Feeling blue.......and some questions?

Hey guys I am really realy really feeling very blue and sad right now~I am beside myself. I cant believe I let Abby go thru with that spay. I did find out she was DEF. pregnant, with 5 kitties, now I will never know what they look lilke-i just feel awful! What or how exatcly do they *abort* the kittens? I just keep having this AWFUL image in my head, and its like repating over and over. Im not going to go into detail what it is exactly, but if anyone does know how they actually abort kittens, would u please tell me? Maybe ease my mind some what!? I mean did they know what was going on? Did they feel anything? This is stuff that keeps running thru my mind!! Sorry if Im too graphic, I dont mean to be, its just some things I am wondering. Thanks for listening.

Oh! So sorry to hear this!
Did the vet saw how far along the kittens were? I think that would be dependent on whether they felt anything. If it was only a couple of days/weeks, then I don't think they were developed enough to have much awareness/thought.

You have every right to be sad though. My best wishes to you.

Originally Posted by lunasmom

Oh! So sorry to hear this!
Did the vet saw how far along the kittens were? I think that would be dependent on whether they felt anything. If it was only a couple of days/weeks, then I don't think they were developed enough to have much awareness/thought.

You have every right to be sad though. My best wishes to you.

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Thank you! The vet said she was at least 4 weeks.......

You did the right thing for your cat. She will be much healthier, and that is what is important now.

Maybe you can make a positive out of your painful feelings by becoming an early spay/neuter advocate with your family and friends. Then you will be helping someone else avoid such a painful decision.

Please don't feel bad. You did the right thing! I only wish more people had the courage to let their own feelings go and do what's best for the poor momcat and the whole world! Those kittens never being born saves more kittens from the misery of life on the streets or in a shelter. You really are such a WONDERFUL person to have done this.

I agree with what everyone else has said.

I'm so sorry for what you are going through right now. It will get better!

As I said i had to do it last year, I felt bad to but i didn't want to know how far along they were, and I really didn't want to know how many but that's kinda hard when they charge a small fee for each one, But I can tell you that i didn't think about all the negitives long, This girl is Healthy Happy and they are alway's going to Love you in the end, just as you do them. It will get better when she starts feeling good and enjoying a great life with you.

It is a difficult decision to make, but as several previous poster have said, it may have saved them or others a life of misery, even though you do what you can to prevent it.
Please don't beat yourself up over this. There was no easy decision here, and you did the best you could. Abby will be healthy and happy now, and she won't ever have to go through being pregnant or the possiblility of the health problems of being unspayed.
Are you sure you want to know the graphic details? It is over with now, and knowing that will probably just make you feel worse. It was a surgical procedure that your Abby needed, and surgical procedures are never pretty.

4 weeks is not that far along, they were probably barely formed. You did the right thing. I know you're thinking that you could have found homes for them, and you probably could have, but those people will hopefully go on to adopt other kittens that need homes badly.

You made the hard, but correct decision!

Years ago when we got Grizzly spayed we had to wait until her batch of kittens had been weaned plus a couple of weeks. Well she was pregnant about 4 weeks along too!! I had no idea plus my vet had not idea either until they started the operation. I felt bad but it was out of my hands.
Don't feel so bad as things like this happens.

Thanks guys for the caring words. I got Abby home now and shes resting in her favorite chair,and she had ALOT to say the whole ride home...lol.. I am trying my best to put the fact that she was pregnant, in the back of my mind. Im just going on you guys's help and loving words-thats helping me cope ALOT better.

When Tabitha was spayed, she was about 4-5 weeks along. I had no idea either. The vet told me they were too young to know what was going on or feel anything. He says 6 weeks or older is when he doesn't like to do it anymore because it makes him feel guilty.

I know that was a hard thing to do, but you saved other kittens lives. Go to a shelter & look at the kittens that you saved thier lives by having Abby spayed now. Besides, you never know, they could have been all black kittens with awful temperments & brith defects. They might have just died after birth. You prevented all of those "what ifs" AND saved the lives of kitties already born & in need of homes.

I remember in high school Biology we had "Disection Day". A group of students got a small dolphin (I think...it could've been a shark..I know it was some small exotic fish) to dissect and when they opened it up there were 2 babies in there.

I had problems with dissecting anyway (too much phermaldahide causes me to pass out) so I was thankful for only getting a worm for this second reason!

You did the right thing. It's hard though isn't it.

Originally Posted by lunasmom

I remember in high school Biology we had "Disection Day". A group of students got a small dolphin (I think...it could've been a shark..I know it was some small exotic fish) to dissect and when they opened it up there were 2 babies in there.

I had problems with dissecting anyway (too much phermaldahide causes me to pass out) so I was thankful for only getting a worm for this second reason!

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Just so you know Dolphins are mammals.