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post #1 of 22
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Is it the norm for children to put a "wish list" in their birthday party invitations?
A friend of mine has a grand-daughter who is going to turn 9 this month. She has a "wish list" in her party invitations.

DVD's
CD's
Game Boy
Play Station 2 Games
jewelry
clothes
shoes
etc


Is this a common thing now?
I have not heard of it for children's parties.

Thanks for your input.

Shenandoah and Humble say: We like dis idee!
We cood make a long ole list. But Meowmy sez it's TACKY!
post #2 of 22
Personally I think its kind of selfish of a child to put a 'wishlist' on a birthday invitation. I never did that. I didn't expect anyone to get me presents, and to this day, I don't expect gifts.
post #3 of 22
This is the first time I have heard of this being done. I myself would say its in very bad taste!
post #4 of 22
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Originally Posted by gardenandcats
This is the first time I have heard of this being done. I myself would say its in very bad taste!

I think it is incredibly tacky!
I was hoping that this is not the way things are done these days.
This friend of mine is in VA and says that all the kids do it.
post #5 of 22
I've never heard of it either - but it sounds great to me. I can remember always wondering what to get for the kids whose parties Jennifer was invited to and always thinking I got the wrong thing. A wish list would surely have helped me as a parent.

Is it really any different than brides-to-be registering for particular gifts at stores? They are basically telling you what they want as a gift aren't they?
post #6 of 22
No its different, because brides don't include a wish list in their wedding invitations! Where they are registered is a word of mouth thing. Similarly what kids want for their birthdays should also be done by word of mouth. That way someone doesn't feel expected to buy a gift, but they can find out what to get if they take the initiative to ask.
post #7 of 22
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Originally Posted by Jenny82
No its different, because brides don't include a wish list in their wedding invitations! Where they are registered is a word of mouth thing. Similarly what kids want for their birthdays should also be done by word of mouth. That way someone doesn't feel expected to buy a gift, but they can find out what to get if they take the initiative to ask.
If our daughter was invited to a birthday party for one of her little friends, I would never dream of sending her without a gift nor would I expect that the little one did not expect a gift, that is, gifts ARE expected, so I can only assume our kiddie parties are very different than yours.
post #8 of 22
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Originally Posted by Yosemite
If our daughter was invited to a birthday party for one of her little friends, I would never dream of sending her without a gift nor would I expect that the little one did not expect a gift, that is, gifts ARE expected, so I can only assume our kiddie parties are very different than yours.
I would never send a child to a birthday party without a gift either, but I have never heard of children sending a list that requests gifts.
post #9 of 22
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Originally Posted by Jenny82
I would never send a child to a birthday party without a gift either, but I have never heard of children sending a list that requests gifts.
i think a 'wish list' is tacky, but you could register the kid's choices at Target like brides do... then you could put that the child is registered, for those people who want to have ideas...
post #10 of 22
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I agree. You COULD do that.

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Originally Posted by laureen227
i think a 'wish list' is tacky, but you could register the kid's choices at Target like brides do... then you could put that the child is registered, for those people who want to have ideas...
post #11 of 22
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Originally Posted by laureen227
i think a 'wish list' is tacky, but you could register the kid's choices at Target like brides do... then you could put that the child is registered, for those people who want to have ideas...
methinks this might be going a bit far!
post #12 of 22
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Originally Posted by batgirl2good
Is it the norm for children to put a "wish list" in their birthday party invitations?
A friend of mine has a grand-daughter who is going to turn 9 this month. She has a "wish list" in her party invitations.

DVD's
CD's
Game Boy
Play Station 2 Games
jewelry
clothes
shoes
etc


Is this a common thing now?
I have not heard of it for children's parties.

Thanks for your input.

Shenandoah and Humble say: We like dis idee!
We cood make a long ole list. But Meowmy sez it's TACKY!
It's customary for weddings, & house warmings, but that is because decorating your home is a much bigger job than say whether to get fairytopia barbie or hip-hop barbie... And not for nothing, I hope it's family coming to that party...cause the only birthday gifts I'd spend $50 on would be for my neice or nephew. Not someone in Jazzy's class... a game boy & PS2 games or jewelry are all really expensive! Even a DVD is $20 now-a-days... I mean, for classmates I try to keep it at $20...for cousins $30...for my neices/nephews/(her 1st cousins) I spend $50. I have like 10 neices/nephews...it gets outta hand! Imagine at Christmas?! But I would never make a wish list for our parties... it's a bit much. Most people call or email me asking is there anything she'd like. But for classmates you can usually find something cute for $20... like a blockbuster movie gift cert in a bowl with microwave popcorn and movie style candies is a nice gift. Does anyone else have limits for gifts?
post #13 of 22
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I don't have children, but I hate to spend more than $15-$20 on someone I don't know well. I will never think it is ok for a child to put a "want list" in a birthday invitation.

