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post #1 of 24
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I'm so sad.

There's that guy at school that I really, really like. As I had posted earlier, I was trying to find a way to see him more outside of class.
I did meet with him after an exam last week and it was really nice. This morning was our last final exam together. I was working up the courage to give him my phone number and ask him to call me if he wants to hang out during the summer.

Well, I missed him before the exam. I saw him in the exam room and he smiled at me and wished me luck but we couldn't really talk then.
Then, I missed him on my way out of the exam.

That means I might not see him until September when we will have classes together again.

I don't think I can stand waiting for 4 months to figure out where this relationship is going. If he had just wanted to talk to me once in a while and nothing more, I'd be disappointed but I'd survive. And at least I'd KNOW.

Now I'm afraid I'll just spend the whole summer wondering, giving up or building unrealistic expectations. Either way, I think I blew it.

post #2 of 24
I bet you didnt!!!
Im sure you will see him in the next 4 months!
Good things come to good people!! and you deserve it!
post #3 of 24
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Originally Posted by fwan
I bet you didnt!!!
Im sure you will see him in the next 4 months!
Good things come to good people!! and you deserve it!
thanks.

after posting this, I did discover that he is listed in the phone book. I'm not sure if I can work up the courage to call him. I'm always so afraid of imposing myself on people...
would it be creepy of me to call him by finding his phone number in the phone book?
post #4 of 24
I think you should go for it! It's not creepy at all if it was in the phone book - that's public knowledge and he put it there for anyone to look up. If he didn't want his phone number out there it would be unlisted.
If you found the phone number through some secret websearch - that would be creepy.
post #5 of 24
Um, it might be creepy depending on your prior relationship. Are you actually friends and talked alot? Or do you just kind of nod at eachother in the hallway?

I think it might be creepy if he knew you looked him up..unless you and him have talked alot in the past and are pretty friendly.

I'm just saying this because one time I worked at a drug store and this hot guy from a store across the way would always come in to buy stuff, and we would exchange pleasantries..Well one time I just gave him my number, and he never called me..I think I was creepy
post #6 of 24
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Originally Posted by lisasha3
I think you should go for it! It's not creepy at all if it was in the phone book - that's public knowledge and he put it there for anyone to look up. If he didn't want his phone number out there it would be unlisted.
If you found the phone number through some secret websearch - that would be creepy.

maybe I should abstain from telling him that I also googled his name in an attempt to find out more about him. (I didn't find out much anyways)

I haven't been stalking him though... so I guess I'm not too obsessed yet.
although... his address is also in the phone book.... (just kidding!! )
post #7 of 24
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Originally Posted by Trouts mom
Um, it might be creepy depending on your prior relationship. Are you actually friends and talked alot? Or do you just kind of nod at eachother in the hallway?

I think it might be creepy if he knew you looked him up..unless you and him have talked alot in the past and are pretty friendly.

I'm just saying this because one time I worked at a drug store and this hot guy from a store across the way would always come in to buy stuff, and we would exchange pleasantries..Well one time I just gave him my number, and he never called me..I think I was creepy
we always talked in class before the beginning of class and often on our way out of class as well (which was always cut short because one of us had another class right after) and we did go out for coffee together once, last week and talked for about an hour.
post #8 of 24
Do you have his email address? Email him with your phone number. Usually Universities keep a semi-public directory of students.

Otherwise, if you guys have hung out a bit, talked a lot during class etc, then it's OK to call him through the phone book.
If you were just starting to get to know each other, then it might be kind of creepy. I.e. you two went for coffee outside of class ONCE and then you suddenly calling him up saying "I Looked you up in the phone book and can't bear to not know for the next 4 months" (j/k).
post #9 of 24
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Originally Posted by marie-p
we always talked in class before the beginning of class and often on our way out of class as well (which was always cut short because one of us had another class right after) and we did go out for coffee together once, last week and talked for about an hour.

Okay, then if you think he had a good time when you went for coffee, and you generally have a good feeling that he may be into you..I would say you should call him!!

