I am feeling very lonely and sad.

Well as everyone knows hubby is gone. This is the first Easter without him. He always did the baskets and hide the eggs. I have felt to off today and am afraid it will be a mess tomorrow. My middle son just turned 8 and said mom do you believe in the Easter bunny I said YES. He said will you be mad if I don't. I said no, but at the same time I felt alone. I always imagined we would go through this stuff together as a team. I have no clue how to explain this sort of stuff to him. At the funeral I could not even explain to them why there dad was in the casket and they could not see him. I am feeling very stupid right now at parenting.

I'm so sorry you have to go through everything feeling alone. But you're not alone, you have 3 wonderful boys who love you with all their heart, and as long as they know you love them too, everything will be fine in time. I'm sure you're doing a wonderful job!

I am OK with them and going on just those ? I have no clue how to answer. Do I tell them the truth or let them still believe. I just don't want Dakoda to think I lied to him.

I'm so very sorry. You are such a strong woman and I know you can pull through for yourself and your children. Start a new tradition. Have them hide the baskets for each other or something, or go out to eat, or anything. Have a good Easter, even though it will be painful. That's okay. It's okay for it to hurt. Don't feel lonely, we're all here for you and I'm sure there are many people who love you.

We posted at the same time. Sorry. You are not a stupid parent. At all. I speak more as a child than as a parent, and you are doing your best. And your best, from what I know, is pretty da*n good. Tell them the truth as you know it. My dad told me when I asked about Santa that Santa, the guy who comes down the chimney and delivers presents, was not real, but that the spirit of giving that Santa represents is real and is part of all of us. As for death, well, there's really no good way to explain it. Not even to adults. It's just something we all come to terms with at some point in our lives. Why not go visit your husband for Easter? The point of Easter is the new beginning for mankind, so why not make it a new beginning for your family? It doesn't mean being in denial or even leaving him behind or forgetting him. It means, hey, things are different now, so let's acknowledge that and make it work.

I'm so sorry you're feeling this way. My Mom told me exactly what Zissou'sMom's dad told her, about the spirit being real although the reality is there isn't a bunny hopping around or a chubby guy jumping down chimneys.

I hope you feel better soon and your easter is wonderful. By the way, your son's name is almost the same as mine... except I spell mine with a t instead of a d.

I'm so sorry... it must be hard. I'd take Zissou's advice and talk to your kids about what Easter is supposed to mean and how there isn't really any Easter bunnies, but I have no idea how to go about explaining their father's passing.

Stay strong and enjoy the holiday!

We got the father passing thing already. His uncle explained it at the funerl. I was just saying I felt dumb then because I could not do it. He did it with my ok to. Just Easter Bunny now.

sending lots of /// You are doing the best u can and remember your husband is watching and guiding ( at least that is what I believe)

Thank you ......

I'm sorry you are going through this Seems like such a shame to tell them easter bunny isn't real on top of dealing with the first easter without their daddy.

They finally went to sleep. Lets hope I do not get asked again.

Parenting (well doing it properly anyway as you seem to be doing) is a hard job. It's hard enough when there are two parents around to share the load, I can't imagine how difficult it must be for you trying to cope with sadness and parenting alone.

But, it's also rewarding, one of the most rewarding things I can imagine. My two children have grown through the difficult questions stage, they are now 27 and 19. But I always found (and this may be just our approach) that answering them as honestly and openly as we could was the best approach - they always appreciated that and it meant that we were able to communicate.

We too always explained that Santa was a spirit that lives in us all rather than an actual guy that came down the chimney and was a spirit of loving and giving.

This has been long and rambling but as said before, your boys will appreciate that you are loving them with all your might and offering them love and protection. Those difficult questions are great, it means that your boys are willing to open up to you about those things that they are puzzled or worried about. That is such a precious part of the relationship that you have

As an afterthought, you could ask the boys what they would like to do about Easter from now on. Would they like to carry on as they did before or would they like to keep that for their time with their Dad and celebrate the day slightly differently instead.

Good luck and big hugs to you

Jenny I am so sorry this is so hard for you. **hugs**
You are such a strong person and you will get through this with your boys. All the 'firsts' are going to be painful but, as a family, you will get through them.
Do you visit your husbands grave? If you need a bit of support, why don't you take the kids there today? Then you are spending a little bit of it with their Daddy.
I don't have advice on the easter bunny thing as I think as a kid I just figured it out for myself.
I'm sending you calming and strength vibes today.

I'm sorry that you have had to go through all you've had to go through, and special times of year don't make it any better. From the way it sounds to me you are being so incredibly strong!, I don't know if I would have your strength, just from reading your posts, I can tell you are a very caring and loving mom. I'm sending you lots of prayers and hugs to help you get through the weekend

This just brought a tear to my eye.
I am so sorry for your loss and i know it must be terribly hard to raise 3 kids alone

********HUGS********

My heart is with you today Jenny. I am hoping for a strikingly beautiful day and many oppurtunities to genuinely smile come your way. I know you have a deep well of strength that comes with being a mom, you just have to draw on that everynow and then. We love you! Have fun with the Easter bunny thing!

well momof 3rugrats i know what u are goin thought cause this is my first easter with out my other half and he has had my 2 children over the weekend

We made it and things are going well. Everyone is doing great. The weird thing is my middle son the 8 yr old is the one who knows about the bunny LOL and the other 2 don't. Also I hid the baskets really high like 8 ft in the air. 1 cause of our pets and 2 to make them feel like dad did it again. He was 6'7 am 5'2 he always did it

I don't have anything to add other than to say that my thoughts are with you and I'm glad to hear that you and your children are doing well.