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post #1 of 21
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I found another good use for Jake. My mother in law HATES him and refused to come inside unless I put him in another room..Of course, as evil as I am, I wont do it! I let him jump up and down all over her and listen to the woman freak out. I know, I'm mean. I just tell her "I can't restrict him too much because it could cause him to hurt his leg more" LMFAO I am gonna go to hell for this one aren't I?
She also hates my cats. I think she's this way to be mean. Anything that shows affection, she's opposed to. I have been known to kick her out of my house for pushing my cats off MY couch. If she doesn't like it, she doesn't have to come over, right?
post #2 of 21
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Originally Posted by DixieDarlin256
I found another good use for Jake. My mother in law HATES him and refused to come inside unless I put him in another room..Of course, as evil as I am, I wont do it! I let him jump up and down all over her and listen to the woman freak out. I know, I'm mean. I just tell her "I can't restrict him too much because it could cause him to hurt his leg more" LMFAO I am gonna go to hell for this one aren't I?
She also hates my cats. I think she's this way to be mean. Anything that shows affection, she's opposed to. I have been known to kick her out of my house for pushing my cats off MY couch. If she doesn't like it, she doesn't have to come over, right?
LOL-you are mean No not really, she just needs to learn to respect you and your things(PETS) I try my best to keep my dogs off of ppl because it does get annoying when they jump.
post #3 of 21
I take it you don't like your mother in law!?
post #4 of 21
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Don't like is an understatement.
The woman is more annoying then nails on a chalkboard. About 2 months ago she showed up on my doorstep, knowing my husband isn't home. She started ranting and raving about how mush "smarter"then me she is. I told her "um, I have 5 years college behind me, do you?" Anyways, she followed me around the house ranting about how her son is better off being an alcoholic then being with me Anyways, it ended by her pushing me to get my attention ( i was ignoring her) while I was leaning over to pull something out of the hot oven, and making me burn my hand pretty badly... I have told my husband that she is to NEVER step foot in my house when he's not there. She only comes over and does this when he's not there because she knows he'll tell her like it is!
post #5 of 21
Oh no she sounds terrible!

And I think since it is your house, your cats can go wherever they want!
post #6 of 21
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Originally Posted by DixieDarlin256
Don't like is an understatement.
The woman is more annoying then nails on a chalkboard. About 2 months ago she showed up on my doorstep, knowing my husband isn't home. She started ranting and raving about how mush "smarter"then me she is. I told her "um, I have 5 years college behind me, do you?" Anyways, she followed me around the house ranting about how her son is better off being an alcoholic then being with me Anyways, it ended by her pushing me to get my attention ( i was ignoring her) while I was leaning over to pull something out of the hot oven, and making me burn my hand pretty badly... I have told my husband that she is to NEVER step foot in my house when he's not there. She only comes over and does this when he's not there because she knows he'll tell her like it is!

YIKES!!! I can completely understand your situation....my MIL is the same way too. I don't think your mean at all. My MIL at least lives out of town and we don't visit them at their house. IF they come to the city to visit us they cannot smoke the entire time they are visiting(my son has pretty bad asthma triggered by cig smoke/fumes) and I use that to my advantage LOL. They only come visit 4 times a year which, to me, is 4 times to many LOL.

Goodluck with the MIL,

Kallie
post #7 of 21
Pffttt "anyone" pushes my girls off the couch would be out the door quicker than they came in it
post #8 of 21
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Thats my feeling too RosieMac. I have MORE then once told her if I caught her kicking/pushing my cats again, I was going to kick her. The next time she comes over, I'm gonna hide a dog biscuit in her purse for him to follow her around
post #9 of 21
I feel your pain! We have been 14 woinderful years without my SO's mother. Unfortunately, that is about to change.
post #10 of 21
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Originally Posted by DixieDarlin256
Thats my feeling too RosieMac. I have MORE then once told her if I caught her kicking/pushing my cats again, I was going to kick her. The next time she comes over, I'm gonna hide a dog biscuit in her purse for him to follow her around
LOL-go fer it!! BTW-is she married, or working?
post #11 of 21
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No, she's been divorced from my hubby's father since he was 12. They were married 16 years before that. She never remarried. I can TOTALLY see why! When she left my father in law, she cleaned out the joint checking of over $17k and took off with my DH for 2 years. From what I know she's ALWAYS been greedy and abusive towards my FIL and my DH. She will call MY parents out of no where and ask them things that would blow your mind. Like "I dont know what color to paint my walls..Can you help?" My dad's like ":censor::censor::censor:? I've never even been in your house. How should I know?"
Then about 2 years ago, right before Christmas, my husband an I thought I might be pregnant.. all the signs were there... so he tells his mom...HUGE MISTAKE! She calls my mother on CHRISTMAS EVE to tell her "your daughter's pregnant" My mom called me and told me about this and I had to inform her that it was a THOUGHT... wasn't definate. Good lord this woman. From then on I told my DH to keep her out of our buisness!
post #12 of 21
What a psycho nightmare!! My MIL is bad, but not that bad. How does your DH feel about her? Does he side with you (I hope?)
post #13 of 21
eek, you poor thing....she sounds like a nightmare.

i was really lucky, my MIL is the kindest, loving, gentle woman i have ever met, when i first met the family it was all of them together because they were holding an engagement party and i was so nervous i felt sick.

