive in giving your furkids the best possible life.

I'm almost convinced that you are on here simply to cause a little angst. You are not even considering what we are saying to you, even if it's better for your cat.

I really want to say so much more, but instead a few of these will have to suffice
i totally agree with troutsmom
post #26 of 27
Why would you want a baby can from your cat when there's hundreds of cats out there that are abandoned everyday because noone wants them?
Are you willing to care for everyone of the litters your cat produces? Apparently not. IMO you are selfish and mean to your animal. You KNOW what is right, you came here for an answer and we gave you options, and still you are telling us that spaying is not an option. I hope your cat never gets out because you'll never know if he's bred or not. Then there will be MORE unwanted cats in the world because you didn't want to get your cat fixed. How sad..
post #27 of 27
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