what wisdom would you pass on to someone else?

this site is so great for provoking thoughful discussions and a great way to learn some new things, about ourselves and each other. we all have so much to share as we have all had unique lives and experiences. i was thinking let's start a thread of the most important life lessions we've ever learned. i know that there is a lot i can learn from all of you.


so here goes-

what's the most important thing you've learned in your life?

The most important thing I've learned in 52 yrs. of trying is you can do or be anything you want bad enough. Always be proud of who you are, don't apologize for being too tall, or small, or fat or thin etc. these are not who you are, but just the package you come in. Stand tall (posture is everything) no matter how tall or not. Don't listen to limits placed on you by others. In the same vein; don't limit yourself. Believe in yourself and those you love.(that belief is the best gift you can give) Never forget how to laugh: at yourself and with others. Never forget how to love: from the smallest of God's creatures to the mightiest of kings. And here's one I work on everyday: Know when to just say nothing............................

There is always tomorrow to do the work, have fun TODAY!

Make sure you really know the man you are going to marry, because i have found that men act one way till you get married, then they show their true colors....LOL

Also...be yourself. If people don't like you for who you are, then the heck with them. They aren't worth it.

I have found that in life, there are some people who just ARENT going to like you!! And so be it. To each their own.
I think that if everyone in the world likes you....you are kissing far to much *ss.

And....trust in God....for everything. He will never let you down.

The only things you can control are your ACTIONS and your ATTITUDES! (incidently, if you can control those, you will achieve everything you want!)

It takes many screws to build a crib, and only one to fill it!!

LOL, had to use that one.

I think mine would be that old cliche: Life is what's happening to you while you're busy making other plans

I never thought I'd be where I am today, 10, 5 and even 2 years ago. At each stage I've had a different picture of myself today and all were wrong - not necessarily better or worse, but very different.

You cannot change anyone, but you can change how you look at them. With God, all things are possible, even working through grief that threatens to overwhelm you. Performing simple acts of kindness, makes the days sweeter..

Sandie, that was HILARIOUS! I've never heard that before.

My life lessons in 35 years. Hhmmmm. Live each day as if it's your last, because you may not be here tomorrow. Always tell your friends, family and those close to you that you love them, because you never know if there will be a next time. Treat others with the same respect as you would like to be treated. Smile, it conveys happiness. Grin, it raises curiosity that your up to something and is great for sparking conversations. Give a helping hand to those that need it and the rewards of making that persons day is limitless. Kiss your cats goodnight so they have pleasant dreams.

Okay, let's see. Um. . . .

Find a place within yourself where you can go for protection when everything around you is terrible, because there will come a time when you are in fact all alone. You can't lean on others constantly nor forever.

Do things for your friends, no matter how miniscule such good deeds may be, rather than just talk about how much loved ones mean to you. Maintaining a friendship is an honor, not a luxury.

Stand by your convictions and your friends, because both are indicative of the human condition and your own humanity. Jumping on bandwagons is the same as throwing away your soul.

Resist, with a maximum effort, all temptation to judge others. "Justice" is nothing more than social vanity.

Seek at all times to avoid harming others, but know such a consequence is bound to happen from time to time. We're none of us more than human.

And remember, as we used to say in the combat zone: None of us are getting out of here alive!



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Don't worry about what other people think of you! When I was young I wanted to be liked, accepted and popular - I am 50 years old, I care about my family and circle of friends - I no longer dress or act to please the strangers of the world. I could care less if they like me or not.

Give back to the animals and children who need us - be their champion as there is too much distress and cruelty in the world.

And do not try to change what someone else does - do not judge too harshly - you have your karma and they have theirs. Help when you can, but never make the person feel like they owe you - forgive them their mistakes because tomorrow you will make your own.

Here is a wonderful story to share about my father - when my parents were struggling and my mom was in real estate she had a chance to sell a million dollar estate - a lot of money in the 60's. They decided to wine and dine the clients. My dad got to bragging about his dogs and cats (four dogs, six cats) and the wife of the client said, "Oh, you have animals in your house - I would never eat in your house." My father, who never said anything mean to anyone ever, looked her in the eye and said, "I don't remember inviting you." Mom lost the deal but was proud of my father!

I guess the biggest lessons I have learned are:

1- to live your life with integrity; you have to be able to get up every day and live with the face that stares back at you from the mirror.

2- if you can't laugh at yourself, you are missing the biggest joke of all.

3- the best thing you can give others is a piece of yourself.

Sandie --You are too funny. I'll have to share that one with my husband ( and try not to fill that crib, yet!)

We need to learn "to agree to disagree" - respect each others opinions even of they are not ones own.