I am feeling very lonely and sad.

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I am sending hugs to you and your boys. I pray that you will feel some happiness today in some way. It will all be ok. Bobbie
 

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Everyone else said it so beautifully, but you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers today and for a long time to come.
X 1000.
You'll fall into a new routine and the holidays will get easier, though thoughts of the man you all loved will always be around. I am sure that one day you will find much comfort in that
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I am so sorry about the loss of your husband. What a horrible thing for you and your kids to deal with!

In my family, we handle Santa and the Easter Bunny indirectly. I put out easter baskets, and say the easter bunny put them out, but the older kids (10 and 17) know its me. I don't try to "lie" to them, or make them believe after they figure it out, but I don't try to end the magic too soon, either. The 6 year old is starting to question Santa.

When he does, I turn it back to him and ask if he believes in Santa. Basically, I neither confirm or deny it! LOL! I think you should have a talk with your 8 y/o, and let him know you have been thinking about when he asked you if the Easter Bunny was real. Let him know that you love him, and want him to always feel he can talk to you. Ask if he believes in the Easter Bunny. If his answer shows he is ready to stop believing, let him know that although a real bunny isn't bringing easter gifts, it is a spirit that adults use to show their love for kids.

Also let him know that each kid in the family has to figure it out themselves. Let him know that he does not need to lie about the easter bunny, but just to play along with the secret.

It is also ok for you to tell him that you still think of him as a little boy, and to see him growing up and maturing so quickly can be unsettling for you, but that you are proud of him.
 

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So sorry you are going through this, but I have to say, I know what you feel. (well kinda) After losing my dad, it is hard to get through every first holiday without him, and well....all of them actually(even today was hard for us) My brother had his wedding planned for the week my dad passed away and he still ended up going thru with it, because dad would of wanted us to, he was with us~we know he was. Just remember that hes with you guys every day, in spirit. And if you ever wanna talk,. please feel free to PM me~I will be here.
 

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Jenny I've just started reading this thread and I'm so sorry for how you're feeling. Not only do you have to cope with your own personal grief at losing your partner, and your love, but you have to deal with the confusion and grief of your children, too.

I cannot fathom the pain and difficulties you must be going through. I truly believe that anyone who has children at all faces some life-changing challenges and obstacles, but that someone who has additional hardship to endure must have a very, very tough time.

I don't really have any advice that I feel would be useful to you, as I don't have the slightest idea what it must feel like to be you at the moment, but I can say that the fact that you are searching for answers, and help, and advice, must mean that you are a very committed, loving and dedicated parent. Your children and you will band together, and become such a strong unit, because of your open and loving attitude.

I can't say I don't think there will be many more lonely, sad and difficult times for you as your children grow, and you feel more keenly the loss of your husband, but I CAN say for sure that you will just grow stronger, and more understanding, and more compassionate, and more experienced, and that you will overcome the hurdles that seem insurmountable when they arrive, just as you will overcome this one.

My heart goes out to you, and my thoughts and best wishes, and I hope that you and your children find comfort in one another, to help you through your grief and sadness, and that each day the loving memory of your husband and their father will bring you a smile.

 

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I don't know what to say. I am so very sorry you have to go through this.
I pray that God gives you comfort, strength, and when you are ready happiness.
 

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I read your story a little late, as i just ran into this post...but i just wanted to let you know that i will keep you in my prayers. You seem like such a strong woman. i know if my mom raised all 2 of my sisters and I on her own...you can definitely do it! You already seem like you're managing things quite well with your boys...even setting up an easter egg hunt! - so there you go, you're doing better than you think. Keep your chin up and take comfort in the fact that all your friends at TCS love you very much!!! And let Skittles cheer you up too- my kitties are the best when i go through a rough day and need someone to talk to or a furry head to cry on. best of wishes. Your husband may not physically be with you- but i'm sure he is looking down on you and your boys, and smiling on you, he'd be proud of how great your family is doing!
 
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Thank you very much. I appreciate everyone here. My kids go to school and it is just me at home. I have not gone back to teach yet. I occupied my time here and thinking of ways to make my house feel not so cluttered.
 

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Hi there,

I've been reading all your posts with interest lately - I hope you don't mind me asking but how long ago did your husband pass?

I know losing my Grandad was the hardest thing I've everhad to get through I can't imagine losing someone as close as a life partner

We're always here for you
 
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no not poor I still have him watching and my kids,, Then my animals.
 
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I will confess if it wasn't for my kids I am not sure I would be here. They have given me life. They love me and show me why am needed.
 

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Hey, I just read your thread, I wish that I was here to offer some support last weekend, but I do hope you are feeling a bit better now. I think you are a great mom, and a wonderful person just from exchanging words here on this site with you. It is very obvious that you are a caring person and a loving parent. I'm sorry that you have to deal with such loss but I believe you will feel stronger as time passes. You may not feel that way now but you ARE strong! Time will help heal your sorrow. He will always be with you in spirit and memories as well as your children. many warm
 
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