Oh No!

Guys, I *think* Abby might be pregnant- and not to sound mean, but I dont need another liter of kittys. I feel bad if I go ahead and her her spayed and abort the kittys, but what else can I do? I feel bad because after I got Lily spayed I was going to get Abby fixed, and well things didnt work out like they should of and so now she might be p.g.!! Yikes! Am I mean for considering aborting the kittens?

You are not mean, you are realistic.

Good luck to you, whatever you decide.

I agree. if you feel that is what needs to be done and is best for the momma kitty and you then it needs to be done. Just do what you feel right doing and you feel is right, don't go by others.


I am like you and couldn't see getting a cat fixed and aborting kitties, BUT if it is best for the mom kitty and best for me at the time (can't afford to care for the babies, don't have the room for them and many other reasons) then I would go ahead and spay her and know I did the right thing. So don't feel bad about it, feel confident you are doing the RIGHT thing.

Originally Posted by catloverin_ks

Guys, I *think* Abby might be pregnant- and not to sound mean, but I dont need another liter of kittys. I feel bad if I go ahead and her her spayed and abort the kittys, but what else can I do? I feel bad because after I got Lily spayed I was going to get Abby fixed, and well things didnt work out like they should of and so now she might be p.g.!! Yikes! Am I mean for considering aborting the kittens?

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No...you are not mean...you are being responsible. Just know that we will support you with whatever decision you make.

Katie

I don't think of it as "aborting kitties." I think of it as saving her from a lot of potential health risks, and letting her be a happier female. If you truly suspect that it's early, she can be spayed. Fortunately, mother cats don't tend to possess the same moral conciousness that we female mothers do...she will not be living with a horrible guilt complex, and does not see the moral dilemma in this that we can sometimes create from our human point of view.

I would encourage you to spay her...it's really the most responsible and loving thing you could do for Abby.

Aww-thank you all for your comments. That makes me feel better about my decision-all though I will still feel *guilty*! I am going to get an appt set up before she gets any farther along.

I applaud your strength in doing what is best for your kitty. As you know, kittens aren't always born easily or healthy. I think if it is early, or especially if you aren't sure, just get her spayed.

If it was me, I would tell the vet not to give me any details about whether or not she was preggers.

Originally Posted by Beckiboo

I applaud your strength in doing what is best for your kitty. As you know, kittens aren't always born easily or healthy. I think if it is early, or especially if you aren't sure, just get her spayed.

If it was me, I would tell the vet not to give me any details about whether or not she was preggers.

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Yesh but they charge extra if she is. And if she is, Im guessing she is probly like 3-4 weeks, and I hope thats not too far along. Does anyone know?

I think it depends on the vet. but if yours won't do it call around and find one that will.

I think alot will do it up to 4 weeks, but, mabey you can find a rescue shelter vet, they do it I think at any age, TNR1, I think, says she works with rescues, and they do ALL pregnant cats, so you may be able to get it done, feel good you are doing what is right, in the long run it really is best! Good luck to you

I made an appt for her to get fixed Tuesday(soonest they can get her in) I am kinda sad though, because I feel so guilty, but I know I dont need anymore kittens. Please send me some vibes to get me thru this ordeal guys. Thanks!

Keep strong - I know it is a hard decision, but if she could, she would thank you for it.

About a year ago I had two cats that I sent to the vet to get spayed. I had no idea they were pregnant until the vet called and told me over the phone. I went ahead with both spays as I did not have the money or the room for one much less two litters of kittens. They were both fine afterwords and the vet charged me an extra $25 each to complete the spay. I kind of felt a little guilty but I know now it was the best thing to do. Don't feel bad I am sure it is for the best for you and her.

You are doing the right thing! I know it doesn't feel good but there are so many kittens this time of year. She will be fine and much happier

One of the semi-ferals that we kept & got spayed in February was 4 weeks along. I honestly has no idea. She is normally a fatty.

I think you are making the right decision. If you don't get her spayed, just think, what would happen to those kittens? Would anybody want them? What if they all have birth defects? There are so many things that could go wrong, it is better to have mama spayed & not have those kittens be homeless.

i am the same way. i am, i guess you would call it pro-life when it comes to animals (haha) i could not imagine having to abort kittens but if you look at it in the long run, it truly is the right thing to do and your cat will be happier. i can imagine how hard it would be and i admire your strength.

Yeah, it really is the best way...it is always more difficult for the humans to cope with the idea than it is for the cats. Statistically, there are more cats and kittens in existence, and not enough homes and families willing to provide for them. Sure, kittens get snatched up right away, as they are hard to resist. But so many people who take in kittens aren't willing to commit the next 20 years to an adult cat, and a large percentage of kittens eventually end up as strays, or residing in shelters. This is the sad truth. Cat over-population is a sad reality across the world...and many homeless animals meet a terrible fate, and their lives are cut sadly short.

It is so hard to predict (even under the most controlled circumstances, sometimes) how life will end up for the MILLIONS of kittens borned and re-homed each year. We pray and hope for the best, but the statistics and numbers are not pointing in favor of the animals. It's awful.

So feel good about what you're doing. It's the biggest favor you can do for your pet.