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Is it American to Ban Unwed Couples with Children?

post #1 of 20
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I was surprised when I read that a town council can ban allowing unwed couples to reside in their community! It doesn't seem constitutional - and IMO, if the town wants to keep their fair community "pure", sobeit, however, dock any of the state or federal subsidies that come their way. What do you think? http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/20060517/...arried_couples
post #2 of 20
THat is crazy!! Who's buisness is it anyway!! If they don't want to get married that is their choice. A lot of people think marriage just complicates relationships. Look at the divorce rate!!
post #3 of 20
I'm starting to get a very bad impression of Missouri, a state I have visited, and enjoyed: http://www.thecatsite.com/forums/showthread.php?t=86175
post #4 of 20
It seems like it would be illegal to make such a law.

And really, I hate how people try to hype the institution or marriage or make it some exclusive club or prop it up on a pedastal. The reality is that having a marraige certificate seems to make very little difference in our society. The institution is failing in our society and married people, as far as I can tell, have a very poor track record and until they can straighten up and fly right within their own institution, they have absolutely no right to judge other people that are making it work in different ways.
post #5 of 20
Let's take a trip back in time, shall we? Come on - get with the 21st Century! I can definitely smell the lawsuit over that ordinance!
post #6 of 20
I think thats insane - how can they seriously enforce this?!
post #7 of 20
It is illegal in NC to live with someone without being married. But it is one of those laws that is outdated and people bring up to joke about (there are many other laws that are equally as funny here, one involves not plowing a field with an elephant). But every once and a while it will be brought up.... Pretty crazy.
post #8 of 20
Wow. I can't believe that so many people are still close-minded enough to think that the only valid family is a married couple and children.
Human relationships are so much more complicated than that and it shouldn't matter what type of family it is (married / unmarried / heterosexual / homosexual / single parent / or whatever else) as long as people love and care for each other.
post #9 of 20
Bf and I have been together for over two years now. We love each other very much, we just don't see the point of marriage. We neither have nor want children, but our relationship is not any less legitimate without a sheet of paper and an expensive piece of jewelry.

That law is just frivolous. Surely there are far more productive things that could be done with the court system's time and taxpayers' money.
post #10 of 20
Most laws of this type are actually meant to prohibit gay couples from doing such things. That was one of the major problems with the amendment banning it in Ohio-- all the restrictions it placed on gay couples also are placed on unmarried couples of any orientation simply because they can't word it specifically about gay people. The city probably doesn't want gay people with children living there. Even if the children belonged to one of them, too bad, you can't live there because that would violate this law.
Even if it is meant for straight people, its absurd.

Then again, who would want to live somewhere as artificially Pleasantville and closed-minded and ignorant as the sort of place that would pass that law?
post #11 of 20
Now everyone knows why we missourians call Missouri- the state of misery

I heard about that couple a while back, and could not believe the garbage they had to go through! I mean they have 3 kids (i think) and the oldest one looked to be at least 12! Why try to "enforce" some outdated law now?
post #12 of 20
I wouldnt mind that ... since there are 55 plus ( no children allowed) , adult only ( 18-55 )... I think I wouldnt want to live where I wasnt welcome which is not right but ...
post #13 of 20
I heard about that.... That's just wrong!!!
post #14 of 20
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Originally Posted by Zissou'sMom
Most laws of this type are actually meant to prohibit gay couples from doing such things. That was one of the major problems with the amendment banning it in Ohio-- all the restrictions it placed on gay couples also are placed on unmarried couples of any orientation simply because they can't word it specifically about gay people. The city probably doesn't want gay people with children living there. Even if the children belonged to one of them, too bad, you can't live there because that would violate this law.
Even if it is meant for straight people, its absurd.

Then again, who would want to live somewhere as artificially Pleasantville and closed-minded and ignorant as the sort of place that would pass that law?


I was thinking that it's not necessarily for those that are "unmarried" and straight...it's for those that are gay. If unmarrieds are allowed to live together than that's one step closer for gay couples to be recognized.
I'm NOT against gay couples, I'm just pointing out that there's more to this rule than meets the eye. They can't say "This law is actually for gay couples" because it's not politically correct and could hurt someone's election year (if they're having one). I don't think it considered unconstitutional since I don't remember it being written anywhere in the Constitution (unless you're trying to make it fall under freedom of speech...but even that is a far stretch).

Anyhoo, I don't think its right either, but hopefully things will change with the next set of politians there.
post #15 of 20
Whether these good old fashioned folks are ready for it or not, it's time to acknowledge that we're in the 21st century already!
As for not being unconstitutional, well, that just makes me think it's high time America got its act together and update that outdated legislation too.
post #16 of 20
How anti-life is that? People take responsibility for their actions and bring a child into the world and actually take care of it- they get punished for not being married? That's crazy. Sure I may believe it's best for people who are cohabitating and have kids to make it official, but seriously, this isn't a government issue and it shouldn't be another person's decision to make. I have to agree that it probably has to do with the slippery slope to same sex marriages thing. People are idiots!!
post #17 of 20
The ACLU will have a field day with this one.

My parents have been married 58 years.
post #18 of 20
Black Jack Population: 6452

Small town... towns that size have lots of weird rules. Something like it would never pass in a town even twice that size.
post #19 of 20
"The ACLU will have a field day with this one.

My parents have been married 58 years."

I sure hope the Aclu has a field day! That's what my membership dues are for!
My parents have been married for about 40 years, and they'd be better off divorced. This town has no right whatsoever to do this, and if they do, they should not get any federal or state benefits. This is not unheard of-- many of these new subdevelopments you see springing up on old farmland have to pay all their own roads, sewer, water, trash, etc. College campuses have their own police force and such. If a town wishes to isolate itself from America, let it. But do it completely, not in such a way that the people they've passed laws against the existence of are forced to support them.
post #20 of 20
Thread Starter 
Quote:
Originally Posted by Zissou'sMom
"This town has no right whatsoever to do this, and if they do, they should not get any federal or state benefits..... If a town wishes to isolate itself from America, let it. But do it completely, not in such a way that the people they've passed laws against the existence of are forced to support them.
I agree, but how sad for the town's children & animals that would lose the protections that being American affords them.....
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