Oh families! Don’t start me!
My mother and I are currently not speaking although if she would but pick up the phone and be decent to talk to I would.
We have always had a difficult abusive relationship be it physical or emotional abuse. We have had various fallings out as I was in my twenties with years at a time not speaking and it in that time that I hardened to her and cried my tears. Our relationship since then has only been on the surface anyway. Recently we discovered a sister my folks had adopted out when she was a baby. Never said a word. 42 years later we find her. The last phone call I had with my mum she was ranting saying I would have aborted her if I could! My sister is a lovely 42-year-old married woman with 2 adorable boys thinking of aborting a foetus is one thing but going on about it once she is alive and walking about the planet sickened me.
I tried so hard to get on with my in laws in fact I gave it 10 years and it was so clear they hated me. The final straw was when my little brother died at 22 years. 3 months later the granddad on that side of the family passed on at 93. I was very sympathetic having suffered a recent loss I knew their pain. They said to me. What do you know? Jon was only 22 you hardly knew him losing a man of 93 is so much worse as we knew him longer.
I simply couldn't cope with them a moment longer. In the midst the agony of grieving the baby of our family.
I have not seen then or spoken to them for 3 years and it’s the best thing I ever did. I used to feel ill after seeing them before.
What I am trying to say is what I do is surround myself with upbeat positive people who love me and want the very best for me.
Your shrink is right. The kids report thing was unforgivable.
I am so happy for you your marriage is good.
Look after yourself its our hubby and kids that make up our true family. The one we can do something about to shape it and to have the lives we want.
Good luck on the job money thing too. A door will open for you soon x