I'm getting married next year (yey!) but am not "formally engaged" yet... that is, I don't have the e-ring because my guy can't afford it. (I've had a promise ring for a while.) So we set the date, and are waiting till I graduate (in 4 weeks) to really start planning. (I'm suspecting I'll see a ring at some point soon too.)
The thing is, I'm excited! And so I think about it and come up with ideas and what not....
First off, my family didn't take me seriously. It was really awkward trying to talk about anything wedding-related. I finally started to get that straightened out, but now the ideas that I come up with are really not receiving much, uh, support. I know they're a little wacky and off the wall but... okay, I'd probably say what I mean here. Both the fh and I are untraditional people. We want to have FUN at the wedding and ceremony (like having Toulouse as the ring-bearer and the GM with a can of food at the end of the asle
). Originally we wanted to go with a medieval theme and had lots of ideas, but I was getting less and less happy with it because I was looking for something more... elf-like and fantasy. So we changed the theme to "Enchanted Forest".... I want to create a small "forest" with silk trees and christmas lights and have little gnomes, fairies and butterflies peeking out.
Here's the kicker. I'm also considering wearing fairy wings. NOT halloween... think Ever After. Something like this http://i7.ebayimg.com/01/i/06/3e/e4/99_1.JPG . One family member's first reaction was the wings are symbolic of "being free/flying away" which apparently doesn't apply to weddings. When I told her that I didn't think people would really think that (I DO think they'll probably be a bit taken aback at first) she assured me that any logical person would think so. Then tonight, another future family member also told me that I'd change my mind. Both offered their own version of how I should look. Funny, neither of these people are my Mom. SHE's been great... I just didn't expect it from these other people. I might change my mind... but I want to do it myself!!!!
Anyway, thanks for reading my rant. I guess I'm looking for advice on how to handle these people without hurting their feelings. They are both very, ah, sure about their vision, and I want to be able to include them without having to completely change how I want to go about things.
The thing is, I'm excited! And so I think about it and come up with ideas and what not....
First off, my family didn't take me seriously. It was really awkward trying to talk about anything wedding-related. I finally started to get that straightened out, but now the ideas that I come up with are really not receiving much, uh, support. I know they're a little wacky and off the wall but... okay, I'd probably say what I mean here. Both the fh and I are untraditional people. We want to have FUN at the wedding and ceremony (like having Toulouse as the ring-bearer and the GM with a can of food at the end of the asle
Here's the kicker. I'm also considering wearing fairy wings. NOT halloween... think Ever After. Something like this http://i7.ebayimg.com/01/i/06/3e/e4/99_1.JPG . One family member's first reaction was the wings are symbolic of "being free/flying away" which apparently doesn't apply to weddings. When I told her that I didn't think people would really think that (I DO think they'll probably be a bit taken aback at first) she assured me that any logical person would think so. Then tonight, another future family member also told me that I'd change my mind. Both offered their own version of how I should look. Funny, neither of these people are my Mom. SHE's been great... I just didn't expect it from these other people. I might change my mind... but I want to do it myself!!!!
Anyway, thanks for reading my rant. I guess I'm looking for advice on how to handle these people without hurting their feelings. They are both very, ah, sure about their vision, and I want to be able to include them without having to completely change how I want to go about things.
