Originally Posted by CommonOddity042
Pudge used to do that to my boyfriend every morning when she was a kitten. He learned almost zen-like control and immediately went to pee when he woke up after a few weeks of that.
So, can we borrow Pudge? LOL
Seriously though, I hope you're coming back to read the responses even if you haven't responded, and I can understand how some of them might have been very frightening to you.
I posted this before but I just wanted to say it again in case you are reading this. Is there any way you can work out a temporary solution and then look for a way to work things out, such as having a good friend or family member take care of Penguin temporarily, maybe for 6 months, while you talk to your husband and maybe look into some help for the two of you to come to a better place together?
You can always still give Penguin up, but if you are able to come to a better understanding with your husband, since you love Penguin so much, you still have the option of taking her back. I would hate to see you forced to do anything you might end up regretting later, and making choices that end up in permanent losses right now, be it Penguin or your marriage.
Please consider this option and see if you can get some help in working out a better solution. One thing people have said that is 100% true, this will not be the only time he will do this. The more control you allow him on your life, the more he will try to take in the future.
You deserve to have an input into your life together. It should not be a 1-way decision making process with the cat or anything else.
Please come back and talk to us. If you need to talk or vent, please feel free to even PM me, okay?
I wish the best for you.