Originally Posted by katiemae1277
mission accomplished!! The crazy cat lady triumphs again!!!!!
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I just lost it at work!
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I would have done the same thing. I have done the same thing actually as I am sure most of us here has.
"Crazy Cat lady" is a badge that you wear with pride and honor.
The fact that your "guilt" over her feelings regarding your confrontation certainly shows that you are considering all sides of this situation whereas she is only concerned with her immediate situation of what to do with the cat and gives no concern with the cat.
Sometimes a little passion in ones beliefs is contageous.
It looks like yours is rubbing off on her.
Which is a good thing. 1 less person in the world that has that stoopied mentality of its "just a cat". ARRRGH i hate that. The complete lack of respect for anything living other than humans kill me. St Francis be with all hearts who neglect to honor our animals.
Thank you for being a crazy cat lady.
"Crazy Cat lady" is a badge that you wear with pride and honor.
The fact that your "guilt" over her feelings regarding your confrontation certainly shows that you are considering all sides of this situation whereas she is only concerned with her immediate situation of what to do with the cat and gives no concern with the cat.
Sometimes a little passion in ones beliefs is contageous.
It looks like yours is rubbing off on her.
Which is a good thing. 1 less person in the world that has that stoopied mentality of its "just a cat". ARRRGH i hate that. The complete lack of respect for anything living other than humans kill me. St Francis be with all hearts who neglect to honor our animals.
Thank you for being a crazy cat lady.
Ok, now I'm going to "throw a cat amongst the pigeons". Do you know her situation or how long she's had the cat for?
We moved to the US recently from Australia and left our kitty back in Australia. 6 months earlier, someone was looking for a home for her kitty because she couldn't keep it anymore. If she didn't find a home by that Friday she was taking it to the RSPCA. She was 10 or 11 years old, and kitten season was just finishing, and I knew she wouldn't last if she went there.
We knew at this time there was the possibility we were going overseas, but we took her in anyway because we couldn't bear the alternative. When it came time for us to move, we found her a new loving home rather than bring her with us. It would have cost us a fortune, and we knew from day 1 she may be a "temporary cat". We had 1 month temporary accommodation over here in the US organised for us, and it was going to take 6-8 weeks for our furniture to arrive by sea freight, so the cat would have had a long flight to deal with, up to 2 months in a cattery while we got settled and we had no idea whether apartments where we were moving were going to be pet friendly. All we knew is Silcon Valley was very expensive, and we didn't want to have to be picky about what we could take if people generally didnt accept pets.
We found her a wonderful older single man who lived on his own, had cats all his life, and promised to love and adore her. What do you think was better for her? Going through all that stress of moving overseas or finding a nice, loving home with someone else? We've heard from her new owner a couple of times and she's doing really well, and had settled into his house and was sleeping on his bed with him within 2 days, so I know we made the right decision.
Please try not to be too judgemental with people, especially if you don't know the whole story. And remember that there's people out there who don't love or understand cats as much as us, and if they'd prefer to give them away because they're moving and just couldn't be bothered taking the kitty, maybe it's best for the kitty.
The lady could have just taken the kitty down to the local shelter and said "sorry, I'm moving and can't take her". If people know you're going to upset for trying to rehome their cat, they're more likely to just take it to she shelter, rather than trying to find a nice home for kitty and risk you getting upset at them!
I can understand why you got upset, but if this happens again with someone maybe you need to talk to them and try to understand their situation and see what you can do to help first. It sounds as though as soon as you did this, you saw a more positive result. Good on you for helping her!
We moved to the US recently from Australia and left our kitty back in Australia. 6 months earlier, someone was looking for a home for her kitty because she couldn't keep it anymore. If she didn't find a home by that Friday she was taking it to the RSPCA. She was 10 or 11 years old, and kitten season was just finishing, and I knew she wouldn't last if she went there.
