I am new to this site as a poster but have been a long time reader.
I hope I am posting this in the right place.
Ok here's my problem.
To make a long story short, about 11 months ago a Mother cat and 2 babies showed up on our porch and we started feeding them and basically fell in love with them although we have never had cats, just dogs.
We live in the country, so it was pretty safe to just let them live on the porch and so they did.
We went through the winter and made them warm shelters, took them in for shots and had the boys neutered and spoke to the vet about having the mother spayed.
He said to get her in before spring to have her spayed because mother nature wouldn't let babies be born in the winter.
So although she was a feral/friendly to us cat and always seemed to stay on the porch on in our yard.
Lets just say she didn't get the memo about not getting pregnant before spring because it would have been late feb when she got prego, and it was still freezing weather!
So when we took her to the vet to get spayed we did not know she was already very prego!!
I will admit it we were cat dumb and did not have her fixed in time.
So the end of last month we woke up to her and 3 more babies.
So that brought our total to a mom, 2-boys almost 11 months old, and now 3 new babies!!
Well although we put up a big kennel on the porch for the mom and 3 babies we could not keep her safe since several stray tom cats had tried to get to the babies and we have raccoon out here and other animals that made it really hard to ensure their safety and moving them in the house was out of the questions since we have 2 big dogs that dislike cats.
Not to mention all of a sudden we saw 2 tom cats coming around that we had never seen before, and she did not need to be outside to get pregnant again!!
So We found a lady that would take the momma and the 3 new babies and keep them inside her home & let them get to the weaned age , then she would have the mom spayed and find homes for the kittens and she would keep the mom.
So we took the mom and babies out to her and she had a lot of animals and that is her life! We took her out enough food to last many months and have offered to pay for mom cat to be spayed the minute she's done nursing.
My problem is I got very attached to these cats and cried all the way home and 24 hours later, i am still heart broken.
I don't know how cats feel or if they grieve but I am a mom and my heart breaks for this mom cat who now has lost us, and her 2 older sons that she had for almost 11 months that were so close to her.
Not to mention It breaks my heart to think how the boys must feel coming up to the porch and mom is suddenly after almost 11 months NOT there anymore.
I know they have each other but please tell me how to help them get through this.Will they be ok?
I have talked to the lady that has the mom and kittens now for almost 2 days and she is doing ok and warming up to her and nursing and eating just fine.
Will she be ok? My husband is about ready to go back and get her and the babies so I will quit tearing up and worrying so bad about her and her sons, but I know her getting a home indoors and not having to live outside is really best for her.
Any advice please? I have been showering her sons left here with attention and have noticed them looking for her where her bed was on my porch, but I just want to know how to help them through this.
Thank you for listening! Jean
I hope I am posting this in the right place.
Ok here's my problem.
To make a long story short, about 11 months ago a Mother cat and 2 babies showed up on our porch and we started feeding them and basically fell in love with them although we have never had cats, just dogs.
We live in the country, so it was pretty safe to just let them live on the porch and so they did.
We went through the winter and made them warm shelters, took them in for shots and had the boys neutered and spoke to the vet about having the mother spayed.
He said to get her in before spring to have her spayed because mother nature wouldn't let babies be born in the winter.
So although she was a feral/friendly to us cat and always seemed to stay on the porch on in our yard.
Lets just say she didn't get the memo about not getting pregnant before spring because it would have been late feb when she got prego, and it was still freezing weather!
So when we took her to the vet to get spayed we did not know she was already very prego!!
I will admit it we were cat dumb and did not have her fixed in time.
So the end of last month we woke up to her and 3 more babies.
So that brought our total to a mom, 2-boys almost 11 months old, and now 3 new babies!!
Well although we put up a big kennel on the porch for the mom and 3 babies we could not keep her safe since several stray tom cats had tried to get to the babies and we have raccoon out here and other animals that made it really hard to ensure their safety and moving them in the house was out of the questions since we have 2 big dogs that dislike cats.
Not to mention all of a sudden we saw 2 tom cats coming around that we had never seen before, and she did not need to be outside to get pregnant again!!
So We found a lady that would take the momma and the 3 new babies and keep them inside her home & let them get to the weaned age , then she would have the mom spayed and find homes for the kittens and she would keep the mom.
So we took the mom and babies out to her and she had a lot of animals and that is her life! We took her out enough food to last many months and have offered to pay for mom cat to be spayed the minute she's done nursing.
My problem is I got very attached to these cats and cried all the way home and 24 hours later, i am still heart broken.
I don't know how cats feel or if they grieve but I am a mom and my heart breaks for this mom cat who now has lost us, and her 2 older sons that she had for almost 11 months that were so close to her.
Not to mention It breaks my heart to think how the boys must feel coming up to the porch and mom is suddenly after almost 11 months NOT there anymore.
I know they have each other but please tell me how to help them get through this.Will they be ok?
I have talked to the lady that has the mom and kittens now for almost 2 days and she is doing ok and warming up to her and nursing and eating just fine.
Will she be ok? My husband is about ready to go back and get her and the babies so I will quit tearing up and worrying so bad about her and her sons, but I know her getting a home indoors and not having to live outside is really best for her.
Any advice please? I have been showering her sons left here with attention and have noticed them looking for her where her bed was on my porch, but I just want to know how to help them through this.
Thank you for listening! Jean