Good luck
post #10 of 24
Just call him!!!!!!!
Ask him if he wants to hang out in the holidays! I bet he wont say no!!
Honestly!
post #11 of 24
Sweetie, I'd just go call him! Look at it this way, what's the worst he can say? You're both at the point where you talk to eachother - if he says he'd prefer it to stay that way, you'll be disappointed but survive. If he says he'd like to move it further, then bonus - you've got nothing to lose really Go for it girl - men like confident women anyway
post #12 of 24
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Originally Posted by marie-p

maybe I should abstain from telling him that I also googled his name in an attempt to find out more about him. (I didn't find out much anyways)
.....at least you didn't pay the $50 to do a complete background check on him when google came up empty handed.
post #13 of 24
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Originally Posted by marie-p
we always talked in class before the beginning of class and often on our way out of class as well (which was always cut short because one of us had another class right after) and we did go out for coffee together once, last week and talked for about an hour.
Do you ever flirt with him? I'm guessing that you don't. If that's true, he may not even realize that you like him. I think you should call him. It's sooooooo much better knowing than not. He should be really flattered. I know I would be if a girl called me.
post #14 of 24
Aw, that sucks! I was going to say look up his number in the phone book, then I read through the thread. I'd call him and invite him out to some no-pressure thing like a local band at a bar or a festival that's coming up, something like that. Have something in mind before you call, that way you won't be like "Um, so ya wanna go do sumthin?" Be like "Hey, I saw that there's this *insert fun thing here* this weekend and thought I'd call and see if you wanted to go!"
post #15 of 24
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Originally Posted by Hydroaxe
Do you ever flirt with him? I'm guessing that you don't. If that's true, he may not even realize that you like him. I think you should call him. It's sooooooo much better knowing than not. He should be really flattered. I know I would be if a girl called me.
No... I'd like to flirt but honesly, I'm not too sure how.
I do smile when I see him, look at him in the eyes when we talk (not in a creepy way. at least I hope not ) but that's about it.

I guess the worst thing that can happen is that he turns me down... and when we're in class together again in September, it might make things kind of akward.

Alright, I guess I'll call him around the end of the week when I'm done with my exams.
post #16 of 24
Woohoo!! Let us know how it goes!!!

CALL HIM NOW, CALL HIM NOW, I'm so excited for you
post #17 of 24
If you call him and invite him to something that he 1) has adaquate time to plan for 2) he might like (there's always the possiblity that he doesn't like (insert activity here) and 3) you do it first as just friends, then IF he turns you down, there shouldn't be any awkwardness (at least, not that much. I'm comforting, I know) in September.

Good luck and GO GIRL!!!!!
post #18 of 24
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Originally Posted by Hydroaxe
I know I would be if a girl called me.
Gimme your number....hehe
post #19 of 24
You could also do this, it may work. I saw that you are 27 so call him up and say,
"hey, finals are DONE, I really liked talking with you before and after class. Some friends and I were going to go to a club(insert name here) tonight, oh around 9ish. Why don't you and some buddies meet us there. Lets blow of some steam together!"

Get your girlfriends together and go. If he shows than you know he may feel the same way too. If not you still had a good time with friends. There also would be no pressure like a date or anything. Just a group of people hanging out.

If you were some dude calling a girl out of the book than yes its creepy, but you are a DIVA so its okay. Guys like to be chased. My DH says to do it, guys like it.
post #20 of 24
Then how come every guy I chase gets freaked out if they like it? Maybe it's the sitting on their doorstep waiting for them to come home at 2 am..... J/K....
post #21 of 24
I'd definitly call him!
post #22 of 24
Call him!!
post #23 of 24
Since you said you're in school, couldn't you look for him on facebook?

When I went to university with a guy who'd I known in h/s (but I'd moved away two years prior) my friend sent me a list of people going to my uni from our h/s with his name(bolded & size 15 font) and his number. I was like, no way am I going to call him. Of course, 10 IM's or so later from my friend she gave me his e-mail address (from my uni's website dictory) and convinced me to e-mail. Which I did and we dated for awhile.

I'd see if I could find an e-mail before resorting to phone, but then I'm painfully shy. Although you could just call him up, say that you're having a get together with people from the spring semester and invite other people. I think it would be less pressure that way.
post #24 of 24
Call him! I think what mengerie mama and karma's mom have the exact right idea. If you don't, you will always wonder what might have been. Keep us posted, and best of luck.
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