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A very BAD Friday and I need your prayers/vibes please!

post #1 of 67
Thread Starter 
Hi everyone,

Well, I'll know on Monday whether or not I'm being a) fired or b) forced to resign. Long story short, I did something to help a client (a domestic violence survivor) and apparently I violated an Army reg that I didn't even know about. So my best of intentions ticked off some powerful people and my boss (I work for a private company that contrats for the Department of Defense) told me this morning that I need to "start making preparations for the worst."

What I've learned working for the military is that the things that I could do for a client in the civilian world that would get me medals and awards will apparently get you fired in the military world. Go figure.

Anyway, this looks like the end of my work as a victim advocate for the military and it's very bittersweet. I've wanted to quit for some time because of MANY issues (being on-call every other week, horrible leadership, moral objections to some of the policies, to name a few) and I've been looking for other jobs for a while now. It just angers me so much that, instead of having the luxury of quitting on my own terms, I may be fired because, quite simply, I told a client something that the military did not want her to hear. I do not regret my actions one bit, but I am very angry AND very sad that it's ending this way.

So thanks for reading this far. Any vibes or prayers you can spare for me for the coming days would be greatly appreciated. Thanks so much guys.
post #2 of 67
I am so sorry amy!
I know how much you love this work, i hope you will find something similar but better management!

Sending lots of vibes
post #3 of 67
Oh Amy!!, I'm so sorry to hear what's happened. I know that you would have had your clients best interests at heart, and that's what you must be proud of yourself for. I believe everything happens for a reason, and I know that everything will work out for the best for you in the end.
post #4 of 67
Thread Starter 
Thank you so much Fran and Tracy . That means the world to me.
Tracy, I agree with you that things happen for a reason and that it should work out in the end. Fortunately, I have enough saved up to get by without working for about two months. On top of that, I should receive severence pay and, after that, possibly unemployment. I also have some other savings (that I was using for a house downpayment) that, if I should have to dip into them, could get me by for another 2-3 months or so.
I think it's just the principal of the matter that has me so down and upset.
Anywho, thanks y'all, you're the best!
post #5 of 67
Oh, Amy, I'm so sorry to hear this. I know how much your work means to you and the compassion that you bring to it. I also know how the Army operates, so for what it's worth, I'm so proud of you for doing what was best for your client and sticking to your principles. As the saying goes, "When God closes one door, he opens another." I really believe that and know that things will work out for you. If you do end up having to find another job, that organization will be so lucky to have someone with your gifts. Sending many prayers your way!
post #6 of 67
Amy I am so sorry to hear that. I too work for a private contractor for the military and it is a very touchy buisness. Hopefully they will know that you were only trying to help and meant no harm.
post #7 of 67
If I remember right Amy, you were in a similar situation last year, and that ended up turning out OK. I am sending many vibes that this one does also.
post #8 of 67
Amy, that's so not right. But that's beurocracy, in all it's shameful glory. I'm sorry this is happening to you. You've been a positive light on that base for the survivors who need you. I have no doubt that whatever happens, you will be able to assist those who need assistance.

I do firmly believe that everything happens for a reason and for a greater good. You must be needed elsewhere...
post #9 of 67
Amy, I hope you feel good about yourself for doing the right thing. I hope in the end something wonderful happens from this for you.

Keep you chin up and know we are all behind you.
post #10 of 67
Thread Starter 
Hi all....thank you all so much for the support and encouragement. I know that it is definitely time to part ways with this job and that God has something else in mind for me.
Your support means the world to me right now .
post #11 of 67
That is ridiulous that they should treat you like that after all the good you do in what must be the most heart wrenching job ever! I hope things work out for you, and you find something in a place that appreciates you.
post #12 of 67
Amy, I cannot believe they are doing this to you! Thats definately NOT right -only considering you had that ladies best interest at heart!