as soon as i met Erika she gave me a big hug and kiss and welcomed me into the family, she even held my hand. she always tells me that she's happy Jeff married me.

she's really old fashioned and lives on a farmlet with her husband, they are baptist too and they grow their own fruit, make their own jam, bread, icecream and tonnes of stuff, she even has a sheep and uses the wool for stuffing pillows she makes, she has made a throw rug, cushions and a few teddy bears for me and i'm always amazed by her because you don't meet many women like her these days, she's happy with the simplest of things and always see's the bright side, she's fully self sufficient.

i love visiting because she has a macadamia nut tree and heaps of things she grows, we always come home with fruit and stuff.

she also makes her own clothes which i think is pretty amazing, iv'e never met anyone else like her.

my nan on the other hand....is a total nightmare and i wouldn't inflict her on my worst enemy but that's another story altogether

back on topic, you have every right to leave the cats out when she's there, if she doesn't like it she knows where the door is, if anyone tried to kick my cats off the couch i'd be showing them the door too
post #14 of 21
LOL if people don't like my pets then they can forget coming over!
post #15 of 21
Yikes! your MIL sounds like the devil herself! Mine is the greatest one in the world! I wouldn't trade her for anything!!
I hope you train Jake to jump on her everytime she tries to bother one of your cats. That'll teach her!
post #16 of 21
Not evil, just honest. YOUR house, YOUR pets, YOUR marriage = YOUR rules. MIL needs to learn respect.

My first MIL was a total witch. Sixteen years after I divorced my first husband, our son told me that she had died. "Sure - NOW" is what popped out of my mouth. She DID do one thing right: taught me how NOT to treat MY DIL. (Marrying Sam is the smartest thing that Mark has ever done).
post #17 of 21
She sounds like a real nightmare!!, it's always been been my opinion that people that dislike (or use the words hate) animals are disfunctional, how could you not like cats and dogs?
post #18 of 21
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Yeah I have gotten to the point that when she comes over I hide in another room. My husband has put her in her place about me more then once. After all the counsuling we have been through, he has come to learn she is the source of alot of his problems with alcoholisim because of the abuse she put him through. She hit him with frying pans, bite his face, beat him severly many times until he was about 14 and literally threw her in a closet and moved out. His father's no angel either. He knew it went on but did nothing about it.
And she wonders why I wont ask her to babysit the boys... She's out of her damn mind!
post #19 of 21
Oh my, oh my, OH MY! I thought i had the "Only One"!
My mother-in-law has NOT liked me since day one. (And that has been over 40 years ago now!)
I have always tried to keep my mouth shut out of respect for the fact that she is my beloved hubby`s mother....but trust me, I know just how you feel.
She does not say things outright to me, but insinuates things, if you know what I mean...and I hear from other people the things she tells them....so I have gotten where I will not answer the phone when she calls if my hubby is`nt here, but will tell him that she called when he gets home. (Why should I answer for her?...She certainly does`nt want to talk to me!)
She absolutly hates our cats....and she really hates that my husband dotes over them. (Says it`s not "manly" for him to like cats and for him not to let other people know how he is with them....the gall!) I do keep them away from her whenever she is here, but my reason is because i don`t want her to do anything mean to them. (She did kick my sister-in-laws dog once!) When i told my husband...the very next time she was over, he plain out told her that if anyone ever kicked one of our cats that he`d kick their butt all the way to the road. (I was SHOCKED to hear him say that to his mom, but he is very protective of our "boys"....and on the inside i was applauding him BIG TIME...and told him so later.)
I used to stress over what I`d ever done to make her hate me so bad....but as i`ve gotten older i realize that it is`nt me....it would`nt matter who had married her son...she`d have felt the same way about them....it`s HER, NOT ME...and I don`t waste my time worrying about it anymore.
Linda
post #20 of 21
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Exactly. I have come to the conclusion that this woman is they type that hates to see anyone happy or doing better then her. And if she's in a bad mood, she want's everyone to be in a bad mood. I just try to ignore it.
The other day she left a message on our cell saying "I clocked how many miles it was from your house to mine, It's 10 miles and I think thats too far so maybe you shouldn't move there" Um, we had already moved over half our belongings in!
post #21 of 21
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Originally Posted by DixieDarlin256
Exactly. I have come to the conclusion that this woman is they type that hates to see anyone happy or doing better then her. And if she's in a bad mood, she want's everyone to be in a bad mood. I just try to ignore it.
The other day she left a message on our cell saying "I clocked how many miles it was from your house to mine, It's 10 miles and I think thats too far so maybe you shouldn't move there" Um, we had already moved over half our belongings in!
Oh my gosh.....you are in the same boat we are!
We have reciently decided that we are going to try to sell our home and then buy my nephews little house in town. (My hubby will retire in a few years and we think it would be a smart move for us) She had a hissy fit when she found out....AS IF IT WAS ANY OF HER BUSINESS ANYWAY!
I knew she would react like that...about ANY and EVERY decision we have ever made.....and told my husband to deal with her or I would speak up and tell her just how it is.I`m done putting up with her trying to tell us what do do or not do. She speaks her mind (even when it has NOTHING to do with her) and i`m about at the point that I`m going to tell her.
After 40 years i think it`s time someone told her to butt out!
Linda
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