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I'm so mad right now..

post #1 of 17
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So everything was going great lately.. I was going to go to prom, I got a cute dress, my boyfriend was coming over to go with me.. and I was really excited. But now we fiind out that the school's "21 age limit" means that 20 year olds and younger are allowed.. and I'm so mad, because they should just say that 20 is the age limit. So now I have a dress, my boyfriend bought a $400 plane ticket, and we can't even go.. we can go and eat dinner and get pictures, but he's not allowed in the ballroom.. it's like, how stupid is that??? And now he's pretty much just being a jerk to me and is saying that if he can get the date changed, and switch the ticket from him to me, then we're going to have to pay him back some of the money, because he's not getting a trip out of it. I'm so unbelievable upset about everthing right now that it's not even funny..
post #2 of 17
So, you're in high school and your boyfriend is older than you and out of high school - is that the case? I'm really sorry. How disappointing!! That would make me mad, too. And after going to all that trouble! Aww. I don't see how he can be mad at YOU, though. It's not your fault..... If he can't understand that and is just blaming you, well then, is he your boyfriend?

HUGS
post #3 of 17
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Originally Posted by sweetiecat3
So, you're in high school and your boyfriend is older than you and out of high school - is that the case? I'm really sorry. How disappointing!! That would make me mad, too. And after going to all that trouble! Aww. I don't see how he can be mad at YOU, though. It's not your fault..... If he can't understand that and is just blaming you, well then, is he your boyfriend?

HUGS
Yes.. I'm a junior in high school, and he's 21. My mom even tried to get the principal to reconsider, but he wouldn't. I've been excited about this for so long, and now I can't even go!

post #4 of 17
That really stinks that the school didn't make that clear before you made so many expensive preparations!
post #5 of 17
This may not even be something you'd want to consider, but can you just go without him? Do you have friends that are boys? My junior prom I went with a boy who I had been friends with when I was little, and we had a lot of fun! If your boyfriend is being such a poopypants about it and won't make the best of it, why not? He could switch the tickets to a different weekend and the two of you could just have fun without worrying about prom. You'll regret having missed your first prom for something so stupid.

Why are dating a 21-year-old long distance when you're a junior in high school?
post #6 of 17
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Originally Posted by Zissou'sMom
This may not even be something you'd want to consider, but can you just go without him? Do you have friends that are boys? My junior prom I went with a boy who I had been friends with when I was little, and we had a lot of fun! If your boyfriend is being such a poopypants about it and won't make the best of it, why not? He could switch the tickets to a different weekend and the two of you could just have fun without worrying about prom. You'll regret having missed your first prom for something so stupid.

Why are dating a 21-year-old long distance when you're a junior in high school?
I don't have many guy friends.. close guy friends, that is. Plus, I've always had this thing about going to prom with someone who is "just a friend" and I still don't want to do it. We're still trying to figure something out..
post #7 of 17
I would just go, this is your only chance and believe me you only get it once!

Because of our moves i didnt get to any sort of Prom or graduation and ir eally really really wish i did!
So just go with a friend! Believe me you will have a blast!

Dont give it up for him.. because maybe in a few years youre not together anymore and you will definetely REGRET IT!!!!!
post #8 of 17
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Originally Posted by fwan
I would just go, this is your only chance and believe me you only get it once!

Because of our moves i didnt get to any sort of Prom or graduation and ir eally really really wish i did!
So just go with a friend! Believe me you will have a blast!

Dont give it up for him.. because maybe in a few years youre not together anymore and you will definetely REGRET IT!!!!!
I really want to go, but we're so close, and I'd feel horrible just leaving him and going.. especially if he's still coming over. I don't know what's going to happen yet..
post #9 of 17
I know how you feel but i dont want you to make the same mistake as i did..

when i was 13 i had a bf, we were together for a while, his mother broke us up for reasons, we stayed in contact over the internet and met up a few times a few years later.
It was his graduation 2 years ago and he invited me, i nearly bought my dress and my plane ticket, believe me my plane ticket costs much more than 400$! it was over 1,000.
I dropped all that for my ex boyfriend, who really made me feel like POO and i really regret not flying over just to go to a graduation and to dress up.

