Ack! Anyone want to help me figure out thank you cards?!

My mom has been bugging me about sending out thank you cards... the bad thing about my mom having so many friends is that there are too many gifts and too many people to thank! What do I do if 2 people got together and sent an assortment of things from Bed Bath and Beyond and I have no idea who sent what? I think somewhere along the way they said what each had sent but I don't know where that card or whatever it was went...

Also what if my mom listed the sender as (for example) John Smith & family. Do I address it "Dear John Smith and Family"? Or "Dear the Smith family"?

I hate thank you cards.

If people went in on something like that from Bed Bath & Beyond, I would just state:
Thank you for the assortment of gifts from BB&B, ect.

And then send that thank you to the 2 families/people who went together and got it for you and your husband.

I would also say to address them as : John Smith & Family - thats how I do it anyways!

Good luck, I also hate thank you cards - but I think they are a super nice gesture, and they are great to get in the mail, knowing that your gift was appreciated!

Ditto everything Kenz said.

I agree with Kenz!! I hate writing them out but I love getting a handwritten thank oyu card!!

John Smith and Family
And for the joint gift of BB&B goodies I would write them each a card thanking them for the assortment of goodies and how handy they all are!!

Thanks guys!

Now what do you do when your mother says, under gift, "serving dish, I think?". Do I thank them for the serving dish, even if that's not necessarily what they gave me? Or can I thank them more generically? Ditto with "check or gift card"... arg!

Umm.. thats a toughie!! Thank them for the serving dish. If its wrong explain to them how sorry you are and that in all the excitement whoever was writing down all the gifts got mixed up!! I am sure they will understand.

Originally Posted by pinkdaisy226

Thanks guys!

Now what do you do when your mother says, under gift, "serving dish, I think?". Do I thank them for the serving dish, even if that's not necessarily what they gave me? Or can I thank them more generically? Ditto with "check or gift card"... arg!

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Have you looked @ it to see what you think it is?

I hate things like that! If its crystal or something, you can say ' thank you for the lovely crystal dish....ect'

I would say with check or gift card - I would say for the check - 'thank you for the gift of money....' or for the gift card, I would say 'thank you for the gift card for _____ (wherever its for)...'

GOOD LUCK!!

Ok one more question. I'm tired of writing the return address on the cards. Would it be wrong to use the labels that came free when I ordered checks, even if they only have my name, not my husband's? And, for whatever reason, it lists it like this:
Name
Apt. #
Street Address
City, State Zip

Is that okay?

Originally Posted by babyharley

Have you looked @ it to see what you think it is?

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Too many presents from too many people + not enough space in a tiny apartment = a big mess!

Originally Posted by pinkdaisy226

Too many presents from too many people + not enough space in a tiny apartment = a big mess!

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Awww, thats no fun at all! I hope you get to sort thru the mess soon!

At least your mom was there to write it all down!

The preprinted return adress labels are acceptable but print some up on the computer that have hubby's name too!!

Yeah... maybe when he gets home from work we can go buy labels and ink for my printer... sigh, it's so much work!

Originally Posted by pinkdaisy226

Yeah... maybe when he gets home from work we can go buy labels and ink for my printer... sigh, it's so much work!

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I would make him write the return address on all the envelopes!

Originally Posted by babyharley

I would make him write the return address on all the envelopes!

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Lol, if I could make him, I would. I have TONS of cards to write, there's like 6 gifts from his side that he needs to write thank you cards to and has he done it yet? These are gifts that arrived back in February... and I'm gonna end up writing them. Sheesh, men!

Originally Posted by pinkdaisy226

Thanks guys!

Now what do you do when your mother says, under gift, "serving dish, I think?". Do I thank them for the serving dish, even if that's not necessarily what they gave me? Or can I thank them more generically? Ditto with "check or gift card"... arg!

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I once got a thank you card about 6 months after the wedding and it made no reference to the specific gift I got them. I have a feeling they never wrote it down! So it was just a general thank you for the gift and coming to the wedding and that sort of thing.

Originally Posted by SolarityBengals

I once got a thank you card about 6 months after the wedding and it made no reference to the specific gift I got them. I have a feeling they never wrote it down! So it was just a general thank you for the gift and coming to the wedding and that sort of thing.

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Did it insult you or was it still "it's the thought that counts" kind of thing?

Originally Posted by pinkdaisy226

Lol, if I could make him, I would. I have TONS of cards to write, there's like 6 gifts from his side that he needs to write thank you cards to and has he done it yet? These are gifts that arrived back in February... and I'm gonna end up writing them. Sheesh, men!

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You didn't actually think he was going to write his own, did you? Actually, when it came time for thank you cards, I just told DH, "Hey, I'm writing your thank you cards, okay?" and he was like, "Uh, okay. Thanks." I don't think it had ever occurred to him that he needed to send thank you cards. Of course, we only had 35 people at our wedding, so it wasn't as big of a job...

Originally Posted by mamacat

You didn't actually think he was going to write his own, did you?

Actually, when it came time for thank you cards, I just told DH, "Hey, I'm writing your thank you cards, okay?" and he was like, "Uh, okay. Thanks."

I don't think it had ever occurred to him that he needed to send thank you cards. Of course, we only had 35 people at our wedding, so it wasn't as big of a job...

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Hey Stef! Lucky you, only 35 people. See, I only had, what, 22 people at our wedding? and still we managed to get a million presents (my mom knows way too many people). It's such a drag...

Also keep in mind, when thanking people who gave you money, or gift-cards, people like to hear what the money was or will be spent on. Even if you have no idea, make a guess and let them know. For example: "thank you so much for the gift of ____ dollars! We are planning on getting new curtains for our living room, and your gift will be a great help!"

For some reason people like to know what they are spending their money on!! lol

Thanks for the tip, I'm gonna have to keep your new curtains idea in mind!

Okay I thought I was nearly done, there are 6 more on this list my mom sent me... and now my mom is chatting to me online, listing a ton of people she swears she already mentioned to me... ARG!