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post #1 of 16
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http://www.capecodonline.com/cctimes/promduress9.htm

I can understand the school trying to protect tis minors, but this may be going a bit too far. If the background checks turned up a sexual offense or something like that, I could understand not allowing them.
post #2 of 16
We had a case here in which the prom date wasn't allowed because he was home schooled, which meant that there were no teachers or principals to vouch for him!
post #3 of 16
Wow,

I definately think this is over the top. I think that sceening the prom date is up to the parents and not the school, although in my high school, for a dance, if we were bringing someone who did not attend the school, the person had to get permission from a gardian and meet with the principle and then they would decide from there.

Plus, if the students are required to check their coats, shoes and any bags before entering the dance, this could help prevent anything from going down at the event. This approach really helped with my highschool dances (rough school).
post #4 of 16
Wow.

You didn't even have to tell the school your date's last name at my school, just their first name so they could bubble paint your names together on your party favors! This was 3-4 years ago. People are so paranoid now!
post #5 of 16
My senior prom date was a good friend who did not go to my high school, I just needed his name as well. That's kinda weird. I wonder how big of a problem this has been.
post #6 of 16
Wow. My sister in law couldnt bring her boyfriend because he wasn't a US citizen - he was a legal resident but that didn't matter to the school, so she didnt go to her prom. I would have loved to see her in a prom dress, shes a beautiful girl.
post #7 of 16
That seems quite strange! At my school, we had to bring guys from else where, as it was a single sex school - we had guys of all ages from all over the place!

I'd hate to think what they would have found doing background checks there!
post #8 of 16
Wow...people were more shocked that I went with a guy at my high school then to worry about if he was OK.

Besides he was a friend of mine. The next year I went with a different friend and had just finished my freshman year.
post #9 of 16
We didn't even have to supply the names!

I think its a little over the top considering the parents have signed a consent form noting the dates name etc and drivers licenses are required so they know it is that person.
post #10 of 16
Wow!! I wouldn't have been able to go with my boyfriend. I was 18 and he was 21. That is really ridiculous. We were told that local police would be at hotels looking for our county's tags and calling our parents to tell them where we were.They are going a little far with this.
post #11 of 16
They did the same thing back when I went to prom 5 years ago. They even banned a student's date who had just graduated from our school the year before!! They ban our dates, but they don't kick out the 40 year old guy who shows up at school to hit on the high school girls. No one really knows why he was there all the time, but he was and made everyone feel very uncomfortable.
post #12 of 16
That is ridiculus!
post #13 of 16
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Originally Posted by Kiwideus
Wow. My sister in law couldnt bring her boyfriend because he wasn't a US citizen - he was a legal resident but that didn't matter to the school, so she didnt go to her prom. I would have loved to see her in a prom dress, shes a beautiful girl.
Thats horrible! How could they descrimanate against him like its racist and unfair (and I doubt that it's legal to do that!).
post #14 of 16
For my school dances (any of them, homecoming, spring fling, prom, etc.) you had to give your dates name and school they're attending before you bought your ticket. At the door school IDs were checked and if you forgot to put your date's name down before hand, they couldn't come in.
I don't know if they ran background checks, I think they just wanted to have accurate records of who was there in case something happened.
We did have problems with people bringing out of school dates who were in gangs and could cause trouble with other kids from our school.
(and I went to a good high school!)
It does seem a little strict, but think about if you were a parent. I would be interested to learn if my child's date turned up with a criminal record!

~Julia
post #15 of 16
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Originally Posted by jlutgendorf
It does seem a little strict, but think about if you were a parent. I would be interested to learn if my child's date turned up with a criminal record!
But what if they already knew and didn't have a problem with it? When I was 16, I dated a guy who was 19 and living in a halfway house. Obviously he had a criminal record. My parents knew about it, we talked about it, he was trying to change his life - was going to school, went to church with us every Sunday, etc. Of course, my parents weren't thrilled that I was dating him, but they supported me and trusted my judgement about him. Why should the school have issues with a relationship if the parents don't?
post #16 of 16
I think it's less the school making sure people aren't dating criminals and more the school's covering it's butt so that if something does happen and an off campus guest freaks out and hurts or kills someone, they're less liable in the situation.
And obviously there's no reason that none of their kids will have records, but I would guess that whatever kind of insurance a school must have will apply to their own kids and the damages they cause but may not cover other school's kids who attend their event. Though i don't actually know how insurance works for schools, but I imagine it's complicated.

~Julia
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