Plane tickets can always be changed, but your heart and a special event cant.
It is just one evening, where you get to feel like a princess, dont throw it down the drain!
post #10 of 17
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Originally Posted by fwan
I know how you feel but i dont want you to make the same mistake as i did..

when i was 13 i had a bf, we were together for a while, his mother broke us up for reasons, we stayed in contact over the internet and met up a few times a few years later.
It was his graduation 2 years ago and he invited me, i nearly bought my dress and my plane ticket, believe me my plane ticket costs much more than 400$! it was over 1,000.
I dropped all that for my ex boyfriend, who really made me feel like POO and i really regret not flying over just to go to a graduation and to dress up.

Plane tickets can always be changed, but your heart and a special event cant.
It is just one evening, where you get to feel like a princess, dont throw it down the drain!
Awww, now you're making me feel bad about changing my mind! I mean, if he came over, we could still go in and eat and get pictures and be seen together, but we just wouldn't be able to go into the actual ballroom (which, by the way, is still incredibly stupid). We could still get dressed up and have a fun evening, but I'm not sure if he's actually coming over now. I really want him to, and I really want to be at his graduation!
post #11 of 17
Please try to understand why your school has this policy though. Its not just to ruin your night. I am not saying anything specific to your situation, but if a student under the age of 16 is dating someone that old, and they are ahem, engaging in some delicate activities, it would be a felony. As alot of people associate such activities with prom, including school administrators and students, it is totally understandable for them to have such a policy. Many juniors in high school are under 16. Also, a 21-year-old can legally drink, and buy alcohol, and there is another thing that they would not want to happen at a prom. We had to take breathalyzers when we got to our prom, 5 years ago or so. A legal-age drinker would create a problem for this. I don't mean to imply that either of these apply to you and your boyfriend, but the policy isn't just bunk meant to make your life difficult!

See if the prom is as important to him as it is to you. As a 21-yr-old myself, I can say that I can't imagine going to a prom, as I'm so far removed from that world. He may just be uncomfortable in that environment anyway. He's already had his proms and dances and football games. You really want to go, and just be sure that he's not just going for you before you freak out about making sure he goes too. If you don't want to go with a friend, go by yourself. Everyone you know, mostly, will be there, and there are always plenty of people who don't feel much like being three inches from someone for three hours. I remember about a dozen girls from my high school went all together, and had a blast.
post #12 of 17
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We talked a little, and I guess he's still coming over.. and we're going to go and get pictures and make an appearance. Maybe someone will see us and feel a little bad and let us in anyways? Haha, that'd be nice. But if we still can't get in, we're just going to go out and spend our own time together.. so it won't be completely bad, right?
post #13 of 17
I'd say it's up to you. Just make sure you won't regret it. I went to my junior prom with a few friends. I went to my senior prom with a friend of a friend and it was not good....let me see if I can dig up a pic I edited...(with marker, didn't have a scanner back then or anything.)

Just don't let this be your prom memory....
post #14 of 17
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Originally Posted by MoochNNoodles
I'd say it's up to you. Just make sure you won't regret it. I went to my junior prom with a few friends. I went to my senior prom with a friend of a friend and it was not good....let me see if I can dig up a pic I edited...(with marker, didn't have a scanner back then or anything.)

Just don't let this be your prom memory....
Awww.. well at least your junior one wasn't so bad, right? I'm sure that whatever we end up doing, it'll still be fun..
post #15 of 17
How would they know that he is 21 rather than 20? does he have to show id?
post #16 of 17
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Originally Posted by maverick_kitten
How would they know that he is 21 rather than 20? does he have to show id?
I was going to say the same thing! It's not as if he's 40 or something! I bet they wouldn't even notice!
post #17 of 17
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They have to show a picture ID.. and he really only looks like he's about 19.
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