Did that today actually. Havent given it her yet, but also thought it would be a great idea.Originally Posted by DixieDarlin256
Here's another suggestion...
Buy her an inexpensive bath set with bubble bath, bath poof, lotion... things like that... and tell her you thought she might be a little stressed out over being an expectant mom and she might want to relax with a bubble bath.
There is none of that happening there. I am sure of it. They are what they like to themselves "straight-edge". They dont do any kind of that thing. So no worries about that. It's just a smelly house is all.I am sorry you are in such a difficult situation. I don't know if this is true or not, but I have been told that a strong smell like cat-pee can be a sign of a meth-cooking operation.
Catfriend
Her Fiance (no formal ring or anything, but that's what she calls him) is actually pretty responsible. He's taken so many extra hours at his job to get extra money, and he's very nice to her. There is definatly love over there. Which is also a good thing. I just dont think anyones ever taught them to clean much of anything.Does her husband help at all? Would he be willing to change? Sounds like No so far...huh?
I havent figured that one out yet. Im not sure how to feel. I just know that I'll be over there alot more than I am now, and making sure this baby's health is in excellent condition. I un-packed some of my old being pregnant books, and how to handle the first year books to give her along with the bath stuff.How are you going to feel when the baby comes?
I have looked into that. They are both females. And she's VERY CAREFUL about letting them outside. She keeps a close eye on that.You said they are not fixed, that probably means they are spraying urine everywhere which is going to be very unhealthy for the baby. Have you looked into low-cost or free neutering for her?
Well the cats just seem to be skinny...but they are from a farm, and I think that's how they are. Just long and linky. I havent seen any other problems other than the litter box being a problem with the kitties.What state are the cats in as well?, because if she can't look after herself and her baby?!
The most I have done about that is looking up phone numbers for the right person to call to not make such a big deal about it, but get the point across that I think someone should do home visits. I found the number I am looking for, Im just kind of waiting for the right time. I think after I go over and give her the things I want to give her, Im going to check out the rest of the place, and make sure it's alright. I've got about 43 hours of work the next 3 days, (scheduling problems), so Im going to save my figuring all that out for next week. It all shall be fine untill then.Any updates yet? Have you called anyone? I think you are doing the right thing for this unborn baby.
Yeah, I've been kinda curious myself.Originally Posted by maddensmom
Are there any updates on the situation?? For some reason today this thread popped into my mind...I followed it, but didn't have any advice that someone else hadn't already given, but I wondered if anything ever came of it yet?
If she doesnt smell it, her finace or her roomate can.Originally Posted by shengmei
Some people (like me) just genetically don't have a very good sense of smell. It is not really her fault for smelling bad. She might not even notice.
Also, the Americans are the only people in the world to have a designated room for each new baby. I don't think just because she doesn't have a nursery that she is incapable of bearing her child.
I am very glad of the steps you had taken to help her. I am pretty sure everything would work out alright at the end
This is true. They have access to resources specifically for them and no one else. Food banks, thrift stores who will give them EVERYTHING they need if they have a voucher from CPS. I was a temp in a CPS office and I can't tell you how many people were calling in to get thier voucher.Originally Posted by Zissou'sMom
Social workers can and do all kinds of stuff. Taking children away is ALWAYS a last resort. Calling them is a great idea, because for some people it is a wake-up call that they need to take responisbility for their children, and some people really do need alot of help. Some people really just don't quite get it, as this girl sort of sounds like she doesn't quite get it, and she can be helped. She wouldn't knowingly abuse her kid, she just might not understand what "neglect" is- of herself or her kid.
You are doing a great job of keeping it balanced, lilleah. That is such great news that they got engaged and her family is moving down here!