We knew at this time there was the possibility we were going overseas, but we took her in anyway because we couldn't bear the alternative. When it came time for us to move, we found her a new loving home rather than bring her with us. It would have cost us a fortune, and we knew from day 1 she may be a "temporary cat". We had 1 month temporary accommodation over here in the US organised for us, and it was going to take 6-8 weeks for our furniture to arrive by sea freight, so the cat would have had a long flight to deal with, up to 2 months in a cattery while we got settled and we had no idea whether apartments where we were moving were going to be pet friendly. All we knew is Silcon Valley was very expensive, and we didn't want to have to be picky about what we could take if people generally didnt accept pets.
We found her a wonderful older single man who lived on his own, had cats all his life, and promised to love and adore her. What do you think was better for her? Going through all that stress of moving overseas or finding a nice, loving home with someone else? We've heard from her new owner a couple of times and she's doing really well, and had settled into his house and was sleeping on his bed with him within 2 days, so I know we made the right decision.
Please try not to be too judgemental with people, especially if you don't know the whole story. And remember that there's people out there who don't love or understand cats as much as us, and if they'd prefer to give them away because they're moving and just couldn't be bothered taking the kitty, maybe it's best for the kitty.
The lady could have just taken the kitty down to the local shelter and said "sorry, I'm moving and can't take her". If people know you're going to upset for trying to rehome their cat, they're more likely to just take it to she shelter, rather than trying to find a nice home for kitty and risk you getting upset at them!
I can understand why you got upset, but if this happens again with someone maybe you need to talk to them and try to understand their situation and see what you can do to help first. It sounds as though as soon as you did this, you saw a more positive result. Good on you for helping her!
I think we should have Wyan make us a "CRAZY CAT LADY OF THE MONTH" badge and you should definitely get to wear it this month Eileen..........I'm a crazy cat lady and darn proud of it!!!!
All I can think of is that the cat will probably wind up in a more loving home.
That's how we got Whitey. The previous owner moved into an apartment that didn't allow cats. She got caught andrather than breaking the lease and moving out of the apt (from what I heard money isn't a concern for this woman) she just gave up the cat.
As crazy as it is now with 4 cats (3 that don't really get along), Whitey LOVES where he lives now. He's totally a happier cat than when I first picked up and is such a riot!
That's how we got Whitey. The previous owner moved into an apartment that didn't allow cats. She got caught andrather than breaking the lease and moving out of the apt (from what I heard money isn't a concern for this woman) she just gave up the cat.
As crazy as it is now with 4 cats (3 that don't really get along), Whitey LOVES where he lives now. He's totally a happier cat than when I first picked up and is such a riot!
Don't ever apologize for saying what you feel. Life is way too short to tow someone else's line.
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I appreciate your response and your "throwing the cat among the pigeons."
Yes, I am familiar with this woman's situation and know that she's had the cat for 7 years. She adopted him as a kitten. That's what upset me so much initially. To "get rid" of cat just for the sake of convenience after that long is wrong - period.
It sounds like you absolutely did the right thing for the cat you took in and I'm glad you were able to find him a wonderful home. However, this situation is different. We're talking about a planned move within the same city. There's no reason for her to have to give up the cat, which she now realizes.
I always try to refrain from being judgemental until I know the whole story. As a journalist by profession, that's part of my job and I do it well. You're right - there are people out there who don't care as much as we do for cats. But, if they're not willing to take the time to understand their cats and give them love and care, they shouldn't have them to begin with. I reserve the right to be judgemental in situations like that - where people have demonstrated blatent irresponsibility toward the care of their pets.
I do have to give this woman credit for reaching out for help rather than dumping her cat at a shelter. I agree it's important to really listen to people to get an understanding for their situation, which I'm always happy to do. At the same, they need to understand what their responsibility is toward their pets and I'm not going to spare their feelings if it means saving a cat.