I hope that everything turns out okay, keep your chin up. There has to be something out there for you better than this!

post #13 of 67
I'm sorry to hear this, Amy. You sounds like you would regret not handling it the way that you did. The good thing is that you believe you handled the matter the only way should have been handled. I'm sorry they don't agree. If change is in the cards for you, remember it all happens for a reason.
post #14 of 67
I'm sorry that you're being punished for helping a victim of violence. That's just not right. At least you stood by your principles and know you did the right thing.
Good luck in finding a better job.
post #15 of 67
Amy, The Army can't break you down like the can with the enlisted, so... This really is wrong. You WILL find a job where you are appreciated. You WILL still be an advocate and you WILL still be helping people. The victims you have been working with will lose out...all because of someone's power trip.
post #16 of 67
Originally Posted by pushylady
I'm sorry that you're being punished for helping a victim of violence. That's just not right. At least you stood by your principles and know you did the right thing.
Good luck in finding a better job.
All of the above, Amy.
post #17 of 67
Thread Starter 
Thank you so much everyone . Reading these messages got me crying all over again....I am so touched and overwhelmed by your kind words.

Yes, I still stand 100% behind what I did for the past almost two years in that job. I gave it 200% and feel so bad that I'll be leaving clients hanging. No matter where life leads me, though, I will always be an advocate.
post #18 of 67
I wish the best for you Amy. I think you need to do what feels right in your heart.
post #19 of 67
I'm so sorry to hear that this is how you're being rewarded for your best intentions. Sounds to me like it will definately be their loss, not yours if they fire you. Many thoughts and prayers coming your way.
post #20 of 67
Amy, I think that if in your heart you did the right thing then you can rest easy. It might not be the way that you want to leave this job but you were there for the victim and that is what makes you a good person. Sometimes ethics are really iffy... expeically with the military. Conduct shmonduct. If you were able to make a difference in some of these peoples lives then you served your purpose. Sometimes doing the right thing makes people upset. If you feel that you did right by this spouse then you did.

If you want to vent more about the military I'm only a PM away.
post #21 of 67
I am so sorry about your situation

I don't know all of the details, but it doesn't sound right.

Hopefully something much better will come your way. I hope you are able to have an enjoyable weekend - and this doesn't weight too heavily on you.
post #22 of 67
Oh Amy - there are so many people out there that really need you and they do this? That really irritates me to no end, you do all that work and it gets thrown back in your face.

I am thinking of you and hoping for the best - and if worst comes to worst, I hope you find a place to work and help those people that suits you a whole lot better.
post #23 of 67
Oh my! I don't know what to say, but there is something waiting for you out there! Consider this position a stepping stone to something better!
post #24 of 67
Amy, I agree with the others that something greater must be in store for you - somewhere else, you are needed and my {{{prayers and vibes}}} are that you get to find out where very very soon. I am also praying that the clients you leave behind will find help, and even Divine Intervention, if need be. We are all so proud of you for assuming the risks and doing the right thing!!
post #25 of 67
Amy I hope you have a great Sat and a awsome Easter Sunday.
post #26 of 67
I'm so sorry about what happened. I'm praying that something better comes your way,
post #27 of 67
Gosh, Amy....my heart is breaking for you right now. You shouldn't be punished for doing the right thing. I'm so sorry! I know bigger and better things lie in the future for you. It's just horrible that things have to end like this for you and that job. PM me anytimeif you need to talk.... I just really hate that you are going through this right now. You're too wonderful and caring to have to endure this.
post #28 of 67
In a way, you are going out on your own terms. You followed your heart and your moral compass. You did the job you were hired for, and you advocated for the victim. It seems that they want a puppet to toe the line. So much the worse for them. You stuck by your morals, so in that you should be proud!
post #29 of 67
Oh no, Amy! I can't believe it's going to end so badly for you! I'm really sorry you're getting put in such a negative light trying to help people. You don't deserve it.
post #30 of 67
I am so sorry it hasnt worked out, but some things are not meant to be and it sounds as if you did the right thing in moral terms at least. Just a thought - some countries/places, you don't get the same benefits if you resign as you do if fired/made redundant. Make sure you are not cornered into doing something that will lose you unemployment pay/ social benefits. Good luck.
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