I had a miscarriage...

Oh, I'm so sorry to hear the sad news. Please know we are all thinking of you during this sad time....

Oh dear I'm soooo soo sorry for you that is heartbreaking. {{{HUGS}}}

I'm so sorry for you. I know just how you're feeling. Several years ago I had a miscarriage under very similar circumstances...I had just realized I was pregnant when I miscarried. You're right...it's possible to get very attached very quickly. I was at a time in my life then that having a child would have made things very difficult...but it didn't matter. I still loved it, and it was still a heartbreaking loss.

As many others have said, though, this doesn't mean that you'll have difficulties having children in the future...it just means that this one wasn't meant to be at this time.

Take care of yourself. I think you're very smart to avoid people who are likely to make you upset. You've got enough to deal with just now.

I'm sad that your miscarried. Take care of yourself-your hubby sounds wonderful!!

I'm really sorry to hear this.

I'm so sorry! I had a similar experience when I was 19, and was never really able to talk about it. I just told my Mom last year that I had lost the baby. Just know for every door that closes a window opens. In my situation, the guy that I was with at the time broke it off with me. Six months later I met my husband. I will send all healing vibes to you and keep you in my prayers.

I'm not much of a poet...but when I'm down sometimes it helps me feel a little better to write it down. I wrote this for the baby and I wanted to share it with you guys.

I was a mommy for a moment,
a tiny slice of time,
and if only for that moment,
all the world was mine.

I never got to hold you,
or look into your eyes,
or to tell you that I loved you,
or listen for your cries.

I didn't get to buy you,
all sorts of baby things,
but now you've got much more than that
'cause now you've got your wings.

Now you're my little angel,
with your daddy's bright blue eyes
smiling down at me from Heaven
telling mommy not to cry.

Well said, that is a sad but lovely poem.

Thank you. For some reason I am really shy about sharing my poetry with family, so it feels really good to have someone to share it with besides my husband.

Originally Posted by maddensmom

Thank you. For some reason I am really shy about sharing my poetry with family, so it feels really good to have someone to share it with besides my husband.

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I'm glad you did. I used to live and breathe poetry..for many, many years. I kind of put it aside for later in life. Which er um, seems to be now. I feel ready to get back to having it be a part of my life.

There is a nice cadence to your poem, which is why, despite it's sad theme, I found it lovely.

sorry about your loss. I will be praying for you.

I'm so sorry hun I think there are a lot of who have been in your position - including myself. The physical pain is nothing compared to what goes on in your heart. I'm truly sorry sweetie, my heart goes out to you.

Aw, I am so incredibly sorry. I can't express in words how I feel besides upst.
It muct be hard to lose a emotional and physical part of you. . .the poem, by they way, is beaytuful.

I love your poem...

I am only 25, and I had a miscarriage when I was 23. I had just gotten married 8 months prior. Of course, we weren't ready for kids and we saw it as a blessing in disguise after the initial shock wore off (that may sound terrible to you now... I really don't mean it the way it sounds), but I remember that I was devastated for several months after that. Knowing life was inside of me was magical... and I really felt a loss when the miscarriage happened.

It happeend at around 7 or 8 weeks, so I got to see the "tissue" that was my baby when I miscarried, which made it worse. She/He was about 2.5 inches long. It was awful. I didnt' have health insurance and I bled for three weeks straight. The cramping was horrible, but nothing compared to the emptiness I felt afterwards.

I am glad you have some support from your doctor through this... I had the final "push" right before a final. I didn't know what else to do, so I got a plastic baggie and took it out of the toilet and showed it to one of my professors (an MD who used to be a OB/GYN), and he just brushed it off. He told me to go ahead and take the exam. I told him I had been bleeding for the past two weeks and I didn't feel so well... he said "You'll be fine... just hang in there."

Looking back, I should have really told someone that he treated me that way. I think he thought I was faking it or something.

Anyway, thanks for letting me get that out. I haven't told very many people that part of the story.

Lots of hugs to you... *hugs*

I can't tell you what a comfort my kitties were to me during that time!

It gets better, I promise. What hurts me more now was the insenstivity of my peers and classmates rather than the loss. It was meant to be, in some strange way... even though I don't believe in God. I know that the baby probably had some horrible genetic defect that would have made her/his short life painful anyway, and my body knew that the best thing was to save the suffering for both of us.

I hope that helps. *hugs*

I am so sorry that you lost your pregnancy. I can't even begin to imagine how you feel. I'm sending many hugs and vibes to you.

so sorry

I'm sorry to hear about this. I've had a few friends go through the same thing and I know it effected them deeply.

My sympathy to you and your husband over this. I hope you find strength to deal with it and that one day you have a wonderful healthy baby. I am sure it will happen.

Thank you all so much. Being able to hear other peoples stories has really helped me a lot. I feel better today than I've felt all week. I'm actually able to eat now, which I'm sure is a big part of why I'm feeling better. I'm finally starting to sleep through the night too. I'm so glad that I had so many shoulders to lean on through this whole ordeal. We're healing, I know that it will take time. Some moments are harder than others, like seeing my neighbor with her newborn in the yard, but I know that these things will eventually pass. You guys have been so much help. I always know that I can come to TCS and escape whatever it is that is going on at that moment.

Thank you guys so much for all of your support!

Originally Posted by maddensmom

I'm not much of a poet...but when I'm down sometimes it helps me feel a little better to write it down. I wrote this for the baby and I wanted to share it with you guys.

I was a mommy for a moment,
a tiny slice of time,
and if only for that moment,
all the world was mine.

I never got to hold you,
or look into your eyes,
or to tell you that I loved you,
or listen for your cries.

I didn't get to buy you,
all sorts of baby things,
but now you've got much more than that
'cause now you've got your wings.

Now you're my little angel,
with your daddy's bright blue eyes
smiling down at me from Heaven
telling mommy not to cry.

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That poem is great!! Once again, sorry you had to go through that.