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I agree completely!!!!!!!!!!!! I would have lost it too. I am in the same situation right now. My neighbors are an absolute nightmare for me and my son. (long story) but anyways, My son and I am both being negatively affected by their smoking indoors (against lease). I am having a hard time finding another place that will allow my pets and my mom says just to get rid of them
That is sad - 7 years!! Like I said, it's great you spoke to her and explained your stance. Next time you hear a similar story, I'm sure you'll be more likely to help first rather than try to bite the heads off your co-workers who don't agree with youOriginally Posted by eilcon
I appreciate your response and your "throwing the cat among the pigeons."
Yes, I am familiar with this woman's situation and know that she's had the cat for 7 years. She adopted him as a kitten. That's what upset me so much initially. To "get rid" of cat just for the sake of convenience after that long is wrong - period.
It sounds like you absolutely did the right thing for the cat you took in and I'm glad you were able to find him a wonderful home. However, this situation is different. We're talking about a planned move within the same city. There's no reason for her to have to give up the cat, which she now realizes.
I always try to refrain from being judgemental until I know the whole story. As a journalist by profession, that's part of my job and I do it well. You're right - there are people out there who don't care as much as we do for cats. But, if they're not willing to take the time to understand their cats and give them love and care, they shouldn't have them to begin with. I reserve the right to be judgemental in situations like that - where people have demonstrated blatent irresponsibility toward the care of their pets.
I do have to give this woman credit for reaching out for help rather than dumping her cat at a shelter. I agree it's important to really listen to people to get an understanding for their situation, which I'm always happy to do. At the same, they need to understand what their responsibility is toward their pets and I'm not going to spare their feelings if it means saving a cat.
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I apologize if I offend you because I don't mean to, but here is my opinion:
I think it could definitely be worse - instead of looking to rehome the cat or take it to a shelter, she could just dump it, so I think you might have been just a little harsh, and it is true, it is never professional to lose it in the office, but it happens sometimes. Please try not to beat yourself up about it, but please also try to understand that not everyone is like you and that not everyone feels as strongly as you do about it.
If you feel that strongly about it - TAKE HER CAT!!! Problem solved.
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Thanks! Yeah, that probably wasn't the most productive or professional way to handle it. At least she has no doubt now where I stand on the issue. I did my mention my "outburst" to my boss, a cat person, when she came in and she just laughed and said she's sorry she missed it!Originally Posted by sarahp
That is sad - 7 years!! Like I said, it's great you spoke to her and explained your stance. Next time you hear a similar story, I'm sure you'll be more likely to help first rather than try to bite the heads off your co-workers who don't agree with youJust make sure that if you manage to lose it at work again, that it's not your boss or anyone like that....We always learn from our experiencesIt was a good outcome and you were able to apologise for the outburst while rationally explaining your viewpoint, which is a lot more than a lot of other people could do, so I wouldn't worry about it.
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I think we should have Wyan make us a "CRAZY CAT LADY OF THE MONTH" badge and you should definitely get to wear it this month Eileen..........I'm a crazy cat lady and darn proud of it!!!!
SarahP
atleast you found a loving home for your cat!
When we moved from australia to germany, we just left our cats outside, they had another home accross the road and i knew they would be taken good care of.
When i went back 11 months later, i couldnt find a trace of them!
Still though, if you know the whole backround to the story i would be mad at this woman too!
atleast you found a loving home for your cat!
When we moved from australia to germany, we just left our cats outside, they had another home accross the road and i knew they would be taken good care of.
When i went back 11 months later, i couldnt find a trace of them!
Still though, if you know the whole backround to the story i would be mad at this woman too!
One thing that we as cat owners have to understand is that not everyone agrees with our line of thinking when it come to our pets. Its really hard though and I would have probably done the same thing in your situation, in fact when Sheba's court case was last year I could not use "personal time" but vacation time instead-I was so upset I walked out before I did something really stupid.
I'm glad to read that the person has reconsidered her original plan.
I'm glad to read that the person has reconsidered her original plan.
