It is time for me to update this.
She has scince had her baby. It's a boy. She has moved into her parents house, and back out again into some lady's house they met at a pawn store, and at this current time, they again live right where they used to. Right behind me. For a week.
She had a healthy baby. He's adorable of course. A total mixure of them both. They are now engaged. But are not happy, and may not go through with the marriage.
She does not have a bond with the baby. She has said she doesn't even want the baby. She will not play with him. She DOES do the nessesarry things, like feed and change him. I feel horrible about it. I hear him scream alot, and I always just want to go over there, and give her a break, and take the baby for a while.
But she's just not like that. She wouldn't like that. But I will sometime. Because I just feel like it's gotta happen. I have seen the baby a few times. one time I seen him, he was bleeding through some nasty white stuff on his neck. Like she hadnt cleaned his neck scince he was born. I told her mother that it's gotta be cleaned and she agreed. She cleaned it soon after. It was chaffed. Badly.
Every day I think about these people. The father loves the baby. ( thank you jesus) He works third shift, and sleeps most of the day, but makes a very good effort for the child. I know most, if not all, of this from her mother. She's real worried about it. She's got BAD post-partum depression. And it doesnt seem to be going away. She's been on the pills and what not, but hasnt been able to bond with baby. That's sad. I spent the first 6 months of my daughters life on the floor with her. And SHE says she has not yet. He's 3, almost 4 months.
I will be moving to Florida in June. I plan on giving her some advice, as well as watching/hearing what's going on. I have an aunt who is very into child development, and the well being of a baby, its her job. I as well plan on asking her for advice about this.
As much as I try and deny worrying about this little family, I worry about it every day. I don't know why. There's just something strange inside of me, that wants to help so entirely badly.
Her mother has helped ALOT. She paid for the deposit on the apartment, and the 1st months rent. And had bought her furniture, as well as other household appliances.
Just had to update those that had actually worried about this situation. It is still a mild problem.
Oh yeah...She has gotten rid of the cats. My Mother in law took them for while. And scince then, gave them to a NO KILL humane society. I bet they were adopted. They were so small and totally adorable. Really.
Anyways-I know everyone will read this, including people who arent registered to this site, including my DH, he likes to see what I'm doing now and then, and to ALL OF YOU-
I worry about this girl, and the baby. I hope that I can help them. Before I leave for Florida. There is alot that needs to be done. And if not...Then let it be how it's gotta be. At least her mom cares. She knows what's up, and she shall be enough neutral help for the time. But I will see what I can do. Because I worry. And I hate that I worry so much about it, but I just do.
Wow. Seriously. I talk to much. It's ok though. It's on TCS, and you all know that.