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Originally Posted by LuckyGirl
It's customary for weddings, & house warmings, but that is because decorating your home is a much bigger job than say whether to get fairytopia barbie or hip-hop barbie... And not for nothing, I hope it's family coming to that party...cause the only birthday gifts I'd spend $50 on would be for my neice or nephew. Not someone in Jazzy's class... a game boy & PS2 games or jewelry are all really expensive! Even a DVD is $20 now-a-days... I mean, for classmates I try to keep it at $20...for cousins $30...for my neices/nephews/(her 1st cousins) I spend $50. I have like 10 neices/nephews...it gets outta hand! Imagine at Christmas?! But I would never make a wish list for our parties... it's a bit much. Most people call or email me asking is there anything she'd like. But for classmates you can usually find something cute for $20... like a blockbuster movie gift cert in a bowl with microwave popcorn and movie style candies is a nice gift. Does anyone else have limits for gifts?
post #14 of 22
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Originally Posted by LuckyGirl
Does anyone else have limits for gifts?
i have limits... don't have any children other than the furry kind, so i give christmas & birthday gifts to my nieces & nephews [3 nieces, 7 nephews, age range 1 year to 20 years]. i have a $10 limit for each gift, that i occasionally go over for the older ones, because i can find fun, inexpensive stuff for the little ones. i also stop buying gifts for them after their 18th birthday. anyway, i even have limits for my 'pseudo' children. i'd probably have the same limits for birthday gifts for my children's friends.
post #15 of 22
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Originally Posted by laureen227
i have limits... don't have any children other than the furry kind, so i give christmas & birthday gifts to my nieces & nephews [3 nieces, 7 nephews, age range 1 year to 20 years]. i have a $10 limit for each gift, that i occasionally go over for the older ones, because i can find fun, inexpensive stuff for the little ones. i also stop buying gifts for them after their 18th birthday. anyway, i even have limits for my 'pseudo' children. i'd probably have the same limits for birthday gifts for my children's friends.

GOOD for you! I love it! Stuff is expensive, and I am not willing to pay that much, especially if I am not close to someone.
post #16 of 22
It sounds rather tacky to me. And I think it really sends the wrong message to the kids. After all, if they are friends, they can talk to each other about what they would want.

I have a limit on what I spend for gifts, too, depending on if they are close friends or family, or just school friends. And asking for a GameBoy!?!

My dd's best friend's Mom wanted to get her a trampoline one year for her birthday, so she did ask the close friends and family to pitch in on that. But it was totally optional.
post #17 of 22
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How are your babies? Did they have worms? Are they ok?
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Originally Posted by Beckiboo
It sounds rather tacky to me. And I think it really sends the wrong message to the kids. After all, if they are friends, they can talk to each other about what they would want.

I have a limit on what I spend for gifts, too, depending on if they are close friends or family, or just school friends. And asking for a GameBoy!?!

My dd's best friend's Mom wanted to get her a trampoline one year for her birthday, so she did ask the close friends and family to pitch in on that. But it was totally optional.
post #18 of 22
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Originally Posted by batgirl2good
How are your babies? Did they have worms? Are they ok?
I foster, and my foster litter had roundworms and tapeworms. Although they stay in a separate bedroom from my kits, I do worry about them passing things. So my vet sent home extra Drontal for my kids, and I dosed them (and the fosters) just to be safe.

They are all just fine, but the bathroom was a terrible mess this morning. I think it was Festus, but that is purely a guess. My in and out cat Will has just started using litterboxes, too, and possibly it was him. I've noticed a lot more litter strewn these days, whether from Will, or everyone else post worm medicine, I'm not sure. But the poo on the potty and wall was new...I'm glad I saw it before dh! LOL!
post #19 of 22
I personally would rather give the kid's parents a call and ask what they might like, rather than recieve a wish list. It would seem more like I wanted to give the gift, rather than giving it grudginly.
post #20 of 22
I think it's tacky.

My only children are furry with four legs, so I doubt I'll be sending a child to a friend's birthday with a gift in tow anytime soon (or ever) but if the situation were to come up and I were unsure of what to buy, I would call the child's mom to ask for gift ideas.
post #21 of 22
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hey, then, we are alike! shenandoah and humble are my only children.
I don't have to help them with homework. They never talk back! I adore them!
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Originally Posted by nekokaasan
I think it's tacky.

My only children are furry with four legs, so I doubt I'll be sending a child to a friend's birthday with a gift in tow anytime soon (or ever) but if the situation were to come up and I were unsure of what to buy, I would call the child's mom to ask for gift ideas.
post #22 of 22
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Originally Posted by batgirl2good
hey, then, we are alike! shenandoah and humble are my only children.
I don't have to help them with homework. They never talk back! I adore them!
And we never have to send them to college or worry about them running off with a bad person or staying out late and giving us sleepless nights! (Although Cotton's doing his best by waking me up at 5:30 in the morning by pouncing on my feet, the little rascal.)
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