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I REALLY am at a complete loss and could use a hand from some experienced cat owners, and I know it's a bit lengthy, but I wanted to provide as much info as possible.
Ok, so I adopted Dante from the pound a little over a month ago, he was 7 months old. I had him neutered, he and I get along splendidly, hes not the most cuddly cat but we have a nice relationship and thats all great.
Anyways, a couple weeks ago I heard a meowing out behind my work and after a search a few of us tilted the dumpster over to find a kitten trapped underneath it, which had been there since the morning before, about 30 hours ago. So I took her to the vet, got her cleaned up and all her shots and everything and are ready to bring her home (I utterly despise the way the animals are kept at the pound, so of course I'm going to try to keep her).
Enter dilemma.
I let them sniff eachother through the cat carrier (the kitten is 5 weeks old by the way) and there was no hissing, so I thought "Ok they seem to be alright, I can see how they do if I open the cage, I'll just watch them to make sure its ok". Well, they start wrestling a little, but neither of them are making sounds, so I figure its just a dominance thing or play. After awhile the kitten started to make a sort of agitated sound when Dante would pin her, didnt sound angry or anything, just...grrr, i guess.
So I decided it was enough play time and set her up in my bathroom, with her own litter box/food bowls/bed/toys etc. Shes been here for about a week now, and I go in and sit and play with her, and she is adorable and loving and sleeps on my lap and so she and i get along great as well. And she and Dante play footsies under the door all the time and when she meows he meows back, sometimes at me.
Now, I've been letting her out every now and then for monitored interaction time with Dante each day and it's always the same, they wrestle and chase (always Dante chasing her). Dantes ears are back sometimes, which I know to be an aggressive kind of thing for cats...and he seems to bite at her, but doesnt scratch or break the skin, hasnt ripped furr or anything either. Still, no hissing, but it looks like hes being too rough and the kitten might be hurt or scared, so I'll give a short, sharp hiss and he'll back off. But, then the kitten gets up and runs and tackles his leg (although sometimes she'll run and hide under me)...leaving me confused and them back at it. Sometimes when he pins her though he licks her bottom alot...which I don't know what that means, I hoped it was a positive, grooming kind of thing but it doesn't last long before theyre beating eachother (actually, Dante is the only one doing the beating) up again.
Is that playing or real dangerous aggression between them? Have I ruined their chances of getting along by the way I introduced them? What can I do to help establish a friendship with them? How can I tell when hes crossed the line from showing dominance to just wanting to kill her? I can't think of anything else but just ask if you have questions...please help me to get these two to get along!
Ok, so I adopted Dante from the pound a little over a month ago, he was 7 months old. I had him neutered, he and I get along splendidly, hes not the most cuddly cat but we have a nice relationship and thats all great.
Anyways, a couple weeks ago I heard a meowing out behind my work and after a search a few of us tilted the dumpster over to find a kitten trapped underneath it, which had been there since the morning before, about 30 hours ago. So I took her to the vet, got her cleaned up and all her shots and everything and are ready to bring her home (I utterly despise the way the animals are kept at the pound, so of course I'm going to try to keep her).
Enter dilemma.
I let them sniff eachother through the cat carrier (the kitten is 5 weeks old by the way) and there was no hissing, so I thought "Ok they seem to be alright, I can see how they do if I open the cage, I'll just watch them to make sure its ok". Well, they start wrestling a little, but neither of them are making sounds, so I figure its just a dominance thing or play. After awhile the kitten started to make a sort of agitated sound when Dante would pin her, didnt sound angry or anything, just...grrr, i guess.
So I decided it was enough play time and set her up in my bathroom, with her own litter box/food bowls/bed/toys etc. Shes been here for about a week now, and I go in and sit and play with her, and she is adorable and loving and sleeps on my lap and so she and i get along great as well. And she and Dante play footsies under the door all the time and when she meows he meows back, sometimes at me.
Now, I've been letting her out every now and then for monitored interaction time with Dante each day and it's always the same, they wrestle and chase (always Dante chasing her). Dantes ears are back sometimes, which I know to be an aggressive kind of thing for cats...and he seems to bite at her, but doesnt scratch or break the skin, hasnt ripped furr or anything either. Still, no hissing, but it looks like hes being too rough and the kitten might be hurt or scared, so I'll give a short, sharp hiss and he'll back off. But, then the kitten gets up and runs and tackles his leg (although sometimes she'll run and hide under me)...leaving me confused and them back at it. Sometimes when he pins her though he licks her bottom alot...which I don't know what that means, I hoped it was a positive, grooming kind of thing but it doesn't last long before theyre beating eachother (actually, Dante is the only one doing the beating) up again.
Is that playing or real dangerous aggression between them? Have I ruined their chances of getting along by the way I introduced them? What can I do to help establish a friendship with them? How can I tell when hes crossed the line from showing dominance to just wanting to kill her? I can't think of anything else but just ask if you have questions...please help me to get these two to get along!